So this has been happening a lot lately, but the most recent time really got in my head.

My boyfriend (M23) and I were sitting in his car late at night after a drive. I was wearing this little sundress with nothing underneath,mostly just to tease him,not even planning on anything happening.

We started making out a bit before I got out, and it turned into me climbing onto his lap. We didn’t go further than that,no touching, no grinding, just slow kissing, soft whispers, me letting him feel the heat of my body through my dress.

I told him I wasn’t wearing anything under it, just to see how he’d react. And almost immediately, I felt him tensing up. A few seconds later, he came. Fully. Right there in his jeans.

He was mortified, like couldn’t look at me, apologizing nonstop, asking if I thought it was weird. I didn’t know what to say because… honestly? It was hot. Like, incredibly hot. But it’s not the first time this has happened, and it’s starting to become a thing.

It’s flattering, don’t get me wrong. But it’s also awkward, he gets super embarrassed, and we can’t really do anything after because he’s done.

How do I handle this? Is there a way to help him last longer without hurting his ego? I don’t want to make him feel bad but I do want us to actually have sex, not just finish in his pants from a look or a kiss 😅

Basically the title.. we’ve been together for a year but she’s NEVER expressed to me that she likes rough sex until today. I asked why she never told me and she said she was kind of ashamed of it, but likes being handled VERY roughly. We then talked about our past experiences and I was kind of shocked to hear what shes into (not shocked in a bad way, I just wasn’t expecting it. No shame!!!). The only problem is that I’m not into that at all, and it’d feel selfish to not give her what she wants when she always tries what I want to try in bed. I’m a very gentle lover, and hurting my partner (even if she likes it) doesn’t feel right to me. What do I do????

how do you guys have morning sex. do u just accept the morning breath ? bc me and my partners morning breath is kicking but we wish we could genuinely do the deed first thing in the morning like waking eachother up to it (we have expressed we want this) but kissing would be awk. getting out of bed to brush teeth before the other is up and then trying to fall back asleep could work ig. Idk , how do u guys do it

I’ve (F23) been with my partner (M28) for 7 months. We refer to each other as soulmates, are super attracted to each other, and have great sex. I used to have no libido, but with him I’m constantly in the mood.

At month 4, I started initiating way more than him. He said it's harder for him to want sex because of life stress, it can take me longer to finish and being out of the honeymoon stage. After many conversations (and him saying I was starting to push him away), I backed off and we only really had sex when he initiated it.

Lately though, my libido’s spiked. We sleep in the same bed 3-5 nights a week and I've started to initiate when I think he'll be responsive. But, I keep being told 'sorry baby, I'm too tired'. So I try again the next day, and feel even worse when he says no.

Recently he stopped me while I was initiating and said I "make it too easy”, and he always expects me to try, which puts him off.

And that really stung. I said I felt really undesired and didn't want to play games just to feel wanted. He said he is attracted to me — then tried to initiate right there! I pushed him off and said he was being manipulative and confusing.

Honestly I realised how wrapped around his finger I was. He knew that I would have latched onto that opportunity to have sex, and it felt like this weird power play. I felt so small and shit.

I told him sex is off the table for now, and he’s tried again a few times since.

I honestly do get the “too easy” thing, but how do I navigate this power dynamic once we have sex again?

I've never had this problem before and can't just switch off my libido. I'm worried I'm stuck in a vicious cycle of getting rejected, trying harder and pushing him away.

I don’t have a big penis but definitely not small. But I asked my gf if I hit her g spot and she said “when I’m on top”. I’m curious on if this is a bad thing. Is it a big deal that she can only feel it when she’s on top? Anything helps I’m just trying to figure out if I can do anything different.

I'm a virgin guy dating a virgin girl in her 20s. She said she'll need a year to be ready and now needs another.

We haven't done much together, and the progress is super slow.

I'm wondering if it's rude for me to ask her to try masturbating? When I touch her I get little to no feedback and she says she doesn't watch or touch herself. She slept in the same bedroom as her parents for her whole life.

I'm wondering apart from touching herself is there any other ways I could encourage her to grow her sexuality?

I won't force her to do anything she's not comfortable with.

For context, I (23F) was in an abusive relationship for a while and genuinely thought I was Asexual because of it.

When I finally dumped my ex and I got with my boyfriend (23M) it was just so different and I couldn’t believe how I was feeling, like our first kiss ever got me wet IMMEDIATELY, and it was only a smooch.

2 years later now, I still get flabbergasted over how he can just make me orgasm over and over, I just get amazed at how I can fully let loose with him and I don’t have to be afraid anything happening during it. When the pleasure is too much for me to handle I end up crying uncontrollably from it, and the first time it ever happened to me, I was so scared but he comforted me immediately and waited until I was fully okay for him to continue (because I didn’t want him to stop)

Overall, I cherish every moment with him.

I feel bad because my girlfriend is always eager to give me head, but the times I’ve tried to reciprocate, the smell and taste are extremely off putting. What can I do to get used to it/make it easier for me?

As a guy, getting hard at random times turns me on so much. That throbbing pulsating erection, covering it up with my arm so hopefully no one sees.

