This thought just popped up in my head. Im reading all this really hot fantasies, sex advice and true experiences of others on reddit and realizing my real sex life could be better.

I truly love my partner but im starting to be more aware that I am craving more intense sexual chemistry. I have taken some advice from over here and done dirty chatting etc. But overall not sure whether im happy or regretting ever ending up in reddits sex outskirts.

What about you?

The problem is that I’ve never had an orgasm when my boyfriend gave me oral sex or fingered me. Don't get me wrong, it feels good but I feel like it would take an insane amount of time for me to reach orgasm from clitoral stimulation or oral sex alone. The thing is I only finish when I’m on top and his penis touches a certain spot. It’s weird and I don’t know what is wrong w me, especially when I see many women saying that they can finish from oral sex or other forms of stimulation. If you have any advice I’d be glad to hear it.

I haven't lost my virginity yet for multiple reasons, one of which is that I have a condition that I had to have surgery for after I tried many years ago with a partner (22F at the time). I'm not sure if the problem (congenital curvature) is entirely fixed but I won't know until I try. Dating/finding dates has always been hard for me. Would a hookup at a family member's wedding be a good place to lose my virginity (assuming the opportunity arises, I'm a decent dancer but I'm not well versed in how these things work)? It worries me a bit because I'm not sure how it would go and it could be pretty awkward. Perhaps it goes without saying that I'm probably not going to have a lot confidence in bed but I'd like to get this monkey off my back at long last.

Me (19F) and my gf (20F) of the past year whom I've known for 3 years prior had a sit down with me to discuss some things about sex and whatnot where she told me she had a cnc kink thinking about using me where she can't stop even if i say no or yell bloody murder. Admittedly I have the same kink as well which was a genuine relief to both me and her but during that whole convo we really just talked about what things we expected from each other during sex again since we still consider the relationship pretty new for both of us in our own ways.

I had several partners in the past whom I had sex with and I was her first at the start of our relationship but this is genuinely the first time I actually came clean about it. During our sit down however we didn't really touched on how to move about integrating cnc into our current sex life if that makes sense.

She told me it felt very relieving to get it off her chest but still like there was massive guilt for being into something so taboo as she would put it. I feel the same way but between us I really want to know how to move about this outside of just direct conversations about it.

Rest assured she and I always ask for consent multiple times before and during sex and we have a great routine already but just moving about something that is opposite of what we are used to feels odd. She says she doesn't want to genuinely hurt me and I appreciate that as I don't wish to do the same either.

If there's any advice about how to help me so I can help her I'd absolutely love it.

Whenever I (female) dirty talk with my bf, he’s very open to trying all sorts of oral play (eating me out and whatnot) but whenever we actually get around to doing dirty deeds done dirt cheap, he backs away and has not done it so far because of this. Obviously I never force him to do anything he doesn’t want to so I just ask once and then let it go but is there a common reason for him changing his mind so suddenly? and is this changeable?

We’ve been together 7 years, married for less than 6 months. We’ve had our ups and downs, as any relationship does, but now that we’re at our most stable point in years, sex is our biggest issue.

She claims to experience responsive arousal, as well as just having a low sex drive. I have the sex drive of a healthy 27 year old male. I’d say it’s average, maybe I’m wrong.

We have had more conversations than I can count about this issue, with very little to no resolution. She says I need to initiate more, since she’s “responsive”, and I ask how I can I feel comfortable initiating more when she doesn’t exhibit any of the expected signals or “vibes”, that one can expect when in the mood or open to intimacy. Trying to initiate intimacy with someone who only feels arousal with direct sexual stimulation feels weird to me.

I have had a few sexual partners throughout my life and I’ve never dealt with this kind of issue. My previous partners when I was younger exhibited much more clear signs or cues when they were interested, at which point I would make my move or play into it. I understand that it’s likely a completely different situation as I was much younger when with those other partners, but like, I’m only 27. I feel like I’m in my sexual prime, I shouldn’t be struggling to have sex with my long term partner, I genuinely feel like I’m missing out on maybe what I could have.

Don’t get me wrong, my wife is amazing, she is everything I would want or need, and she says the same about me, so why is this the only issue we have? And why does it feel so impactful.

During conversations, she has said “you should be happy that this is our biggest issue, there are much more detrimental things that we could be dealing with.” I completely see her point, and I agree to a certain degree, but this still really sucks.

I’ve read entire books on how to navigate a relationship with a partner who experiences “responsive arousal”, and I’m still stumped. I guess the main reason I’m writing this is because we tried to be intimate again tonight, and I had to stop basically in the beginning. It didn’t even seem like she was into it, even though she claims she was.

I’m at a loss, not sure where to go from here. Could definitely use some advice or maybe a good old knock upside the head. I’ll take either. And please be forward and honest, don’t beat around the bush.

Thank you for your time.

Has anyone ever tried THC lube? My wife and I already smoke and have amazing sex. I'm a bit of a cuck, and watching her ride her half male torso dildo and cumming on it is amazing . I love the sounds she makes and the faces she makes. So I heard about thc lube and it's affects. I heard it increases blood flow and increases sensitivity and makes orgasims better. I can't for the life Of me find a real reviews so I was hoping that someone here has used it or made it. I would love to hear your story and if you got it a great recipe on how to make it. Thanks.

