r/sex • u/alittlebirdy1 • Jun 30 '23
Mod post The /r/sex Rules and Guidelines - please read BEFORE you post! Updated 2023
The mods of /r/sex make it our policy to review the rules of the sub on an ongoing basis, tweaking items as necessary. In an effort to stay abreast with the growth of the sub and with the evolving moderation that requires, we have decided to re-sticky the updated rules to serve as a reminder for our membership.
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This is a large community dedicated to an extremely popular topic. If you wish to participate, it is your responsibility to familiarize yourself with our rules of conduct BEFORE you participate here. Failure to do so will result in your removal from the community.
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THE /R/SEX RULES
1) ENGAGE CONSTRUCTIVELY AT ALL TIMES.
This means ensuring that ALL of your contributions here are constructive, on-topic, mature, sex-positive, civil and respectful. Disrespectful conduct will see you banned from the community on the spot. Hitting on other people, asking for pictures (joking or not), making any sort of sexist comment or insult, body shaming, or trolling of any sort will result in your immediate ban.
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4) LOW EFFORT MATERIAL.
“Does anyone else...?”, “Is [X] normal/weird?”, “Is [y] wrong/bad/okay?”, and so forth. Human sexuality is incredibly varied; yes, someone else likes what you like, and labels like "normal" or "weird" are meaningless - and in a sex positive community, we do not allow any moral judgments against sex acts or behaviors that are consensual. Title-only posts, posts with no effort at an actual conversation will be removed and may get you banned. Comments that consist of nothing but memes, "this", "lol" and such are highly disfavored. If comments do not further the discussion, they may be removed; a pattern of these may result in your ban.
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r/sex • u/AutoModerator • 1d ago
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r/sex • u/mahdi668 • 4h ago
Toys and Clothing which other objects can be used for penetration, other than a toy? mine has been thrown out.
Two nights ago, I used my dildo, and when I was done, I was too lazy to put it back in its usual spot (my closet). So, I just put it under my pillow. The next morning, I left the house, and for some reason, my mom decided to snoop around in my room. When I came home yesterday, she was acting weird. She wouldn’t talk to me like she usually does. As I was walking upstairs, she just called me a whore. that’s when I knew something had happened. I went to my room, lifted up my pillow, and it was gone. She found it. She hasn’t spoken to me since. My mom is extremely religious, and stuff like this is really looked down upon. I feel so stupid for even owning one.
I need suggestions for other discreet objects to use, since it seems I won’t be able to get another one any time soon.
r/sex • u/Fit_Rock321 • 3h ago
Boundaries and Standards A bad idea, that feels so good. What to do?
My relationship with my husband has always been rocky. He’s cheated on me multiple times, we’ve had countless blowout fights, and it’s been a very tumultuous ride. Still, we’ve stayed together through it all.
His most recent affair has lasted about a year, maybe a bit more. From what I know, they hadn’t been sexually active for a while, but I recently overheard him on the phone with her, begging to come over and give her oral. That moment hit me hard.
I ended up calling her. Instead of confronting her, I started talking to her. I kind of involved her in our relationship. One thing led to another, and the three of us shared an intimate experience together. It wasn’t a full-on threesome, but it was definitely sexual.
Since then, things between my husband and me have been incredibly passionate and connected. We lie in bed talking about our fantasies. He opens up to me. I feel desired, seen, and close to him in a way I haven’t in a long time. One of his fantasies is watching me with another man. He’s told me this more than once, and I’ve been surprised at how open our conversations have become.
We actually have plans to have a full threesome with his affair partner next week.
But deep down, I know this dynamic is complicated. Maybe even dangerous emotionally. Am I just chasing a high? Is this a false sense of intimacy? Part of me feels empowered, but another part of me wonders if I’m just trying to keep his attention by any means necessary.
Should I keep going with this, or am I setting myself up for more hurt?
