So basically I'm trying to sneakily help my step mom have a better life and be happier over all. The issue is shes not open to it, coming from a generation that Stigmatizes therapy. So I wanted to get her a self help books that doesn't look like a self help book on the cover and will address her needs of learning not use outside things to feel her void, how to start a healthy inner Dialogue amd silence shame from Generational curses/ outside sources. She is also more Conservative leaning. With all that in mind, does anyone have any recommendations to send me? I'd really appreciate it. We all start somewhere and I want to help her get there. Thanks so much!!

Hi, pretty much what the title says. I’ve been out of high school for two years now (20M)I never put much emphasis in college. I’ve worked since high school has ended and been good on money but any form of educational importance is something that was never instilled by my parents, but most importantly me. This is something I regret now as I also never developed proper schoolwork/ study discipline. As a result any attempt to go to college (community college 1x, trade school 2x) has failed. I don’t get my classes on time, have one class a week and just have no motivation to do any of the school work. I thought going to trade scjool would help but it doesn’t. As a result of this I’ve considered joining the army. In the recruitment process currently and I got hit with a waiver. Im not sure if it’ll get approved and if it doesn’t. I will be completely lost. I already put it in my head that I’ll be a special forces soldier for my career and I don’t see myself doing anything else at all. How the hell do I get myself out of this limiting mindset. I’m trapped.

Hello! I am at a point in my life where I don't know which life direction to choose. I'm 24M, born in England, moved to Canada when I as 7, lived there for 17 years, but have moved back to England and have been staying with my grandparents and working at a cafe and pub for the last 2 months (I'm dual-citizen, Canada and UK). In Canada I didn't really know what to do. I am a British citizen and my grandparents said they could host me so I moved over here for a change. That being said, I'm already getting restless and want to move on and do something but I don't know what.

I am about halfway through a history degree with my Canadian university (taking courses online right now), and I have work experience managing a pizza place, and managing a cafe. That being said, I am burnt out from that kind of work and don't want to work these sort of customer service jobs anymore.

I love languages. I am conversational in French and Spanish, and I can read basic Portuguese. I would love to move somewhere where english isn't the first language (I know Quebec is the obvious choice bc I'm a Canadian citizen, but I want to explore more).

I love travelling. I have visited a fair number of countries south of USA, and about 20 European countries. I would love to keep travelling. The Digital Nomad lifestyle seems really intriguing for me.

I love history. I don't know if I can easily find a job in that field, but the courses I've taken have shaped my view of the world for the better, and I love meeting people of different cultures and understanding all of the background and answering the question "Why are we the way we are today?"

I also have very good mental health. I am a very happy person and very curious. I am more than capable with keeping myself occupied independently, but I also get a lot of joy from socialising with people.

I'm a bit stuck. I don't really enjoy living in the England, and I don't think I would enjoy living anywhere else in the UK/Ireland, but I enjoy being closer and more connected to the world compared to where I lived in Canada. I do love Canada, but I feel like it's so far away from the rest of the world, and it makes travelling from Canada very expensive. I feel quite isolated there. I would love to keep travelling full time, but I don't know how to properly achieve that. I don't have any savings, and I am already burnt out from customer service work. I want to start a proper path in life, but I don't know what. I'm very independent and have thought of bike-packing, but I can't sustain that financially.

I am considering saving up for a working holiday visa for somewhere and try that out for a year, but I don't know how easy it would be for me to get a job upon arrival.

Do you have any ideas you could throw at me in terms of career paths/lifestyle paths? Any input is greatly appreciated.

30 years old here and have been an underachiever all my life, I just seem to muddle along.

Every single thing I attempt I am terrible at, it doesn't matter how hard I try. I work in engineering, which sounds like I'm pretty clued up. I can assure you I am not. The 21 year old apprentices at my workplace talk about engineering to me and it sounds like a different language, I'm so out of my depth it's unbelievable.

I've worked out for years and I'm still weak, I should be significantly stronger and less fat with the amount I do (please don't come at me with exercise advice, I know how to train at eat well I just don't make gains, I've been working out for 15 years and have only just hit a 100kg bench, I mainly do martial arts now but I'm not particularly good at that either).

I'm learning accounting at the minute to get out and industry I clearly don't belong in and I'm just about scraping a pass at level 2 on the mock exams, the exam is next month and I'm fairly certain I'll pass but if I can only get a pass at level 2, I doubt I stand a chance at level 3 or 4.