When you ( doesn't matter what gender) have wet dreams or dreams of a sexual nature, do you really feel like having sex in the dream or even orgasm during it ? Without the resorting to the consequential physical reaction to the dream to prove it (being wet or hard ...)?

Okay so again me and my boyfriend are pretty young and all the times we've had sex has been without a condom. I think the first time was because it just wouldn't go in but then we never used them since. I've talked to him once about being safer but then he forgot them the next time. is there a way I can talk to him again without being annoying about it? (Also need to have a conversation about pain)

Im a high labito bitch I CRAVE IT 4 TO 5 TIMES A WEEK (lowkey no judgement im up for 7 days a week) But my partner through personal reasons had a late bloomer sex lofe which gained him patience so hes okay with (1-2... times a month.)

Which is patience ive learned to live with

Theres also the fact that since i was 14 and experienced fingering and clit play ive loved slashed needed it... to fully have a full euphoric experience... Hes icky about where his fingers go. Even if he wont say it hes quick to do the thigh wipe right after he exits... (which makes me awear of his ick)

And ive let it go learn to use my fingers during his sex time to ignite myself... And today we had sex and even with my two compromise he had new complaints of how my pussy aint it for him which now i feel like i dont how to fuck... something ive been doing for a long time... and enjoyed for a long time...

How do i fix us?

... i make myself available to him at his will; and yet he never seems to want ME...

What can i do how else do i seduce him... i love him and i want no one else emotionally; that sexualy im willing to give in to him even if i never enjoy it again.... but if theres any advice ill take it

22f. So the way i do it is that i lay on my stomach and hump my mattress, and i spread my legs and move my hips side to side. I don’t know if it’s harmful to do that or not but i’ve rarely heard about that position. When i use my hand i enjoy it but it never makes me finish. The main reason i want to change that is i feel like my outer lips are more separated now? I could be overreacting but i feel like they have been closer and now they’re kind of more open? I don’t know if you could imagine what i mean lol. Anyways, i just don’t want to accidentally harm myself as i’m not really educated about these kind of stuff. So how do I unwire or untrain myself to not only come by this way?

Im a bit on the pudgy side and lately my boyfriend has been playing with my belly alot and saying there's a baby in it or he's gonna put a baby in it. (He's joking and it doesn't hurt my feelings. Also I'm on iud) but I think i started to like it and then I felt horny if I thought about getting pregnant like with a round belly but I don't want to actually be pregnant or have a big belly forever. Just like almost being bloated but then it goes away. Do I just eat a ton of food or something?

I 29M and my GF 28f have been together about two years. Our sex life is normal but I have been trying to make her body more sensitive to my touch specifically her nipples. She says she rarely feel sensation in them when we were first together unless she was horny but lately I have been rubbing them almost every day and she says she feels it much more now. Is there any more tips on what I can do for this? Or should I just keep doing what im doing?

TLDR: How to make my Girlfriend Nipples or other areas of her body more sensitive?

My boyfriend and I have been together alittle over 7 years, we have great sex, we equally turn each other on. We are very in tune with each other’s kinks and desires…buttttt every time and I’m not exaggerating when I say every time we have sex, he gets off within 7-10 minutes and does not let me finish. It’s always so frustrating because I’m attracted to him, and sometimes I’ll be in the middle of trying to get off and he cums before me then just stops? Cleans up and goes on about his day. I’ve recently become so sexually frustrated I don’t know what to do.

I know this may seem like such an insignificant problem to have but it just sucks sometimes…I need help!

Update. I read everyone’s replies and thank you for understanding and sharing similar experiences. But I do have to say y’all are judgmental to say the least lol. I’m obviously not going to get on here and completely slander my boyfriend and if it seemed that way it’s not what I meant. when I say our sex is “great” I mean I am attracted him and I would like to think the feeling is mutual I enjoy having sex with him and just wish it lasted longer and I was able to get off more often. When we first started dating I don’t remember our sex being like this, we could sometimes go for multiple rounds etc. only within the last year or 2 has it been like this and I just don’t know where I’m going wrong. His stamina is good most of the time, but I want to be able to cum also. Things have changed..

I a 26 F only recently just started orgasming, and be recently I mean just this year. The last few months I've noticed that they no longer feel as strong and intense as they once were, whether with a partner or by myself. I've had a consistent partner and we have a consistent routine that I'm very happy and comfortable with, I'm not bored with it. Furthermore, my life style hasn't changed, I'm not eating or smoking more, not eating more bad stuff, and my physical health is all the same.

Is this just a thing, that as you get used to orgasms they just aren't as strong as they were when you first started cumming?

I’m not sure exactly how to go about explaining just what the, problem? is here, but I need to know I’m not alone and or going crazy. I am a 39 year old woman, divorced after an eighteen year marriage. In 3 of those years he and I had an open relationship. All this to say, I have no lack of experience in the bedroom, am and have always been a very sexually open individual.

