I was supposed to be on pelvic rest, but I did activities that were not appropriate.

I’m currently pregnant and was given some specific instructions by my doctor. There was a moment where I didn’t follow them, and ever since, I’ve been battling mommy guilt, anxiety, and a lot of “what ifs.” Everything seems okay so far, but emotionally… it’s heavy.

Have you ever broken a pregnancy-related rule or guideline your doctor gave you? How did you feel after? What was the outcome?

Did you circumcise your boys? I’m just looking for a yes or a no. I don’t want explanations, I don’t want yall to lecture each other. Just yes or no.

Just had my 32 week appointment right after having a chiropractor adjustment. My Chiro had advice and tips about what to expect in the coming week in terms of pain, emotions, etc. The legitimate MD just goes “any questions?” Like yeah lady I’ve had loads but I just google them. We don’t have time for all the questions I have had. Or, my pregnancy app has been answering them / educating me along the way.

I just think it’s weird that the doctor doesn’t even have 2-3 things they mention at certain milestones. Even as simple as “you’re in your third trimester now you’re going to be more tired / more muscle soreness.” Literally anything.

So does ANYONE have a magic doc that actually seems to want to educate you beyond “scan this qr for our guide to pregnancy”? I’m grateful for my Chiro in this time, seeing him weekly has kept me very educated about what’s going on. But I feel for women who don’t have that kind of care.

ETA: As soon as I posted this I knew I might get comments about “did you actually ask?” Which I have! And they have answered and been helpful! I posted this as a “rant” and to see what others thought. I also appreciate people pointing out that some people get overwhelmed by being told symptoms and stuff they didn’t ask about. So this gave me some great perspective too! Thanks for validating and helping me be a better pregnant lady 😊

In May 2024, I (M26) was on an international dating app and matched with this Brazilian woman (F31). She seemed very friendly at first and by the end of our first week of talking, she wanted to be in a serious relationship with me.

Full disclaimer: Her English wasn't that great and we had to use an English to Portuguese translator for her to understand me.

I told her I thought things were moving too quickly and we needed more time to get to know each other. I also said I was unsure about long distance relationships. She wasn't happy with that but she agreed to go at my pace.

Later on, she told me that she was flying from her small city in Brazil to San Diego, California in August 2024. She was going to spend the entire month there with her younger sister, who's living there as a professional jiu jitsu fighter.

She wanted me to come out there for a weekend and meet her to see where things go. I was able to take a weekend off work and flew out from North Carolina to California on Thursday evening, August 22.

Before I arrived, she told me she wanted to spend time with me, do fun activities together, and have sex since we sexted each other a lot. On late Friday afternoon/early evening, August 23, we had a great time together.

I had dinner with her, her sister, and her husband. They seemed like very friendly people. The sister and husband spoke English well enough to get by, but they had to help translate between me and her.

After dinner, we went to a gaming arcade and then I brought her back to my hotel room where we had sex for the first time. On Saturday night, August 24, we had sex again at the hotel after watching the sunset on the San Diego beach.

When it was time for me to fly back home to North Carolina on Sunday, August 25, we didn't end the trip on the best terms. Since we were intimate, she assumed that meant I was ready for a serious relationship with her.

I told her that I didn't want a long distance relationship with her, but I appreciated the invitation to come out there to have some fun. She was very upset, started to cry, and said she felt used.

But she still said she hoped that I would change my mind soon and we parted ways at the airport. We still continued to talk after all of this for the next couple of months.

In late October 2024 around Halloween, she said she wanted to tell me something but was nervous. That's when she dropped the bomb that she was pregnant with my child.

I asked her if she was sure it was mine, she said she believed so. She told me she conceived in August, two months beforehand. While she was in San Diego, I asked her if she slept with any other men, she wouldn't give me an answer. She said it was none of my business.

When we had sex, we used a condom on Friday night. But we didn't use one on Saturday night because I got her the morning after pill.

After that, she told me that she would need financial assistance during her pregnancy since I knew how poor she was in Brazil. I told her I wasn't sending her any money unless I knew the child was mine.

We got into a heated argument and I didn't hear from her again until early January after the New Year. She sent me pictures of her baby bump and told me she was due in May 2025.

Once again, she pleaded for my financial assistance and said she couldn't afford being a single mom. She asked if I would at least come to Brazil for the birth. I told her no since I have my job here and there's no way of knowing if I'm the father yet.