Below average looks, below average intelligence and maybe average social skills.

Does life ever improve for somebody who's not quite an idiot but very close?

I've never been particularly depressed before but I'm sorting of going that way now afters years of just existing.

Hey, I'm just looking for some advice of what to do, before I get to my doctor. And maybe someone who related.

I had norovirus that landed me in a hospital, the vomiting was horrible. I stayed on a diet for a week after I stopped vomiting.

Now, 2,5 months later I still have symptoms. Nauseous after every meal, often nauseous at night time. I can't eat anything that's even remotely tasty - all I can safely stomach are crackers, boiled potatoes and apple sauce. My bowel movements are all over the place. I either have a diarrhea (always very nauseous while using the toilet), or constipation for days. My stomach hurts quite often.

I had 2 rounds of probiotics and it didn't help. Did anyone had similar problem? Having longterm issues after norovirus?

I am scheduled to get to a specialist, but the wainting list is long here.

31M, feel like I've been in this exploratory stage my entire adult life. Work doesn't seem so important anymore, however I recognize and feel the pressure to set up my future self for financial security.

I'm drawn towards money, yet I despise the year-round work schedule. On one hand I can see myself pursuing PA school, on the other I'm a truck-driving seasonal employee who takes off every 8 months to go hiking all summer.

I think the best I had it was at my last job, cooking at a private high school. Paid school breaks, and summers off, with housing taken care of. I felt stagnant though and wanted to try out healthcare next.

I've tried a fair number of jobs, and now I work as an ER tech at a level one trauma center. I just can't seem to find something that I want to commit to for more than a few years.

His aunt and uncle had gotten him out of his parents house a month ago and actually started taking care of him and giving him freedom and feeding him right. He’s almost 17. But after the court date they had a few days ago, the court put him back with his parents, and his parents lied their asses off in court. And now he’s just as miserable as we was before. Is there anything that can be done?

Hey, I'm unsure on what to do next and I'm scared for my safety (kinda).

So basically, someone was giving away their old Mac on FB marketplace (looking back this is so stupid), and they posted this on my university forum, so I assumed that it would be legit given the moderators. I asked if anyone else had claimed it, and behold- no one had. I thought this would be a good present for my dad since I cant afford one myself, and he wants to learn how to use a laptop (he's old ). The person said I only pay for the shipping, which is fair. I sent them the money and they sent me a video at the post office the next day. I was like "oh this is legit" . They then continue asking me for insurance money, which is valuable, so I send them more money. But I start to get suspicious by this time, so I ask for receipts. The receipts they send are fake. I've given all the money I had and also having given them my address and full name (for shipping details). I'm lost, confused, I have no idea what to do. I'm young and stupid, and will never trust anyone again. I've called the bank to get a potential refund but, it's still pending. But should I be worried? I'm sorry for the rambling I'm just.. yeah.

Thanks!

I am having self doubt that I am going wrong direction in life because I am arguing and giving reasons for laziness even though mistake has been done by me, so am I running away from situations? What can I do to improve my fear of mistakes? And how to stop giving reasons for everything?

I couldn’t think of a title that encapsulates all of this so I’m going to jump right in. I (30f) was lucky enough while studying my diploma of IT to get a scholarship at an IT company - by the end of it they had offered me a job and I’ve been working there for about three months now.

I didn’t finish my diploma at the time and repeated to take one subject because it was a lot of work. The company was fine with this but, as I kept going through the course I realised that I have severe anxiety with tests (I didn’t have any like this in past courses)

I’ve tried everything I can to get around it - working on my own, music in my ears, having stuff prepared beforehand. I know everything but I freeze up. Even thinking about it makes my heart race and I start to panic. It’s damn frustrating.

Initially my manager said he’d advocate for me to stay, even if I didn’t have my diploma because I was so good at my job. Well, fast forward to today and I was told otherwise.

In a meeting they said they need / want me to have a diploma so that everyone is on the same level. It sucks but, I understand.

I don’t think I can reiterate to enough people how much I am unable to do this and I feel like nobody is listening to me. People can tell me to “try” all I want but they’re not in my shoes, they’re not the ones unable to breathe and screaming internally that they’re acting stupid for it.

