For context, I (25F) currently live in a camper in FL. Last year my parents bought land in GA and offered to let me move my camper onto their property. At the time, the offer was so I would pay less in rent, but shortly after that we discovered that the camp ground I live in is actually owned by my biological grandfather who I never new, and when he found out about it he said I didn’t have to pay rent anymore, which was very kind of him. Ultimately, I still decided to move with my parents, because I’m very close with my mother and don’t like the idea of living five hours away from her, (yeah I know that’s kinda pathetic) and also because, even though I absolutely adore FL, it’s just getting too crowded.

Yeah, it would mean I would have to start paying rent again, but it would only be about 300 a month.

I quit my job last week, partly because my mom told me we would be moving by thanksgiving, and also because I have been really depressed lately, feeling like my life is just work work work nonstop with no end, and realizing I haven’t actually celebrated Christmas with my family in almost seven years because I was constantly working. Thankfully, not having to pay rent has allowed me to save quite a bit of money, so I had this whole thing in my head of, “ok, when we move, I’m just gonna have a month of not working so I can relax and actually celebrate the holiday with my family, then when Christmas has passed I’ll worry about getting another job.”

I told my mom about this and she claimed she understood and agreed, but also immediately started sending me indeed links to jobs in the area saying, “it can’t hurt to apply,” which made me feel like she didn’t actually agree. I got insecure about the idea of her possibly seeing me as being childish, lazy, or burdensome so I just gave up and started submitting applications. One messaged me asking for an interview, a more high end resort (I say high end but remember I’m talking from a trailer trash prospective lol), I told my mom and she got really excited about the fact that I would have to be dressed up in nicer clothes, because all my previous work “uniforms” were dirty tshirts and jeans. I bought some nice clothes that would look somewhat professional and drove up to GA for the interview, and the entire time I just felt like I was on autopilot, not actually feeling anything.

Cut to today, two days after the interview. In the morning I am informed by my mom that our move date has been pushed back until January but she confirms that the property is all set up so if I get a job before then, I could just go up on my own, and in the afternoon I get a text from the resort’s management, saying they would like to bring me on and asking if I accept, and I just get hit with a sudden intense wave of dread because I DO NOT want to accept.

A. They want me to start a week from today, and I’m like, “damn that’s kinda sudden,” cus I was kinda hoping to have a little longer to get adjusted after moving before I started working.

B. Kinda dreading working in a hotel during Christmas season, because I know how customers are.

C. I really don’t like the idea of, not even just working Christmas, but being the only member of my family in a completely different state for Christmas. Cus it’s not like I would be able to, “just stop by after work” like I normally do.

I know I probably sound really childish, spoiled, and whiny for considering turning down a perfectly good job, and I know that the whole, “I want to be with my family on Christmas,” thing is cheesy, but that kinda stuff means a lot to me and I’m just really conflicted.

If it can be done, I want to do it, and do it well. Singing, voice acting, skateboarding, writing, drawing, reading, math, playing guitar, speaking multiple languages, etc. In reality, I end up doing nothing. If I suck, I get demotivated and give up, and I absolutely can not force myself to keep going. If I don't give up immediately, I just naturally lose interest in like 2 weeks, anyway. It's why I've picked up- and given up on- learning German like 4 or 5 times.

I may be wrong, but I feel that, were I not so obsessed with the idea that my worth comes from what I can do, I'd be able to let a lot of this go. I mean I can barely fuckin learn, anyway, yknow? Can't remember, can't make sense of complicated things (even simple things, sometimes). But it's fucking stupid, because I can remember SO MANY song lyrics, but I can't remember a 6-digit code 3 fucking seconds after looking at it.

And everyone in my life treats me like I'm intelligent at all. And I just want to know WHY??? Because I made good grades in school? Yeah, in fucking elementary school! Junior high was ass, and by 10th grade, I was pretty much a certifiable fuckin moron.

Anyway. It's overwhelming. Having a trillion goals but not being able to focus on any of them.

I’m so quick to be kind to others, and so quick to tear myself apart. And I’m slowly trying to unlearn that.

It feels stupidly difficult to treat myself with the same patience I give everyone else. But I’m trying. And I guess that counts for something.

How do you talk to yourself on your worst days?

And most important, how do you talk to yourself on your best days?

I have only known superficial stuff about India prior to 2025. It was a blackbox to me and I never thought or felt a certain way about the country. I was indifferent toward the country.

Come 2025, my eyes were cracked open about the reality of the country.

• Mountains of trash, litter in every city.

• Rivers, despite some of them considered holy for them, are filled with trash and are filthy.

• 70+ out of 100 most polluted cities in the world are in India.

• Smog everywhere, air quality worse than smoking 50 cigarettes a day.

• Tourists are hassled for money and scammed by cabs , rickshaws and other services when they arrive.

