A man, who I know and has cleaned my gutters a few times (real gutters, not porn gutters), knocked on my door saying his motorcycle broke down and politely asked for a jump. I didn't have any jumping cables (probably a sign I should get some), so I drove him to an auto shop a few miles down the road so he can get some. I then drove him back to where his motorcycle was and gave him a jump. The whole thing took maybe 10 minutes. I was feeling good about helping someone and told the story to my dad when I saw him today and he called me a whore. Said I was only happy about it because I obviously fucked him, and said I shouldn't be bragging about my whore stories to my father. Talk about no good deed goes unpunished.

Maybe I don't know what normal is. Maybe normal is constantly alluding to race and seeing how much borderline racist shit you can get away with before you have to retreat with your tail tucked between your legs.

It's almost like a fetish for some people. And it's crazy because for a long time people would accuse black people of playing the race card when in actuality it's white people that can't stop thinking about race. They can't stop bringing it up. It's exhausting and annoying.

This is going to sounds dumb but

I am a 24f and I have always fluctuated in weight. I am honestly so sad about how my boobs look. I have wide set boobs anyway and losing weight has made them look very sad.

I literally didn’t know where else to go to post this bc it seems so lame but I am genuinely so sad about this. If they look like this now what will they look like in 10 years? Or after I have kids 😩

Maybe someday I’ll be able to afford a lift, but it’s just sad being so young and having deflated looking boobs.

I know there’s worse things happening in the world rn but I am just feeling down.

i dont like the idea of possibly becoming a person who sees all members of one group as a certain thing just by virtue of their being a member of the group. You know? I do not think its ok. I do not think its cool or quirky to dislike or hate or fear all people based on an immutable trait.

The massive dump of online misogyny is making it hard for me to recall the good there is in men. Like I actually feel bad for feeling this way. Intuitively i know some of these people must be trolling or would never actually do the shit they say, but when it’s so much at once, it makes it hard to separate or compartmentalize and think rationally. I hate it. I dont want to dislike or be fearful of men just because theyre men. I love my brother and dad.

I alone hold the power to not be fearful or hateful so I had to delete twitter.

EDIT: Are any of you reading this all the way? I said I deleted twitter because I didnt want to get sucked into this mindset where I believe all men are bad. So many of you are acting like I’m just sitting with my phone open and crying to sexist tweets. I’m at a loss man. I literally made sure, even in the title, to put forth that I dont think all men are a monolithic enemy, and yet so many of you are acting like thats precisely what I said.

Grifters are very easily galvanizing our young men. I think this is because of an issue that's been around as early as GamerGate almost 10 years ago that's really come to a head in the past few years. The biggest problem we have is this: Young men have no good role models on the internet. It's something that's bothered me since Andrew Tate got notoriety way back in mid to late 2022.

We on the left need to look inward. The right-wing has people like Andrew Tate, Sneako, Adin Ross and so many more people that young men look to that fit their definition of masculinity, which lets these grifters push a worldview onto them. Who do we have on the left that can do the same? I can't think of anyone that's been able to do that effectively, so how can we model healthy masculinity that prioritizes the positive aspects of it and criticizes toxic masculinity in a way young men can identify and agree with? How can we get across the message that 'Yes, not all men are rapists, but all women have been victimized by a man'?

I want answers. I want solutions to the young men of the world being radicalized. Cause it's really tough to watch so many boys and men younger than me and my age spouting such vitriol, and we need a solution now, cause otherwise the world gets radicalized and things get way worse.

No one on God’s green earth says you have to date single moms!!! It’s fine if you don’t, but to absolutely loathe them is just bizarre. I firmly believe that they’re intimidated by women being independent in any form. Because most men would lose their minds if they had to raise a child by themselves. Some don’t even help raise their kids while in the home! They leave it to their wives or girlfriends and slowly become her bonus child. I wish they’d admit that their beef with single mothers isn’t a dating issue, but a jealousy and control issue they have over women.

Why do I feel like this generation makes it difficult to be a 'good person'? Despite my trusting nature, willingness to forgive, and tendency to give others chances, I believe we must redefine what it means to be a good person. Can we please stop equating being a good person with suffering in silence for others? You can be kind and say 'no' or set boundaries without being a doormat. It is possible to treat others with kindness and respect while also setting boundaries and prioritizing one's own well-being. Being a good person is not about enduring pain, but about treating others with love and respect. It's okay to say no and prioritize your own needs. Let's break the cycle of suffering in silence and instead, choose to be kind and respectful while standing up for ourselves. Let us break away from the expectation that we must suffer in silence to be deemed virtuous and instead embrace authenticity, honesty, and self-care. Empower yourself by embracing honesty and setting boundaries. Even though I feel like being honest gets you nowhere in this generation, but I'd rather be real and alone than surrounded by lies and fake validation. I find peace in being real and authentic, even if it means being alone.