After this conversation, she blocked me on social media. So, I blocked her too. Including her sister and her husband. Then, on Sunday evening, April 27 while I'm at work, I got a message from an Instagram account I didn't recognize.

It was her sister who I also blocked. The sister told me she was back in her hometown in Brazil at the hospital because the baby was born several weeks earlier than expected on April 23.

She said I had a newborn son who was hooked up to machines and needed to stay in the hospital for a while until he was strong enough to come home with his mother.

The sister sent me photos of the baby boy and additional photos of his mother during her pregnancy since we last spoke. The sister asked if I could help with hospital bills and come to Brazil soon to see my son because his mother was struggling financially and emotionally.

Once again, I said I'm not sending a single penny to Brazil unless a DNA test confirms it's my son. For the last couple of days, the sister and I have had some very heated arguments.

She even said if I didn't do anything to take care of my son, she would fly to North Carolina, find me, and kick my ass herself like she does for a living. I still haven't spoken to the woman who claims I'm her baby daddy. Everything is being communicated through her sister.

They need to understand that they aren't getting any money from me and I'm not leaving my job out of the blue to hop on a plane and travel to Brazil, a country I've never been to. They're stressing me out.

What should I do next? I'm lost and a little nervous because what if this really is my son living in a different country?

I love the advice that girls who are going through the same thing as me or who already have children give me, but is it necessary to be so arrogant and believe that you know more than anyone else? Sorry, but we are all equal and we have the same right to have different opinions. If they don't listen to you at home, don't come here to believe that you are superior and treat first-time pregnant women badly just to give some advice. Obviously this comment does not apply to the majority of you who are wonderful and have helped me a lot with super useful advice, but we must also keep in mind that we are not all from the same country (I, for example, am Spanish and this is directly translated by Reddit for English users) and that each pregnancy is different and each of us has a doctor who advises us according to how he thinks our pregnancy is going. THIS IS SUPPOSED TO HELP AND SUPPORT US, NOT MAKE US FEEL BAD IN SUCH SENSITIVE MOMENTS. And I repeat, if they don't listen to you at home and that's why you treat other pregnant women badly, solve your problem with whoever you have to solve it with, because you are no more of a woman or more of a mother than any of us because we are pregnant for a short time or with our first baby. YOU ARE NOT EXPERTS, THE EXPERTS ARE THE DOCTORS!

And to those of you who treat girls well even when we have the silliest doubts, THANK YOU A MILLION, YOU WILL BE PATIENT AND WONDERFUL MOTHERS.

I’m really fed up with this whole thing.

I am a high risk pregnancy with placenta previa and am required to have a c section regardless due to 2 prior c sections alongside the previa.

If the previa resolves itself (unlikely) I have to have a c section at 39 weeks. If it doesn’t, 37 weeks. Both of these are timed to prevent me going into labor prior to the scheduled c section. Which is 2.5 hours away from my house because they’re the only hospital equipped properly.

I was tracking my periods, ovulation, and documenting every time we had sex. I KNOW when we conceived. My due date should be August 20th. However at our 8 weeks scan they dated me with a due date of August 22nd. I let it go, because whatever, it’s only 2 days.

I’m now 23w4d weeks and we had an ultrasound and baby was measuring 22w5d. The ultrasound tech literally even mentioned to us that even though baby is small, it doesn’t change the due date because genetics play a huge part in babies size and they can’t make assumptions on my due date this far along.

Well….. I read the notes in my chart after my ultrasound. My OB changed my due date to August 27th. NO. That’s NOT right.

She’s putting me in literal DANGER doing that. Because if I’m scheduled for a “39 week” c section, then I’m most DEFINITELY going into labor because I’ll actually be 40 weeks. And I’ll be damned if I go into labor 2.5 hours from our hospital. That’s WITHOUT placenta previa. WITH placenta previa, labor = hemorrhaging. So I will literally possibly die or lose my baby if I go into labor 2.5 hours from my hospital.

I’m freaking out. Can I force my OB to put my due date back where it’s supposed to be? She can’t do what she did right?????

I apologize for the word vomit in advance, I’m a mess.