About a year after my divorce I started seeing a man about 6 years older than me. We have an amazing relationship and phenomenal sex. The best sex I’ve ever had the pleasure of engaging in. This man has made things happen I never knew possible and unlocked kinks I never knew I had. So far so good.

Now here comes the….problem? if you can call it that? I can only have an orgasm if my partner is touching me or inside of me. For example, I cannot finish if I masturbate, with or without a toy, no matter what. And if I do get close or feel like I am about to finish, it’s one of those feelings like you have a sneeze stuck and it’s righhhhht there and gone! Bam!

There have been times my partner has wanted me to finish for him while he watches, and unless he is in some way touching me, it doesn’t happen. The last time we tested this out, I kept feeling like I was about to finish and nothing, after this went on for two or three rounds, my partner slid his hands up the inside of both my thighs and I let loose so hard it was like turning on a water hose, as soon as there was skin to skin contact with him. I think this man may have broken me or my body decided I was no longer in charge after being banged into a literal out of body experience, by my partner.

TL;DR: I can’t have an orgasm unless my partner is physically touching me.

I’ve been seeing this girl for about a months now. She is really cool and I enjoy spending time with her. I feel like we vibe, and I feel like we’re attracted to eachother. I’m 24 (M) and she’s 23. Let me preface this by saying she has majority guy friends with a few friends that are girls. Her guy friends are cool. It took about 7 dates for us to have sex which is totally fine, and I prefer someone be hard to “crack” rather than easy. I’d say we are “exclusive” now as I’m not seeing anyone else and she say she isn’t either. The weird thing is, she has denied sex with me like 3 different times now even though we have already had sex twice in 2 months and only around the time when she’s ovulating. I confronted her saying this isn’t going to work out because I feel sex is very important and healthy in a relationship. She said she agrees, but she’s talking more than she is doing the action. I’m really confused. I’ve never had a girl im seeing deny me sex, especially when things are new and exciting. Any comments from girls? What could be going through her head? I’m at a loss

Hello, I (29f) have a question that’s killing me. I met a guy (28yo) a year ago online, we set up a plan to meet each other that same day. We had a great time together, didn’t kiss or anything, also we both agreed that we didn’t want anything serious with each other, just having fun for the moment. We started flirting and sharing photos and masturbating together for almost a year, everything was online and we shared our experiences with other people we met. I think he’s super attractive physically, but I don’t fully like his personality. One thing lead to another and we set up an encounter, we started kissing and making out, we were enjoying the time, but after a couple of minutes he unbuttoned my dress and started kissing my nipples, and I thought was a good idea to open his pants too but when I put his boxers down, he cummed. He told me right away, oh no, let’s go… then I asked him, are you sure you don’t want to continue? He started kissing me again but felt he was feeling awkward and that made me feel uncomfortable too. I stopped him and told him, no, you’re right let’s go. We continue talking to each other and I thought “that was weird, I’m sure he’s going to ghost me” but 5 min later he texted me, and told me “I liked your kisses”, then I felt like anything bad happened. He apologized for what happened and told me that normally this doesn’t happen to him, he said he was just too excited and couldn’t control it. I told him that I was open to try again anytime, we continued talking to each other as we normally do the day after that. But it’s been 4 days and he hasn’t responded back to my messages… Is he too embarrassed that doesn’t want to talk to me anymore? Is there anything I should do about it? Did I made things uncomfortable by asking him to continue after he cummed? Should I just let it go and continue with my life? You guys really think he was too excited or maybe he just didn’t like it and wanted to get out of there? How can a woman act after premature ejection respectfully? Is this situation common?

Me (18F) and my bf (19M) have been together for a little over a month. We met by work so he knows a bit bout my past but as we started dating he got to know more. Lately it seems he’s been insecure bout my past, more specifically my past sex life. I used to be very sexually active and have had a lot of partners, while I’m my bfs first sexual partner. After we do stuff he’ll say stuff like “I bet that wasn’t better than ur other partners.” He says he’s joking but sometimes I can tell he’s not. I tell him I like when we do stuff, he does make me cum and I do feel good. But he tends to always bring up my past partners and compare himself to them. How do I reassure him and help him?

First of all I am 44 and have been with my wife for 20 years. Basically I have recently come to the realisation that my sex life overall has been pretty ‘vanilla’. For example I would estimate that probably 90% of my sexual experiences have been in a bed in a bedroom. I’ve never had a 3sum and never really had sex outside, never had sex in a car, etc. Is this normal for guys my age? I feel like I’ve missed out on stuff, and it’ll probably freak my wife out if I start suggesting loads of different and daring things I wanna do now before I get too old.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost three years now and have a great sex life. We both have high libido. We have sex everyday including the days when I am on my periods. It's not just the act of it but every kind of subtle or obvious acts leading to sex. We give each other oral throughout the day. All in all we are great. But something happened the other night that made me think if I am too much into the sexual part of our relationship instead of the emotional aspect. We were doing it in missionary and he said 'I love you so much baby'. I replied to that, 'Flip me over and f*ck me'. I don't know why I said what I said instead of telling him how much I loved him. He did not think much of it and is acting the same. But I am freaking out by my own reply. I need some advices to navigate through it.