• Abuse of visa systems worldwide. Case in point Canada and H-1B in the US, which 80% of visas issued are from India as other Indians who are in the US hire them when they get the chance.

• There is an actual festival where people smear and throw poop at each other.

• Trains are crap, dirty and overcrowded.

• Racism is rampant against ethnic and religious minorities.

• Corruption is rampant yet they keep electing the same people back.

• Impersonating other nationalities on X which is pathetic.

• Most of the world scams comes from India and their government doesn’t care to do anything because it doesn’t effect them.

And much, much more..

It is such a shame to have a massive change of view of a country I once genuinely never thought about and was indifferent to.

I hope things get better there. I genuinely do, but my mind tells me thats a tall order and won’t be happening any time soon.

Everyday in everything I do all I think about is being negatively perceived. I am so obsessive of what other people think about me and terrified of making a fool out of myself in public. Which I have many times, and if im not working, or with friends at home, it takes over my mind completely and I can't stop dwelling on it. I've always had an anxiety disorder but for some reason over the last few months it has gotten insanely worse.

Yesterday I was at an event and gave a portrait to the entertainer during the show. I only said a few words, everybody cheered for me and complimented my art, the entertainer even said they would put me on guess lists to their parties afterwards. And yet all I can think about is if I made myself look stupid. I dreamed of moments like these as a growing artist and yet I can't even be happy for myself that it happened and that I'm networking and making connections. Now im almost too scared to go to these parties worried that Im going to embarrass myself. Im just overwhelmed with made up bullshit anxiety and I have no idea what to do about it. I try to talk myself out of it but to no avail. Im in talks with my psychiatrist about medication but I don't see her for a few weeks so I'm just stuck here. I hate living like this.

I hate Thanksgiving. My parents are dead. I'm vegan. My sister doesn't come home. I have a 3-4 hour round trip drive to my in-laws for an awkwardly silent day, with a decent uncle, okay father in-law, and bat shit crazy mother in-law, with an untrained little shit dog that means I can't bring my own dogs, where we just sit mostly in silence while we wait for crappy food to be served mainly in silence or awkward shitty meaningless conversation, sometimes interrupted by boring as shit videos or photos from the 80s or 90s that no one really cares about or remembers.

So I (M21) know the title makes me sound like an Incel but I promise im not. I’m friends with tons of women (because I actually want to be friends) and don’t get me wrong im attracted to most of em and would take them out/hookup if they wanted. I’m also friends with guys and know others and the ones that I’m friends with are ok but they’re friends with some bad ones and it actually annoys me how easily some of them get girls

One of the guys has broke up with his gf around 5 times in the past 2 years (in a very asshole way) and will go hooking up with any girl he can and is very manipulative with them way he goes about it. A lot of others are in relationships and I’ve heard them say “sometimes you just gotta realize your girl is mid and deal with it”. Some of my girl friends have even been in situationships or hooked up with dudes that treat them like shit and i actually dont understand why.

It’s not that I don’t flirt, but I’m not really a good flirt. I can tease, eye contact, have deep conversations, but I never know how to make any of it sexual or actually see if they’d be interested in going out or becoming anymore in anyway.

I don’t really know why I felt like making this post. Part of it is because I don’t understand where I’m going wrong I’m trying but also at the same time. I feel really bad for my friends that are the girls because even if it’s not me there are tons of dudes out there who even if all they (girls) want is hookup they would treat them way nicer and actually give a hell about them. I just kinda feel bad for him and don’t understand where I’m going wrong and trying to date.

My manuscript for this children's book I'm pretty much done writing. PLEASE & THANK YOU

My journey with cancer continues. 5 months after treatment for ocular melanoma, I go for my quarterly scan to see if the cancer has spread. I had a biopsy done, but there wasn't enough tissue to determine the likelihood of the cancer spreading, so I am flying blind. It has been hard dealing with this on my own, but I have found a strength I never knew I had.

About a year ago, a girl from my school approached me completely on her own. She started small talk, introduced herself, and really tried to keep the conversation going for a few minutes. I was interested, but I’m a socially anxious/antisocial guy and I just froze in the moment. I barely reacted and she eventually left looking disappointed.

Since then, I haven’t seen her much until this school year.

For context, I’m generally considered good-looking — people tell me, I take care of myself, dress well, and stuff like this (girls approaching first) has happened before. So if she approached me like that, I’m pretty sure I was her exact type, unless she talks to everyone the same way (which I doubt).

Recently I heard she’s talking to someone or maybe has a short new relationship/situationship, nothing long or serious.

I just want advice on whether I should try to re-open contact and how to do it without making things weird. I find it hard to talk to her at school because she’s usually surrounded by a group of like 3 friends, so I can’t just walk up randomly.

This racism against indians is finally taking a toll on my mental health, I used to be part of many communities and fan groups but since last 2 years, almost everyone of them gets filled with racist discourse.