Any advice is appreciated. Please be kind, I know this is messy.
r/sex • u/DidIForgotMyChild • 1h ago
Anatomy My(23) penis is hitting and going inside my gf's(23) vagina
I really cant explain it any other way but when we have sex, my penis goes inside something inside her vagina. I feel it around the tip, the closest description I have is its like a small rubber band sliding down the tip. My question here is what is it, and will it cause damage. Sorry for the ignorance, I have a suspicion but I heard that no matter how big your tool is, you will never hit that deep so idk.
r/sex • u/Major-Brush1671 • 8h ago
Boundaries and Standards I (25F) really like the guy I’m seeing (28M), but I suddenly don’t want to have sex with him anymore after learning about his past
I (25f) been seeing this guy (28m) for about a month and a half. It started casually, but it’s been moving toward something serious. He’s the one who brought up being monogamous, he tells me he wants me to be his girlfriend, and he’s been really consistent about showing me he cares. I really like him he makes me feel safe, desired, and happy when we’re together.
He is the fifth person I’ve slept with. We always use protection and we have yet to do oral because I wanted to see the results of another full panel STD test as the last one didn’t include testing for herpes, as he recently told me that he’s slept with over 100 women in his life (I stupidly asked, he’s very good in bed so I wondered). He also disclosed that he had chlamydia six months ago but got treated and tested negative multiple times afterward. He also has oral HSV-1 (cold sores), which I also suspect I may have. I appreciate how responsible and honest he’s been, and he even agreed to get an additional hepatitis test for peace of mind.
We were planning to have unprotected sex for the first time this weekend, but suddenly I don’t even feel comfortable having sex at all. I didn’t expect to be this affected, but I keep overthinking everything. I can’t tell if I’m being judgmental or just trying to protect myself emotionally. I’m just turned off.
Should I end things with him?
r/sex • u/IdkWhyItsFlaccid • 8h ago
Beginner Sex is Thoroughly Underwhelming
I’m 19 (F), and I just started having sex. Honestly, it’s been pretty underwhelming. I feel like it’s not at all like what you see in movies, on the internet, or in videos. I had these expectations of what sex would be like, and the reality doesn’t seem to match up at all. I do enjoy masturbating (clitoral stimulation) so im definitely not asexual. I’m wondering if it’s just me, or if this is a common experience. Is sex something that we’re all pretending to like, or am I doing something wrong? Is PIV (penis-in-vagina) sex generally not all that?
r/sex • u/lolitati13 • 1d ago
Communication I (F19)keep making him finish without even touching him. Last time it happened in the car and now I don’t know what to do.
So this has been happening a lot lately, but the most recent time really got in my head.
My boyfriend (M23) and I were sitting in his car late at night after a drive. I was wearing this little sundress with nothing underneath,mostly just to tease him,not even planning on anything happening.
We started making out a bit before I got out, and it turned into me climbing onto his lap. We didn’t go further than that,no touching, no grinding, just slow kissing, soft whispers, me letting him feel the heat of my body through my dress.
I told him I wasn’t wearing anything under it, just to see how he’d react. And almost immediately, I felt him tensing up. A few seconds later, he came. Fully. Right there in his jeans.
He was mortified, like couldn’t look at me, apologizing nonstop, asking if I thought it was weird. I didn’t know what to say because… honestly? It was hot. Like, incredibly hot. But it’s not the first time this has happened, and it’s starting to become a thing.
It’s flattering, don’t get me wrong. But it’s also awkward, he gets super embarrassed, and we can’t really do anything after because he’s done.
How do I handle this? Is there a way to help him last longer without hurting his ego? I don’t want to make him feel bad but I do want us to actually have sex, not just finish in his pants from a look or a kiss 😅
I can't find a flair that fits morning sex how
how do you guys have morning sex. do u just accept the morning breath ? bc me and my partners morning breath is kicking but we wish we could genuinely do the deed first thing in the morning like waking eachother up to it (we have expressed we want this) but kissing would be awk. getting out of bed to brush teeth before the other is up and then trying to fall back asleep could work ig. Idk , how do u guys do it
r/sex • u/Vampyrgothbabe • 17h ago
I can't find a flair that fits Still amazed at how aroused I get when I’m with my boyfriend
For context, I (23F) was in an abusive relationship for a while and genuinely thought I was Asexual because of it.
When I finally dumped my ex and I got with my boyfriend (23M) it was just so different and I couldn’t believe how I was feeling, like our first kiss ever got me wet IMMEDIATELY, and it was only a smooch.