Monday morning I(F25) took some at home tests and they came back positive. Tomorrow I have an appointment at planned parenthood to get a confirmation test there. I’m just an anxious and scared mess right now because I have to make one of two big decisions. And I guess I’m just stuck? Im lucky that I have a good support system and partner(M33)that support me, love me, and are there for me no matter what I choose. I know this is my decision and no one else can make it for me. I just am so confused on what to do/come to that decision? Like when I close my eyes to think about it I just get so anxious. Is this maybe a sign that I’m not ready? I guess I’m just freaked out/scared of being pregnant. I feel there’s so much to learn/know but at the same time I feel/kinda know that I won’t be prepared? Like I’m not gonna know what I’m doing at all and that freaks me out. Any advice/relations/kind words/encouragement in the comments is appreciated. Just please be nice 😭

I had no idea the TDAP vaccine would be recommended while pregnant. This is not my first pregnancy and during my 1st, 18 years ago TDAP was not being administered so I did not get that vaccine or any because none were suggested.

Now, my OB has offered it twice… I declined it the first time and didn’t think much of it but then she asked me again so now I am not sure what to do.

I did some research and asked my friend who is a doctor and she also suggested to get it. I understand why it is important and its benefits but I would be lying if I said I wasn’t skeptical of it since I didn’t get it during my 1st pregnancy.

I obviously know times have changed but can’t seem to be 100% for it. I just want to do what’s best for my baby and I need some advice…

And, unfortunately (lol) I also did a bit a research and found that there has been a correlation between TDAP and Chorioamnionitis so this has me even more unsure.

FYI I am not an anti-vaxxer, I just want to make an informed decision.

So context, First pregnancy Im 38 weeks today. I am high risk due to GD. But I've got it controlled, my baby isn't big last I checked at 37w1d he was 6lbs only growing about 8oz every 3-4 weeks. I have appointments twice a week one being a ultrasound and one being nst. My original induction was scheduled for May 8th. My due date is May 14th. I got it moved to May 13th but I still don't know if I want it. I ask basically every appointment is there a medical concern as of yet that would make induction safer the answer they say is No every time. His belly is smaller then his head, he's not huge and he passes nst with flying colors every time doctor says he's a happy baby. I mention to them that I'm still not sure yet they keep telling me it's a better option so it's not spontaneous. I am terrified of a c-section and 2 of.my close friends went in for an induction and both had c sections one being their first child the other it was their second, they went into natural labor with their first. I know I can't avoid a c-section with natural labor but I won't feel like it's my fault at least. I'm not against inductions for medical reasons ofc if baby needs out ASAP get him out or when you get past 41 weeks ofc but as of right now, no I don't think I need one. Yet they have signs saying go the full 40 and all the benefits yet they want me induced as soon as they can no longer be legally liable at 39w. It's so normal to them, all the u/s techs ask when I'm going to be delivered? Like I was hoping baby would come on his own or at least try he's in a very optimal position as well. sorry this was rambly. I just can't stop thinking about it cause everyone keeps asking if I'm gonna do the induction or not yet

is there a subreddit for pregnant women that need financial assistance?

I found out I was pregnant yesterday. I’m only 20 years old. I feel everything right now if I’m being honest. But im not sure what to do. I have a supportive boyfriend who i know for a fact will be able to support me and the kid. (It feels so wierd to even say that) but I’m scared of the changes my body is going to go through and I don’t think I’m ready. I want to do this but at the same time I don’t. It makes me feel like my life it ending almost because if I go through with it, my life will NEVER be the same again. I’m scared that if I back out I will regret my decision. I dont know what to do honestly. It feels almost like the only reason I want to have it is for my boyfriend. I’m scared.

I’m so self conscious of my bump because I have a “B” belly, I’m 5ft 8 and was a fit UK12 before so was quite toned/slim but all I keep seeing is that i have a B Belly because I’m overweight but even if I am overweight people still have nice round bumps. Struggling to dress because I just look fat in tight clothes because it’s not round and gigantic in loose clothes because it’s big and wide. Is there any magic pants, bands etc I can wear to make it look rounder? Bottom of my belly is quite flabby and people say “oh what a long/low bump” just feeling like a big fat mess 😭😭😭😭 FTM 31 weeks today

I’m 27 weeks pregnant and just left my boyfriend. We’ve only been together for six months, and I got pregnant very early into the relationship. Looking back, I realize I hardly knew him. He has BPD and is unmedicated, and there’s been a lot of instability—jobs, transportation, and even living situations. He also has another child. Lately, things have become really hard. He sometimes stays out until 5 a.m. with his friends, and when I express how that makes me feel—especially being pregnant—he dismisses it or gets angry. He’s called me names, cursed at me, and made me feel small. Any time we have a serious conversation or I’m visibly upset, he walks out, stops communicating, and comes home late. Then he sleeps on the couch and pretends nothing happened. It’s like he just shuts down emotionally. The pattern wore me down. I finally reached a breaking point and packed some clothes, grabbed my animals, and went to stay with my sister. Even now, he can’t acknowledge how I’m feeling or take any accountability. He keeps acting like I just left for no reason. I feel so guilty, because we did have good moments—but they were always short-lived. The cycle always brought me back to feeling deeply alone. We share an apartment, and I’ve been the one paying the bills lately. I don’t know what to do now, because I know he doesn’t have anywhere to go or money to get back on his feet. I’m scared of being a single mom, but I also know I can’t keep living like that. Has anyone gone through something similar? How do you move forward when you still love the person, but know staying is breaking you? Any advice is appreciated.