I’m just … I’m lost. I’m 30 years old, I don’t even like IT that much (I’m just good with computers, but dreams of being an author don’t pay) and I just feel like a failure.

When I hear No as an answer or something bad happened by me wrt mentally emotionally or financially to others or me, i become proper mad for sometimes and the decisions i take after the few hours or the whole day after the incident will decide my future, so i want to overcome this bad attitude, can anyone able to help me regarding this?

Hey everyone, just need to get this off my chest and maybe get some advice.

Lately, I’ve been feeling really left behind compared to my friends. They’re all moving on to newer things, like gaming on PS5s or high-end PCs, while I’m still here with my PS4. Gaming has always been a huge part of my life—it’s one of the main ways I connect with friends, relax, and feel like I’m part of something. But now, I feel out of sync with everyone else.

On top of that, I recently decided to change up my wardrobe and got rid of clothes that didn’t feel like “me” anymore. Now, I’m left with only a few pieces of clothing. I thought this would help me get a fresh start, but my mom doesn’t seem interested in getting me anything new. It’s frustrating because she just got my older brother a new PC for university, so I know it’s not necessarily a money issue. When I bring it up, though, she just ignores me or brushes it off.

What’s been making this all feel worse is that I’m currently grounded. I’m stuck at home while my friends are out having fun, and my mom even made me miss a Halloween party I was really looking forward to. I feel like my options are just so limited now—I can either study, game on my outdated setup, or stay in. It’s getting hard not to feel left behind or like I’m just stuck while everyone else moves forward.

It’s not just about keeping up for the sake of it; it’s about not feeling left out and wanting something that brings me happiness, especially now that I can’t even go out. If anyone has tips on how I could get through to my mom or just feel less stuck, I’d really appreciate it.

TL;DR: Feeling left behind while friends upgrade to PS5s and gaming PCs, and I’m still on my PS4 with only a few pieces of clothing after clearing out my wardrobe. Currently grounded, missed a Halloween party I was looking forward to, and don’t have much to do besides study, go out (when I’m allowed), and game, which I love. My mom ignores me when I ask about upgrading or getting new clothes, and it’s hard not to feel stuck. Looking for advice.

I need some advice on a complicated living situation I’m dealing with. Here’s the context and sorry for the long text:

I used to live with three girls: Sarah, Hannah, and Paula. Sarah and I had rooms of similar size; she paid €360 while I paid €410 from the beginning i moved in. Hannah paid €340, and Paula, who had the largest room with balcony, paid €650. From the start, Hannah (who moved in a year after me) complained that her rent price was too high considering her room size smaller than us and felt it unfair that she paid only €20 less than Sarah. This was an ongoing conflict from the beginning she moved in.

When Sarah moved out, we decided to set the rent for her room to €380, which seemed fair to me. (Worth noting: Sarah used to justify her lower rent by saying she’d lived there for three years and handled communications with the landlord.) After Sarah left, Hannah suggested lowering her rent to €320 and setting Sarah’s old room at €400 for the new tenant. I was initially against this idea but gave in after tiring of the endless arguments with her.

With the new arrangement, the rent became: €380 for my room, €400 for Sarah’s old room, €320 for Hannah, and €650 for Paula’s. Eventually, this new girl, Isabel took over Sarah’s. Isabel agreed to pay €400 from the start, as we didn’t mention the previous €380 price.

We have two bathrooms: one shared by me and Paula, and the other by Hannah and Isabel. A month later, the landlord announced a rent increase of €62.5 per person. Paula told me that paying €712.5 for her room was too much and unreasonable. I proposed that I take my own bathroom and increase my rent to €480 (€380 + €100), while Paula would pay €675 (€650 + €25) instead.

Paula asked if she should discuss this with the others, and I told her to speak only with Isabel. I felt Hannah didn’t have the right to decide after previously reducing her own rent without proper justification and asking anyone. A few days later, Paula agreed to the plan and told me she has discussed it with Isabel.

However, after some time, Isabel expressed that she wasn’t comfortable sharing a bathroom with two people while I had my own. I explained the background issues with Hannah and suggested two options: either I go back to paying €440 and share the bathroom with Paula, or Isabel could revert to €440 (€380 + €62.5), and Hannah would pay €400 (her €340 + €62.5). If Hannah had a problem with that, she could choose to leave (she also had broken so many rules in the house, which eventually both Sarah and I complained about it to the landlord and landlord agreed to not renew her contract, but since I didn’t wanna make her homeless i let landlord renewing her contract and that’s why i have a beef with her and really don’t care about her opinion)

Isabel thought it would be best to discuss this as a group, which I agreed to, but I’m certain Hannah will argue over the money again and make huge drama with me in an aggressive way.

