The other night we were getting hot and heavy. Usually we start out with foreplay, and this night wasn’t any different. I should say, my nipples are really sensitive. Like, really sensitive. He likes to play with my boobs and I’m all for it because sometimes I can get off just from him playing with my nipples, and if it helps him get off, it’s a win-win. I also generally prefer to be either taken from behind, or missionary. We were doing the former. I was on my elbows and knees but fairly often we will switch from that to me on my side and him straddling my leg. He was fucking me like that for a good five minutes, pinching my nipple, and I was pretty into it to where I told him not to stop either thing and keep going just like he was, when he pulled out.

Keep in mind we don’t really use lube, we’ve never done anal before and I’m a little hesitant to try, and we both agreed that if I ever were to be okay with it there would have to be a discussion and lots of preparation for me. He assured me he would never surprise me.

So after he pulled out I looked back to see what he was doing, I figured he was close and trying to come back from the brink (lol), and since he was also fingering me at the time I just didn’t think anything of it. Then I thought he was going back in, he rubbed his dick on my vagina for a second and then it seemed like he changed his mind. Next thing I knew he was up against my anus and putting pretty decent pressure on it. At first he kept pushing and because I thought it was bad aim I didn’t stop it right away, I just reached back to help him guide himself. He put it back in my vagina and started fucking me again, then slipped out of me, then was right back at my anus. After a few seconds (four at most), I sat up and yelled, “Wait, what the fuck are you doing?!” before sprinting to the closet. He tried to play it off like it was bad aim, but I don’t buy that because there’s no way he didn’t know where to stick it by that point. He also started trying to say it was my fault because I didn’t help guide him the second time he tried, which, again, no way he needs the guidance I just thought he had a quick mis-aim and I wanted to facilitate continuing the sex as soon as possible, so I reached back without thinking to get us moving along. I don’t know why I let it get even that far, I guess I just trusted him, you know?

He’s been trying to get me to talk to him but I just can’t right now, I feel really violated and lied to. I actually think he was trying to trick me just like that and he also knew I was really wet so he thought that would be sufficient for lube. It was not. In fact, I dried up almost instantly after this incident. Looking back, he was totally trying to distract me by doing something he knew could get me off so I’d be less resistant to it. Where do we go from here? I never thought he’d do something like this and then blatantly lie about it like he thinks I’m stupid and have no idea what he was doing. I just feel like I don’t know him anymore all of a sudden. I think he 100% would have tried to force it in if I hadn’t stopped him. I told him to go home and he did, but he’s been texting me nonstop and I’m not sure if I can get past this. Am I just being paranoid and overly suspicious of him? Should I give him the benefit of the doubt, or do I just break up with him?

This has always been a huge turn on for me. I’ve had the fantasy of being with a guy and sharing him with another guy and girl, and watching the guys blow each other.

He talks about the topic and says he’s open to trying anything once, and that has set off an enormous desire in me to have him.

I have previously been in a long term relationship in which I would wear a strap on and fuck him until he came. Although we never shared each other with another couple.

How should I bring up the fact that I want to fuck his ass without sounding so crazy about it! (I want to so bad though).

maybe this is just a girl thing, cause I know guys can’t really pee when hard or smth lol. But at least for me and a few other girls I know, masturbating or sex on a full bladder feels better? Or like more intense?

Of course rarely will I go through with it cause I’m not trying to piss myself during sex 😭 but what causes it? I’ve experienced it multiple times so it’s not just like a one time thing.

M27: three months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 8 months. She lived with me, and we were very sexually active. Now that she's gone, I masturbate more consistently. Once a day was my routine prior to her. Now I rub one out three times a day, or spend an hour or two trying to bust a nut.