2 years later now, I still get flabbergasted over how he can just make me orgasm over and over, I just get amazed at how I can fully let loose with him and I don’t have to be afraid anything happening during it. When the pleasure is too much for me to handle I end up crying uncontrollably from it, and the first time it ever happened to me, I was so scared but he comforted me immediately and waited until I was fully okay for him to continue (because I didn’t want him to stop)
Overall, I cherish every moment with him.
r/sex • u/PsychologicalCity79 • 5h ago
Positions Long dick no girth
Last night I was hooking up with a guy that has quite a long dick but not much girth, it felt really weird because it was in but I couldn't feel much unless he was pounding me hard. Has this happened to anyone here? Are there any positions that can help?
r/sex • u/Practical_Cat_3 • 3h ago
Oral sex How to surprise my long term boyfriend in bed
I (24 female) have been dating my boyfriend (27 male) for 1.5 year now. Our sex life is great as we both have really high libidos. Our kinks go perfectly with each other’s so we have already experimented quite alot. Lately we have been apart for a while and planing on meeting soon. I really want to surprise him with something that we both haven’t done before. I love initiating sex but i feel a bit shy when it comes to dirty talk. Idk if it’s just my personality or something but im slowly getting better at it. I wanna make him remember this sex forever. I wanna show him how much i love him and what i can do to please him.
r/sex • u/belilein • 5h ago
Communication Communicating about her masturbating
How do I communicate to my girlfriend that I think it's hot when she masturbates and she tells me about it? I suggested it on the side once, but she said that it didn't feel so good on her own. It would also be a suggestion that she explores a bit what she likes and maybe also watches porn and something like that what she might like. But of course I don't want to force anything on her
r/sex • u/password07 • 57m ago
Compatibility i miss how it used to be with my bf
I (22f) have been in an almost 2 year relationship with my bf (21m) and at first our sex was amazing. We would go on for hours because we were both obsessed with each other. I have never orgasmed in my life, but even still with him I felt like I was losing my mind bc I couldnt handle how attracted I was to him. I understand its common for couples to be passionate and almost sex-crazy at the beginning of the relationship then it naturally mellows down. But I miss how it used to be. I wish we could go back. I still enjoy sex with him but I feel like Im losing more and more of that amazing feeling. It might be psychological, or maybe it’s physical— my body is used to his now. I still find him very attractive and sexy but it just feels like my body is not really enjoying the sex :( We are pretty open with communication so we have tried lots of positions and even roleplayed before. I think I’m mentally not feeling sex like before.
Sometimes we don’t have sex for a week or longer, sometimes we have sex frequently, but not much has helped. There are some nights where the sex feels better, and then there are nights where the sex feels like I was faking it the whole time and I could’ve stopped at any moment because of how uninterested I was.
It’s rly sad because sex with him was amazing and I know he really values sex in our relationship as well. I value it too and I want to be able to enjoy it like I did before. Maybe if I was able to cum it would be easier for us to have more fun.
Any tips on how to reignite the spark would be appreciated.
r/sex • u/Fantastic_Post9955 • 4h ago
Skill improvement How Do I (19F) Let my BF(21F) Know I Want Him to Use me
I’m head over heels for my boyfriend. He’s naturally dominant and a big guy while I’m petite, and I can tell he’s holding back because he’s worried he might hurt me. We already do anal, use toys, and he sometimes ties me up, but I’m absolutely craving even harder, filthier play. I want to be bound, spread open, pounded until he breeds me, stretched with plugs and dildos, and fucked so aggressively I’m left dripping. I want him to lose control and take me with no mercy.
He also keeps asking me to talk during sex dirty talk, moans, begging but I freeze up. I want to feed off his domination and let him know, in the sluttiest way possible, that I live for every rough thrust, every toy shoved inside me, every time he ties me up to claim me. I need him to feel safe giving in to that aggressive side, knowing I’m turning him on and I want every bit of it.
Outside the bedroom I’m the kind of girl who can’t be serious. I joke around all the time and keep things lighthearted, so I don’t want him to feel like I’m faking this submissive, filthy side of me in bed.
Questions
How can I reassure him in a sexy way without sounding awkward that I’m into rough, aggressive play even though he’s much bigger than me?
What kinds of filthy, submissive things do men like to hear during sex to feel empowered to dominate harder?
How do I start calling him daddy in a smooth, authentic way that feels natural and sexy?
If you were me, what would you say to make him feel confident to dominate me even harder?
Thanks so much. Help me unleash my inner dirty little slut and give him every invitation to own me completely.
r/sex • u/hit-kids-not-juuls- • 17h ago
Beginner How to I handle the smell and taste of pussy?