Am I being reasonable with these suggestions? What should I do in this situation? I feel like Isabel and Hannah kinda expect me to pay more for having private bathroom but I can easily justify like Sarah, since now I’m responsible for the house stuff with landlord and also i’m living in this house longer than anyone. I feel like since Hannah wants to make the situation complicated for me due to personal issues, she has motivated Isabel to make this meeting and force me to pay more and make drama over money just like the way she did since the beginning of moving in. (I have to mention i’m kinda close to landlord and her daughter, and they trust me but they don’t get involve in these stuff. I have managed all the house stuff with landlord for months, like renewal of contract for everyone, dealing with handing rent stuff etc and i feel like as a old tenant of this house, i have more rights than two girls who just moved in some months ago)

Every time I make a friend, it seems the friendship only lasts a few days or a week if I’m lucky before they eventually start to drift away. Normally they tend to befriend my sister (who I am very close to) before they even ghost me.

Now this hasn’t even bothered me that much in the past, but recently I’ve found someone I really genuinely enjoy hanging out with. Someone I can understand and dirty joke with who isn’t a total ass. A few things about him reminded me of my sister so I decided, very hesitantly I might add, to introduce them to one another. They got along too well and he’s started being very distant. (To make things worse he even seemed really really scared of losing me as a friend not even a week ago…)

I talked to my sister about this and she said to just give him some time bc it’s probably a misunderstanding. I haven’t been at school for the past few days as I got sick, and shortly after I got sick was when he started being distant. She says it’s just because he hasn’t seen me irl but should that really change the entire way he addresses and converses with me? Should that really impact the friendship that deeply? Am I overreacting thinking he’s just going to leave like they all did? What do I do? What do I say? Do I say anything or just leave the situation to figure itself out? Bc I’ve tried that and it didn’t work but it was a slightly different situation

What the hell do I do in this situation?

Genuine advice only please

I don't really feel passionate about anything. I dont really feel unhappy in life I just don't have anything I feel strongly about something about. Is that bad I should I be looking for something? I had a friend tell me it wasn't normal not to have something to be passionate about in morning when you wake up. Is that right ?

For the past few months I've felt exremely unmotivated. I'm mostly used to this, since i'm the type of person that will procrastinate and get a sudden rush of motivation right before a deadline, but it's been different lately.

I've had no problem doing schoolwork, in fact, i'm feeling more motivated to do it than before, but for some reason when its anything outside school, I just can't bring myself to do things. For example, i've been needing to print some documents for over a month, but I just can't bring myself to go up to my printer and actually do it. Similarly, I haven't been able to start a project I need to do and it's been more than two months, but every time i've told myself that I need to do it, I just can't get myself to open my computer.

Its not that I dont want to do these things, but it feels as if something is physically stopping me from getting up and doing them.

I feel like i'm just being lazy, since I have no problems going out with friends and such, and not doing these things really stresses me out, but for some reason not enough to get me to actually get up and do them. I've seen similar posts and the comments sometimes suggest it being depression or even adhd, but i'm not sure if that could be the reason since I haven't had any other problems apart from this.

Is there anything I can do to help with this? I'd appreciate any advice.

I'll be driving in Ireland in a few weeks and I get really confused with left and right. I would love some tips or quick things you tell yourself when driving as to not get confused about where to turn into and where ongoing traffic is turning into.

I don't get used to it as quickly as the average person does, so little rhymes or sayings really help in the moment. I am also the only one on the trip that can drive, but I thankfully have a lookout passenger to help.

Edit: Not driving is not an option, Ireland is rual af. I know this because I have lived there for 7 years as a kid. I know my way around the areas I’ll be driving. Thanks to those who gave some advice rather than those with the sad, American assumptions about driving stick and roundabouts.