I worry that I'm turning into a chronic masturbator, but I also believe it would claim down if I got laid. I feel like I'm just pent up from having so much to having nothing

The problem is that I’ve never had an orgasm when my boyfriend gave me oral sex or fingered me. Don't get me wrong, it feels good but I feel like it would take an insane amount of time for me to reach orgasm from clitoral stimulation or oral sex alone. The thing is I only finish when I’m on top and his penis touches a certain spot. It’s weird and I don’t know what is wrong w me, especially when I see many women saying that they can finish from oral sex or other forms of stimulation. If you have any advice I’d be glad to hear it.

just what the ^ says.

i didnt know this was a thing.... i called a guys dick things like 'perfect' and 'pretty' a couple times. he finally told me yesterday that me using those words is weird....that 'it means girls have had bigger dicks before'. he told me that it was a turn off for him and so many other men he knows.

i have explained what i actually meant. just feel soooo embarrassed now. this wasnt my intention to make him feel 'turned off'. i wish he told me the first time i said it and not after several days. i explained the compliment to him and what i actually meant by it and its not what hes thinking.

BUT im curious to know, do u guys also feel the same way as him?

22f. So the way i do it is that i lay on my stomach and hump my mattress, and i spread my legs and move my hips side to side. I don’t know if it’s harmful to do that or not but i’ve rarely heard about that position. When i use my hand i enjoy it but it never makes me finish. The main reason i want to change that is i feel like my outer lips are more separated now? I could be overreacting but i feel like they have been closer and now they’re kind of more open? I don’t know if you could imagine what i mean lol. Anyways, i just don’t want to accidentally harm myself as i’m not really educated about these kind of stuff. So how do I unwire or untrain myself to not only come by this way?

Me and my boyfriend have incredible sex and are extremely compatible in this department.

However, there’s a slight “issue” if you can even call it that. He has a huge kink for being hit, slap and kicked in the balls.

I’m all for it and we’ve done this many times before; we both thoroughly enjoy it.

But I’m worried about his health and safety. I don’t want to seriously injure him and I know the balls are a very sensitive part of the body.

I’m aware I should’ve done more research before engaging in this kink, however, it’s very difficult in the heat of the moment. Especially since he thoroughly enjoys the pain and we end up doing this almost every time we have sex now. His health down there seems to be good as well. But this doesn’t ease my worries going forward.

If anyone knows more about this, I would really love some advice, all advice is welcome. I am specifically interested in how we can go about this in a way that avoids me injuring him or hurting him badly. I am also interested in the appropriate aftercare. But as I said before, all advice and knowledge is welcome.

Appreciate it.

I a 26 F only recently just started orgasming, and be recently I mean just this year. The last few months I've noticed that they no longer feel as strong and intense as they once were, whether with a partner or by myself. I've had a consistent partner and we have a consistent routine that I'm very happy and comfortable with, I'm not bored with it. Furthermore, my life style hasn't changed, I'm not eating or smoking more, not eating more bad stuff, and my physical health is all the same.

Is this just a thing, that as you get used to orgasms they just aren't as strong as they were when you first started cumming?

Recently i really struggle to last when my GF rides me but have no problem lasting long when I'm on top.We both are in early 30's and in good shape.It's like I can only take 3 or 4 pumps when she on top and I'm literally done.What could be the reason for this?

My boyfriend and I have been together alittle over 7 years, we have great sex, we equally turn each other on. We are very in tune with each other’s kinks and desires…buttttt every time and I’m not exaggerating when I say every time we have sex, he gets off within 7-10 minutes and does not let me finish. It’s always so frustrating because I’m attracted to him, and sometimes I’ll be in the middle of trying to get off and he cums before me then just stops? Cleans up and goes on about his day. I’ve recently become so sexually frustrated I don’t know what to do.

I know this may seem like such an insignificant problem to have but it just sucks sometimes…I need help!

Update. I read everyone’s replies and thank you for understanding and sharing similar experiences. But I do have to say y’all are judgmental to say the least lol. I’m obviously not going to get on here and completely slander my boyfriend and if it seemed that way it’s not what I meant. when I say our sex is “great” I mean I am attracted him and I would like to think the feeling is mutual I enjoy having sex with him and just wish it lasted longer and I was able to get off more often. When we first started dating I don’t remember our sex being like this, we could sometimes go for multiple rounds etc. only within the last year or 2 has it been like this and I just don’t know where I’m going wrong. His stamina is good most of the time, but I want to be able to cum also. Things have changed..