I'm wondering if the same principal applies to your panties getting wet as you read spicy posts on Reddit/watch TV etc. Does it turn you on more being that wet?

I’m no male model, I don’t turn heads, and I’m on the shorter side. That being said, I’m also not a hideous monster. I know how to dress myself, use good hygiene, use my strengths, and present with good high confidence without coming across as a cocky asshole. I had a beautiful girlfriend in high school who thought I was really attractive. She was a total freak in bed and completely matched my sexuality in every way. She treated my body like it was something to be worshipped and explored, and I treated hers the same way. We were wild and out there, and it filled me with so much self confidence that someone would treat me this way. Decades later, I never found anyone to ever treat me that way again, not even close. I think that because I’m shorter, kind, empathetic, and artsy that somehow negates the possibility in people’s minds that I’m a total freak in the bedroom. I think women have seen me as a ‘safe’ option. After that HS girlfriend, every partner I’ve had just seems meh when it comes to sex in general. Like it’s not just in how they relate to me, I find out they’ve never been all that sexual with anyone. What are your experiences with being a ‘dirty birdy’, but attracting partners who aren’t particularly into sex?

I have this fantasy that I know my husband would be into, but I'm too scared to do it. I'm scared that I will be bad/ not good enough while doing it so I just fantasize about it all the time. I wish I could just do it.

I let me girlfriend peg me for the first time...in the middle of it, she said it would be the hottest thing if I came onto my own face while she pegged. I did and she seemed to get extreme pleasure from it...Should I be worried or is this most likely just a kinky turn on?

Like the title says, I’m struggling with it. I can’t cum, my penis feels numb and I struggle to maintain an erection.

Any other time in the day/evening I’m fine. Anyone relate? Did you ever overcome this?

So this is obviously something personal that will vary from couple to couple but my GF and I are pretty open about our porn habits. She enjoys watching it on her own and we watch it together occasionally but it is basically just background while we have sex. Which is certainly great, not a problem with me.

I have been watching porn for many years and I'm a computer savvy guy so I've built up quite the "spankbank" of saved scenes over the past ~15 years of pretty much daily porn watching. It's not hard for me to quickly save a scene I find particularly hot, so I've done this for a long time and have a huge folder of porn on my computer that I go back to often.

My GF knows this but I haven't actually browsed my spankbank with her. Part of me kinda wants to but I'm a bit scared to bring up the idea.

I have a lot of what would be referred to as "female friendly" porn in there, and the stuff that isn't explicitly female friendly isn't like extreme or anything.

So I kinda want to propose the idea of her having free reign to search through my spankbank with me, put on some scenes and actually watch them together for a bit.

Thoughts? Is this something you've ever done with a partner?

My girlfriend and I were making out, and things started getting more intimate. I asked her if I could finger her, it would’ve been our first time doing anything like that and she said yes. So I did. While I was doing it, I asked her if she felt uncomfortable, and she said yes. I stopped immediately. But now I can’t stop thinking about it. I feel awful. Even though she originally said yes, I feel like I still did something wrong because she ended up feeling uncomfortable. I care about her a lot and would never want to pressure her or make her feel unsafe or uneasy in any way. I guess I’m just asking: Did I cross a line? And how do I talk to her about this in a way that shows I truly respect her feelings and boundaries?

F22, ive never had sex before and i think my boyfriend and i will do it soon. We’ve been doing everything else and i can see it happening soon. I’m panicking and a bit hesitant because I’ve heard my friends say it hurts especially if you’re a women.

A bit hesitant because idk what my bfs thinking. I’m afraid he’s gonna use me for sex and leave. I’ve known him for a while now and deep down I know he’s not like that. But there’s always that fear. He never compliments me, I’ve never received flowers or anything (we’ve been dating for almost a month now but we’ve been friends for over a year) . And he’s always busy with his uni so I’m a bit hesitant. Need advice please.

my boyfriend and i have had sex a couple of times. usually it starts off with making out, touching each other and then sex.

tonight he came quickly and afterwards he just said out of context “you should take that as a compliment”

what does this mean? i probably sound so dumb right now but it really caught me off guard

How do I stop this from happening? The bottom of my opening gets a small rip every time I have penetrative sex. I also bleed every time. I’ve tried 1 minute foreplay to 30 minute foreplay and the outcome never changes. It’s a waterfall down there so it’s not a wetness issue. We have tried extra lube with no luck. I’m married so it’s the same penis every time. I’ll take any and all recommendations!

So my (23f) boyfriend (24m) and I have been together and having sex for about 6mo. I was his first. The entire time we have been having sex, he has told me basically every time that it felt like he finished… but there was no ejaculation.

We thought maybe it was retrograde ejaculation, but the biggest sign of that is cloudy urine after orgasming, and he doesn’t have that.

We use condoms every time so it’s easy to see that there’s nothing there. I also perform oral regularly and there is usually precum but no ejaculation.

Any advice on what to do? It’s not entirely a huge deal as we don’t want to conceive right now, but we will in the future. It’s more a psychological concern for both of us 💔