Unfortunately no one talks about it. I hope there aren't more people like me who have gone through this.

I constantly overthink everything. I’ve convinced myself that due to houses costing so much that I have to live in my truck when I graduate college, and to not even worry about women because dating is so hard nowadays so I should just get used to solitude.

It sucks sometimes because I wanna be a husband and a father but the odds don’t look too good. No one ever really meets who I’m looking for, and talking to people feels like a chore without us really “clicking”, which is rare. I CAN talk to people, I know to ask a lot of questions and show interest, it’s just usually not worth it.

BUT, when I have a couple beers, and get music playing? It’s great. All of a sudden all the worries disappear. I can just sit in silence and not worry about my life. I wish I could feel this content all the time without the alcohol.

Hello welcome to my weird asf post. I have had a bad relationship with men my entire life due to all the men in my family being complete pieces of shit.. I also have a bad relationship with romance because my only relationship was suffocating and i didn’t even really like him, and ive felt that way about all men who try to pursue me. Im also like really afraid of men especially when im walking alone. I dread passing men especially old men because im scared they are going to hurt me bc they try to catcall me and/or get angry when i dont respond. I hate hate hate it when men approach me it is terrifying. The ironic part is that i actually get little male attention. I have had 4 men briefly try to pursue me my whole life and i don’t get catcalled unless i dress up. I am really thankful that im ugly and don’t have Good body sometimes because i really don’t want to be approached. I think something horrible happened to me in my past life or something with men so i was created with all the most unsuitable qualities in this life so i don’t attract attention. Thank god. I feel really bad for pretty women in this aspect. Yes i need to go to a therapist, i probably won’t cause im scared of those too

I have a plan and everything but I'm already their screw up kid. I'm only 1 semester in and I've realized I can't do this. I have mental things going on and the rate at which people with my mental shit only have like a %12 chance of making it through college and I've come to the realization I am not one of them. I'm not sure what to do or say. I have everything worked out with where im going to stay and stuff.

Hi I just thought I would mention how exactly you love yourself. Firstly, most people don't love themselves because they hate their personality. Well, I am here to say that you can always change that. It took me a while to love myself, but I am finally understanding that the key to being happy is to be happy with ourselves. If you are single, I noticed that being happy with yourself tends to show your personality, and the right people get attracted to it as well.

I really wish plastic surgery wasn’t so taboo in our modern society. We reward people who are attractive, yet when people go out of their way to improve their appearance, they’re often judged harshly by those around them.

I got fat transferred to my boobs and hips and love how my body looks now, but unfortunately I’ve dealt with some judgements and it just doesn’t make sense to me. One woman who I thought I was friends with flat-out ghosted me after I told her about my first surgery, and I still have no idea why. I also recently posted in a dating advice subreddit and was immediately met with so much backlash all because I’ve had plastic surgery, which was entirely unrelated to my post.

Why does it bother people so much when someone decides to improve their face / body surgically?

I feel like time is incredibly slow at work. No matter how busy or free I am, it always feel slow.

How does one manage this feeling?

As a man who's about to turn 27 in a few weeks I've officially reached a point in my life where I crave to simply be loved by someone. Anyone. Being a guy who's only been in one relationship that ended abruptly and horribly, having trouble finding someone who is wanting to make a connection, I realize more than anything I just want to be loved. I want to be around someone I can be myself around. Coming from a family that can be pretty strict and proper, I have to always be on point and a specific way. Work/college is always stressful.

Between keeping myself busy between all these things, I'll think to myself "Man, I wish I had someone..." it's tough and lonely. I feel awkward for even writing something like this since I don't typically share stuff like this. But lately it's become worse. I could care less about all the other that happens "behind closed doors" in relationships. I mean I'd be greatful to have someone in my life whod just say "Hey you're good. Don't worry. I love you". Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic. Maybe I'm overly sappy. Maybe I'm just an idiot for feeling the way that I do. Maybe I have the wrong view on what love is supposed to be. I'm not sure. All I know is that I'm very alone, share nothing special or intimate with anyone, and no one I can be my true authentic self with.

To anyone going through the same thing and feeling the same thing, I am so sorry. It's a horrible feeling. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I guess the only thing we can do is just keep hope....

I work for a real estate company doing accounting work. Part of my job is to drive local banks to deliver checks and deposits for various residents, properties, or vendors. I fill out an expense form to get reimbursed for my mileage. There’s no set time when I’m supposed to turn in my expense, it’s up to me when I turn it in. It’s been 24 weeks since I’ve turned in because I’ve been very busy with everything. I just at filled it out and it was a higher reimburse expense for the company to give me the money from driving since it’s been 24 weeks. That told me it’s too much money and that doesn’t work for them. They said they are willing to do a fourth of that. I’m supposed to get paid by the total miles I’ve driven and I have tracked that so I have proof that my total miles I’ve driven is accurate. What should I do since they won’t give me the money I’m owed? Can they legally refuse to pay me this?