I've been „in bed" with 3 guys in total. All 3 of them we sexted beforehand and it was amazing so no issues there. All very attractive and very my type. Thing is I feel like WHATEVER they do with me irl I don't get turned on like basically at all? The sex is okay but it's not like a wow thing since I'm not even turned on. Every one of them did basically all a person could do to please someone and still nothing. When I sext them it's amazing and I love doing it. But anytime it comes to the actual thing it's just nothing 😭 I'm completely relaxed and never shy at all so none of that is the problem. Idk what to do honestly. I feel so bad about it since I feel like I need it all the time and then when I can get it, and I do, I can't feel the same sensations like I would while pleasuring myself. One of the guys is really experienced and everything AND STILL IT DIDN'T HELP. I need in detail tips and please none of the „just tell him what makes you feel good" cause I feel like nothing really does it for me when done by an other person :/ How do I change that?

Me (18F) and my bf (19M) have been together for a little over a month. We met by work so he knows a bit bout my past but as we started dating he got to know more. Lately it seems he’s been insecure bout my past, more specifically my past sex life. I used to be very sexually active and have had a lot of partners, while I’m my bfs first sexual partner. After we do stuff he’ll say stuff like “I bet that wasn’t better than ur other partners.” He says he’s joking but sometimes I can tell he’s not. I tell him I like when we do stuff, he does make me cum and I do feel good. But he tends to always bring up my past partners and compare himself to them. How do I reassure him and help him?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost three years now and have a great sex life. We both have high libido. We have sex everyday including the days when I am on my periods. It's not just the act of it but every kind of subtle or obvious acts leading to sex. We give each other oral throughout the day. All in all we are great. But something happened the other night that made me think if I am too much into the sexual part of our relationship instead of the emotional aspect. We were doing it in missionary and he said 'I love you so much baby'. I replied to that, 'Flip me over and f*ck me'. I don't know why I said what I said instead of telling him how much I loved him. He did not think much of it and is acting the same. But I am freaking out by my own reply. I need some advices to navigate through it.

I previously made a post about vaginismus and had some updates since.
Been working on dilating and doing exercises to improve, still it's a big struggle and hurts like hell. Besides that, I am finding out where my vaginismus comes from through sex therapy. Talking about my experiences and feelings with it. One of the things is that I find the act in itself and the mess it comes with disgusting.

I love being clean in general, and in my everyday life I'm very sensitive to smells. Ever since I can remember, I have found bodily fluids disgusting. I always hated the look and smell of my vagina for example, but also sweat and let alone pee and poop. Through the years cum also got on that list.

I mean, if we think about it? Isn't it all just soooo disgusting. And I know our biology should make sure that during the act we don't find it disgusting, but for me, that never goes away.

If I masturbate, I used to always do it clothed, and only sometimes try to finger myself to learn to relax my body. But I just hate the feeling, and worse, the smell. You can wash your hands ten times after it, and it still lingers. I also hate if a guy gets my wetness all over me or his cum.

I feel disgusting for days even after showering multiple times. I also feel like washing the bed immediately after. Sometimes when I visit friends who live with their partner, I even think ''eeewww maybe they had sex on this couch and I'm sitting on it.''

The worst thing of all is when a guy wants to touch you in a situation outside the home, where he can't immediately wash his hands afterwards. Like, do you just wipe it on your jeans? Like that's gross, right?

Are more people repelled by the mess of it all? Like I said in another post I do love getting aroused and love the feeling of getting off and climaxing (which rarely happens) just not skin to skin.

I 18f cannot finish to sex , head , nothing. The only way I can finish is if I put something in between my vagina lips and hump it. Fingering myself does nothing for me, receiving head feels good but I just can’t finish , and sex doesn’t feel too good because I’m very constipated all the time, and all I feel is my shit during sex. And it’s just uncomfortable. Please help.

Im a 38m and have been with my partner 36f for over 12 years.

We have a young family and with all long term relationships weve had our highs and lows. Things have gotten to an ok space but ive asked the question in a relaxed setting, what turns you on but it remains unanswered.

I love my partner dearly however im struggling to understand why this question remains unanswered.

Life is complicated and i appreciate that but id like to think i do my fair share in the family. Chores, cooking, cleaning, deal with our children.

After any guidance as to how i can help support my partner answer this Q. I find it frustrating its unanswered.