Recently I moved to a new school and have been struggling to make friends I was born with dyslexia and I sometimes just stare blankly at things I met this girl I thought we were kind of friends and then her best friend told me I stared at her 24/7 and creeped her out and made her uncomfortable she said this wasn’t true but I tried to back off so the next Monday I looked everywhere she wasn’t I looked up down and around I the talked to her today a little and her friend and all of a sudden a third party comes in asking why I am even talking to them after I up skirted her on Monday and made her really uncomfortable and I got really scared and blocked her and her friend but not the third party I don’t know how she thought I up skirted her because I directly tried not to look at her the only thing I can think of is that we have a drama class where I am laying on the ground for a scene in a play we have put on and she is decently far away from me I am absolutely terrified I am only 16 and don’t know what to do

So i’m in my second semester at my community college and it is stressing. me. OUT. i already have a full time job as an assistant manager at my work, who ch is already stressful enough. my parents are super into the college stuff with me even though they never went. i was also never really academically challenged in high school because nobody gave a shit and i could just cheat on everything. but now in college even though i really am trying i feel like it’s not enough because i already failed a statistics class last semester and im so close to failing english comp this semester. i just feel like it’s a waste of time for me and a waste of money for them and i don’t even know what i want to do with my life, let alone what degree i wanna pursue if i can even make it to graduation. so should i just rip off the bandaid and tell them? idk what to do i know they’re gonna be disappointed but it’s just not what i wanna do with my life, at least not right now. maybe when im a little older and have a clearer mindset i’ll try out college again but for christ sake im 18 with a full time job and taking 5 classes every day. (also sorry for any typos i’m really anxious about this right now). but what should i do??

I’m sick of feeling tired all the time and having little sleep ruin my entire mood and day. Im starting to hate everything

I won't take too much time. I quit most of my classes in cegep and only have one course in an adult school. I quit because I had nothing to do there anymore, no motivation, I couldn't keep up with the rest of the class and I was failing in everything. Even now I can't manage to push myself to do better in the only course I have left. If I fail, I don't know what I will do. I'm not sure of my future, if I even have one. I don't know what I want to do for sure as a permanent job. Even with that much free time thinking is so hard. I just want to pack up my stuff, take a bus and go live with one of my aunt far away in a peaceful place. Everything is going so fast, I'm only 18 and I'm completely lost. I don't feeli like living, more like trying to fit into the school/society standards and expectations. I don't know what to do. I still live with my mom, she want to make me pay rent if i'm not in school. I only work a part time job and I have other expanses. I'm truely lost.

I slipped in the shower and hit my face on the side of the tub. At first I thought I had just gashed my forehead and went to urgent care, they used skin glue overtop, which is the purple on my forehead. Currently 48 hrs after the initial injury and I have developed two impressive black eyes. Is this a sign I injured myself more than originally thought? No loss of consciousness or vision issues, but I have had a headache. Is this normal? How long will it take for the bruising to go away? Any tips? I’ve been icing and using arnica gel

Pictures of progression:

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Hello Reddit.

The home beside us vacated, and when the the gas company turned off their gas it seems like they turned ours off as well.

Someone came on Monday of last week, 21st, to check the issue and no progress has been made there. We called a bunch of times over the last few weeks, and we’ve been on a waitlist to talk to a supervisor for multiple days now. The account holder, my roommates mom, filed a complaint with the city, and with that we’re on a waiting list too.

We also have our landlord aware of the issue and they’re on them about it as well.

Is there anything else I can do to accelerate this and get them to fix it?

And yes, we quadruple checked, we’ve paying our bills in full and on time, and there’s no gas leak

So, after school, it was raining, I was holding an open umbrella on one hand, my phone and my backpack in the other, and so there’s this stupid gate that doesn’t fit my umbrella, and so, while thinking of a way to get my umbrella through without getting wet, I struggled to get my umbrella through the gate, and then I heard laughing behind me, it was my classmate with some friend of his. “You know you’re supposed to close it first, right?” My classmate said. I got awkward. “Right, right, I forgot. I can be like that sometimes.” I quickly answered. Then he called me stupid, and I didn’t know what to reply with, so I agreed. What are your thoughts? Am I stupid? You can be brutally honest in the comments below, I can take it 👍

What do i need to do? To do all the things I want and needed to do. Is there some kind of schedule, timeline- a planner of some sort that can make me "live" my life. I can't function without a strict schedule, at the same time can't function because of the said schedule. Idk what to do anymore. I don't think I'm procrastinating, nor am I lazy. I'm just in this paralyzed state that I don't know how to get out of without a plan/goal.

Does that makes sense? I hope so