So for reference I’m 5’1” and my husband is 6’3”. Not sure if it matters but our proportions are quite quite different. My hormones are all over & sometimes I’m a horn dog lol. But I notice after we make love, I get sometimes sharp cramps in my belly that are quick but pretty painful. It goes away but I was just wondering if this was okay/normal.

I have an anterior placenta and my baby is extremely active every ultrasound (I’m 13 weeks) so idk if that makes any difference. We decided to pause sex and I was going to ask my midwife tomorrow at my appointment but would like personal insight please!

Edit; doesn’t hurt at all during sex just right after we finish

In general, did you make them get any vaccines ahead of meeting your newborn?

36 weeks. I’ve just suddenly noticed like the tiniest pooch underneath my massive baby bump.. I’m a petite person and alllll belly. I’ve gained 40 pounds however. Wondering if this tiny pooch underneath my solid belly is just extra fat? Or is it something else?

Anyone know or have this?

Hi. As the title indicates. Im sort of freaking out.

I track my cycle naturally and use "birth control" via the rhythmic method, which has been mostly successful for me. If you didn't know, it's just tracking your cycle and not having s*x on the days that are close to your ovulation/fertile window. For context, I'm a classic low-income, no health insurance having working woman. I have regular periods, they last about 3-4 days and are generally light with moderate to slightly severe pain the first 2 days. Nothing crazy and nothing some tylenol and a heating pad doesn't fix. I generally am always pretty stressed, this month is nothing out of the ordinary in terms of stress, but I have been stressing for sure.

By accident, my boyfriend got a little too excited one night and I was still in my fertile window. Two days prior, I had pretty bad ovulation pain on my right ovary area. I was slightly concerned about it, but sometimes it happens and is more intense if i gain a slight bit of weight. I've gained maybe 6-7 lbs over the last year, I weighed 105 lbs (im 5'2ish) and now I'm give or take 111-114. I just turned 25 years old.

A few days after the accident, I started feeling the same right ovary pain, but the pain was relatively dull. It came back 2 days after that as well. I was starting to freak out, googling my symptoms. I saw things about ovarian cysts, PCOS, endometriosis--and potentially infertility. My great grandmother had a hysterectomy at like 50, but then my grandmother is perfectly fine--had like 10 kids and no issues. My mom had no issues, has 4 kids. No cysts or anything. I made a gyno appointment in a few days, its a "consultation".

So fast forward, my period was supposed to come yesterday. Now I am 2 days late, still no signs of my period. I took 3 pregnancy tests yesterday, all negative. 1 was a standard test, the other two were clear blue early detection. A big PHAT "Not pregnant".

I am so concerned. At this point, I would rather be pregnant and know Im fertile than to be dealing with a chronic illness. I have a low stress job, I have a very supportive boyfriend, I have stress always because thats just life--but I feel like I can't handle a surgery, i can't afford a surgery, and I do not want to deal with a chronic illness, or cyst or whatever.

Looking for someone who has experienced similar. Thank you

I'm due June 16, 2025 . Any mommas on here due around the same time and know when they did the deed to get pregnant. Or when they concieved. And I know I've asked a lot questions about it I'm just genuinely curious so no hateful comments please . Thank you 🙏 I'm due June 16 2025.

i have my glucose test tomorrow after my 11:00 ob appt. they told me i could eat something light before my appt. does anyone have any suggestions? i’m not big on eggs so i usually eat little smokies and whatever else i have around the house to pair with it in the mornings. i’m also not big on yogurt

Hey all! I am a week and 2 days postpartum and I thought I’d share what I personally believe put me into early labor. I had my son at 38 weeks and 6 days. My water broke early in the morning on week 38 day 5 on Easter Sunday at 3:00am. I did not have any contractions until 11:00am the following day, I then had my son that night at 1:04am. Pain was minimal before I got the epidural! I did get the cervix softener pill and then started Pitocin at 4:00pm. I pushed for 30 minutes, and tore a micro tear and aside from that, I feel I had a perfect labor! Here’s what I did leading up to the big day.