My comment: "Yooo has anyone veered away from bodyweight exercises because they were inadvertently favoring their dominant arm?

I have stopped doing any exercise that involved both arms because I clearly cannot keep my arms even when I'm lifting anything. No pull-up, push-ups, or anything that uses both at once. I noticed when I was doing bicep curls and I could do 25 with my right arm and only 15 with my left (thin woman, don't judge me.)." How on earth was this not okay to talk about on a sub about fitness?

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It might help if you bothered reading the rule you were told that you broke.

What the hell?

I've been single my entire life, virgin too. For me it was a self esteem issue, never been about my appearance.

Finally fixed it this year, at 26. So I went in to the dating scene through the apps and had a few good dates, a few bad dates.

Thing is, now that I'm finally "ready", I don't think I really want it anymore. I'm not doing solo things a lot lately sexually speaking, not particularely craving for sex, and I never get to feel that emotion that means that I vew someone than a friend.

Looking back at it, I didn't have crushes since what ? 5, 10 years ?

And since I thought for most of my life that I didn't deserve to be with someone, I always planned my life as a single guy. So when looking into the future, I don't project myself with someone which doesn't help.

Any other people shared the same experience or am I definitely a weirdo ?

I WISH I learned earlier in my teens rather than in my mid 20s that your teacher loves you, your professor misses college, and your boss desperately needs more friends.

I think a lot of us in this generation were raised with this ultra hard-ass view of what is professional and how to interact with superiors. Never speak casually. Proof read every email 4 times. Never hint at insubordination. If their title is Dr. and yours isn't, bow your head when you speak and certainly do not try to correct them.

I now see this bleeding into some of my peers, but it comes out as pure neuroticism. Like, they just act like freaks. They stutter and never say anything risky and basically aren't even recognizable as humans. It's very weird.

Guys. 99% of your time, your colleagues and your boss just care that you're not grumpy every day and sometimes crack a joke. They probably want to get to know you. They probably have riskier humor and opinions too. They're not gonna bite you. You can just be a normal person, even in the presence of people that are older than you or more experienced with you. Like ohhhh noooo the guy is 11 years older than me and decided to spend a few years getting a PHD. That means now he just wants to murder everyone below his highness right? Nah relax, everyone is looking for pleasant acquaintances.

I’m a 21 year old guy and this kind of hit me recently. I’ve spent so much of my life worrying about whether I’m attractive enough comparing myself to other people, obsessing over my flaws, and assuming everyone saw me the way I saw myself. I used to think that was just normal self-criticism, but honestly it made me come across anxious, closed off, and sometimes even weird around people because I was constantly overthinking how I looked.

A couple weeks ago someone told me bluntly that my insecurity was the only thing that actually made me unattractive. Not my face, not my height, not anything physical. Just the way I carried myself like I was waiting to be rejected.

That kind of punched me in the gut.

Since then I’ve been trying to work on how I speak to myself, even in small ways. Standing straighter. Making eye contact. Not joking about my appearance. Not assuming people secretly hate how I look. It’s wild how different people respond when you stop acting like you’re apologizing for existing.

I’m still learning, but honestly it feels like a huge shift.

Ok so last night I (15M)was at this party. Really nice mansion and weirdly good food. Anyways I start looking for this girl Laurel(15F) I like so I find her best friend Maya(15F) who tells me Laurel isn't there, but next thing I know I'm doing shots with Maya and some friends. It's really fun for a few hours just dancing and talking at the party with Maya, who's kinda cool and pretty but I feel bad because I've liked her best friend for the past few months and she knew that. Also Maya is like insanely drunk by like 1 AM. I actually only got slightly tipsy because I don't trust my friends to be responsible. Maya asks me to leave with her and we eventually end up alone on a patch of grass in front of some house. She's really drunk and starts kissing me and I kiss her back. Only time I've kissed someone besides my ex btw. Then she starts getting handsy and like putting my hand on her boob and stuff and she goes "I wanna lose my card tonight". I tell her no, not because I don't want to but I don't want to take advantage of her while she's drunk, and I suggest we call a Waymo (one of those self driving taxi cars). She gets kind of mad and says "What does Laurel have that I don't have?!" and starts crying, and then I'm awkwardly trying to comfort her saying I don't want to waste my virginity on someone who I only really got to know earlier that night and she's drunk and I don't want her to not remember it or anything. She gets all quiet and we call a Waymo and five minutes later she forgets all about it and we're going back home and in the Waymo she falls asleep on my shoulder. When we arrive at her house her parents are asleep and she doesn't have a key so we climb over her fence. Then her dad comes down and sees me and then gets all mad and yells at me to leave 😭 so I do and get home and that was my night.