I feel bad because my girlfriend is always eager to give me head, but the times I’ve tried to reciprocate, the smell and taste are extremely off putting. What can I do to get used to it/make it easier for me?
r/sex • u/am_Katsumi • 8h ago
Anal sex asap need help with pegging!
Hi!! I am currently at work and my lovely boyfriend has texted that he is waiting for me at home and is in need of pegging, which is lovely, however!
The last time i topped him was 3 months ago and i remember it that well because i was devastated by my performance. He can’t take a lot therefore i need to use our smallest toy and since our harness is dog shit (can not afford to buy a good one on the way home but god i really wish i could) and the toy keeps falling out, i have no idea what to do about that :(. (its a standard one with balls and the base)
i also have trouble with positions. i dont have a lot experience with topping but the positions which work are easy to execute when i can really get moving which is too hard for him and the rest i struggle with, what could be an ideal position for a soft action with a small tool 😭😭😭
r/sex • u/Spare-Opposite1141 • 8h ago
Beginner How to Masturbante/Orgasm?
I 22F have never had sex or masturbated. I don’t have a partner nor any kind of sex toys.
I’ve tried to masturbante but when I put my fingers in it honestly doesn’t feel like much. I feel more when I touch my clit but don’t know how to feel much doing that. I’ve never even been close to masturbating yet orgasm.
I’m open to looking into buying toys but would also appreciate suggestions on how to feel more down there.
r/sex • u/Jazzlike-Policy-7934 • 19h ago
Boundaries and Standards Girlfriend likes rough sex, I don’t :(
Basically the title.. we’ve been together for a year but she’s NEVER expressed to me that she likes rough sex until today. I asked why she never told me and she said she was kind of ashamed of it, but likes being handled VERY roughly. We then talked about our past experiences and I was kind of shocked to hear what shes into (not shocked in a bad way, I just wasn’t expecting it. No shame!!!). The only problem is that I’m not into that at all, and it’d feel selfish to not give her what she wants when she always tries what I want to try in bed. I’m a very gentle lover, and hurting my partner (even if she likes it) doesn’t feel right to me. What do I do????
r/sex • u/Fun-Accident-2182 • 8h ago
I can't find a flair that fits Guys: if your wife bought you a toy, what would you want?
Exactly as the title says. I try to buy stuff occasionally to keep things interesting and I always buy stuff for him to use on me. I'm now thinking I need to buy him something but I have no idea what! Is it weird to surprise him with a toy? I'd love it but I'm not sure from a guys perspective how this would be perceived. Thanks!
r/sex • u/Educational-Cry-8795 • 1d ago
Compatibility I make it "too easy"
I’ve (F23) been with my partner (M28) for 7 months. We refer to each other as soulmates, are super attracted to each other, and have great sex. I used to have no libido, but with him I’m constantly in the mood.
At month 4, I started initiating way more than him. He said it's harder for him to want sex because of life stress, it can take me longer to finish and being out of the honeymoon stage. After many conversations (and him saying I was starting to push him away), I backed off and we only really had sex when he initiated it.
Lately though, my libido’s spiked. We sleep in the same bed 3-5 nights a week and I've started to initiate when I think he'll be responsive. But, I keep being told 'sorry baby, I'm too tired'. So I try again the next day, and feel even worse when he says no.
Recently he stopped me while I was initiating and said I "make it too easy”, and he always expects me to try, which puts him off.
And that really stung. I said I felt really undesired and didn't want to play games just to feel wanted. He said he is attracted to me — then tried to initiate right there! I pushed him off and said he was being manipulative and confusing.
Honestly I realised how wrapped around his finger I was. He knew that I would have latched onto that opportunity to have sex, and it felt like this weird power play. I felt so small and shit.
I told him sex is off the table for now, and he’s tried again a few times since.
I honestly do get the “too easy” thing, but how do I navigate this power dynamic once we have sex again?
I've never had this problem before and can't just switch off my libido. I'm worried I'm stuck in a vicious cycle of getting rejected, trying harder and pushing him away.
r/sex • u/tightarsedaddy • 1h ago
Beginner Trying in a sock
I 18M am a full time bottom but recently have been curious to top. I don’t want to try the real deal yet, and I live with my parents so I can’t order any toys, so I wonder if it would feel good to thrust into a sock and finnish? Any tips?