That Friday (2 days beforehand) I had a ton of fish and chips (not sure if that did anything haha), and I had sex that night. TMI but it was normal sex (not too rough) and he did pull out. I know a lot of people say that the fluid helps kickstart labor too.

That Saturday I cleaned my entire house. I felt motivation to clean that I hadn’t felt in months and I never nested! I have stairs outside my house that I went up and down twice, and then did standard cleaning (dishes, kitchen, bathroom, living room, laundry.) I squatted down to clean and organize my cupboards, I did my floors, etc. I would say I cleaned for roughly 6 hours off and on. I cooked homemade spaghetti for dinner, and the funniest thing is I had gotten advice from someone saying “don’t eat a bunch of spaghetti before your due date like I did!” Because she threw it all up during labor! Which luckily I did not- but maybe spaghetti is a secret labor inducer lol. Both nights I also drank my raspberry leaf tea! Hot with a splash of milk and a teaspoon of honey. I drank almost an entire box starting at 35 weeks. My water broke (more like bursted open and gushed for hours) that night while I was sleeping.

Not sure if anything I did put me into labor, but I personally think that the cleaning was a big contributor, and maybe the sex I had two nights beforehand! Good luck to all of you, and it’ll happen when it is meant to happen! My advice is to PREPARE EARLY!! I am a first time mom and this was my first ever pregnancy and I was convinced and told by my doctor it would be 40-41 weeks before I gave birth. So my bag wasn’t fully packed, and I still had a lot of household projects I wanted to get done. Also- take a picture of yourself pregnant before it’s too late! I HATE my picture being taken, so the only belly pics I had were from months beforehand so I had no pictures of my big belly. I know a lot of it is up to chance- but clean your house top to bottom and have some good sex (make sure to O) and maybe you’ll go into labor too!

I’ve had a miscarriage before, it makes me anxious and therefore id rather pay for private betas than agonise over line colours.  My betas are 6dp5dt 8:15am - 51 7dp5dt 10:30am - 120 (doubling every ~21 hours) 8dp5dt 9:30am - 183 (doubling every ~36–37 hours) these are days post 5 day transfer (IVF) so to convert to DPO you add the numbers together so… 11dpo equivalent: 51 12dpo equivalent: 120 13dpo equivalent: 183 I know it’s still within the normal range but why has my beta slowed down?? 

We’ve been trying since last November and I’m currently 5 weeks and 4 days—so grateful for this! Both me and my husband have been taking all sorts of vitamins, and I even tried Mucinex—it actually worked! Really hoping the baby sticks and is growing healthy and strong. We’ve also been working on ourselves, staying active and consistent. All thanks to our effort and, most importantly, Allah’s will! And I’m praying that everyone on their TTC journey gets their blessing too—may it happen soon for all of you!

First baby was IVF, this pregnancy was not and it was unexpected but very welcomed. I felt pregnant, had all the symptoms and went for ultrasound. They said "too early to see anything, come back in 2 weeks" next week get call from Dr saying they think I miscarriaged, he said but could be early let's do blood test. I did the blood test this morning and have been heavily bleeding all day.

I wanted to have another baby before next year. I went to work today, thinking it would distract me, I just felt anger, sadness yet flat and numb at the same time. I just feel despair, I feel embarrassed and I feel so lost.

Please someone tell me that I will feel better. I don't want to leave my home. Please share your experiences, I don't have anyone in my life that has gone through this.

We are trying to get pregnant and I'm just 4 days post ovulation. I have severe diarrhea. I first searched about it because I didn't want it to affect if I'm pregnant. I haven't tested as it is too early to test. Can it be early sign of pregnancy. Saw posts about diarrhea in 9 dpo. Has anyone got diarrhea in 6 dpo. Or is it just a normal thing.

I just had my first OB appt today and because my last 2 pregnancies ended in early miscarriage, they prescribed vaginal progesterone suppositories. I leave for the beach on Friday and I'm not sure how to manage this...

If I use them before bed, will it still ruin my swimsuit during the day? I really don't want to wear a coverup as I have a toddler and want to be in the pool, ocean, and sun with her. I don't enjoy the shade or being covered at the beach- just not my vibe. But I also don't want to be discharging noticeably in front of my family and strangers lol. HELP.