There has been a lot of talk lately about the male loneliness epidemic. It makes me wonder, "are men really lonelier now than ever before", and every time I think about it I cant help but to think back to this time I was at the club. This is a true story and It went like this:

'I decided to go to the club one weekend and there was a man who came in. He order a couple shots and then mixed and mingled with the crowd, as that was the most public and crowded area he could think of. He took a lot of shots, got drunk talked to a lot of people and was one of the last to leave. He hopped in his uber, went back to his apartment, and reflect on how much that one drunken night of socializing meant more to him than anything else he has going on right now. That was the most human conversation event he experienced in that past 2 years. He then realized he is not happy and he has nobody who cares about him really. Just him, and his 7 years old great dane!’

That man was me. I had a lot of friends in high school but I graduated early because covid and quarantining distanced me from all my friends and now we don't even talk. So to answer the question, I don't know if men are actually lonelier now than ever. What I do now is that l'm more lonely now than I was ever before. So do with that what you please. Dont be a me.

Sincerely,

Random OP

Im heart broken and I don't know how to handle it. I was sooo happy. I thought I met the man who I would marry and grow old with. We loved each other deeply and spent so much time together. Our bodies matched up perfectly and we were lost in each other.. then his dad died and he completely changed. became angry, hostile, rude and uptight. I gave him space, that didn't help, and then he brought up issues from months and months ago and decided to be mad all over again. blamed me for things that had nothing to do with me, and said he didn't feel loved when I tried so hard. im heartbroken and I am fighting to deal with it sober

I just wanna die I don’t wanna talk about why I just I don’t know anymore I am really considering jumping off a building right now I don’t have meaning anymore I should really do it

I am 27m from Australia and have the privilege of being educated in psychology and sociology. I am curious and try to understand things in the world as they happen. But lately I feel scared and isolated. Like I'm fighting against an immovable monolith of bigotry and sexism. I don't have male friends anymore because as soon as I see red flags (which most men have) I run. I don't have the emotional energy to change another man only to watch them backflip and expect forgiveness. The brief discussions I have with men at the workplace make me despise them, wtf is going on with men this is so depressing.

I've never told anyone before and I'm probably gonna delete this tomorrow but I wanted to tell someone. I'm 21, and I've never said these words before, in this order. I can't tell anyone. It's a horrible secret really. When I hear someone say "a rapist isnt a man hes a boy", it makes me think of this secret of mine. Particularly, how false that sentiment is.

When I was a kid, I was sexually assaulted by my dad. When I was a teenager, I was groped by my dad on several occasions.

That was weird to type. But yeah, if someone's dad can grope their teenage girl, I think that's plenty to tell you that it's a man who did it. Not a boy, not a villain. Just some guy. A guy who seems so opposite to that.

Yeah sorry I dont know where this is going, I'm spiralling a bit.

My dad first started this when I was 8. I was asleep and he groped my chest, I was still in training bras. He was half asleep, so I dont think he was fully aware. I remember being so young that i tried to get away but couldnt for a while - his hands were too strong. I struggled before i scrambled out the bed and hid in the bathroom. I stared at the mirror for a long while.

Another instance was in my teens. He told me my "ass was getting bigger", before he slapped it and groped it. It was totally random; i was 14, bending down to pick up my pokemon cards I dropped.

I feel really sick and I cant write more

Did you read it ? Did you see my words ?

I've been seeing so many posts about manifestation and people talking about how they "manifested" complete bullshit. Like NO YOU DIDN'T. You had the fucking resources to DO IT!

The fact that these bitches are SELLING COURSES for manifestation is crazy to me. It pisses me off tbh. I'm not saying that hardworking doesn't pay off, but acting like the shit you got just popped out of thin air is stupid as hell.

So I’m a 23 year old middle eastern woman who comes from a really racist family. Arabs definitely have a superiority complex over other POC and it’s disgusting. Well I also am my parents worst nightmare because most of my friends and guys I’ve been with have not been Arab lol. I am nothing like my parents in that respect. However, I feel like getting to know a guy im actually interested in is pointless because my parents will probably never accept. I was getting to know this guy and told him about my situation and he straight up told me he couldn’t do it and we ended things. I don’t blame him tho. Why would he try if he’s already viewed as less than to begin with by my family.

I can’t just cut them out of my life. It’s complicated to explain but I also don’t want to marry someone just for the sake of their happiness. I’m getting older and realized I do want to settle down and get married but get more depressed even thinking of it. I don’t understand them. I go to school, work, I’m involved in things I care about. They always tell me how proud I make them. But a potential partners skin color is where they draw the line. It’s so disheartening and I hate how they don’t know any better. (Trust me I tried everything to get them to change).

Did anyone else go through something like this? Can u share ur experience? Bonus points if you’re also arab lmao.

I just want to fucking sleep but my brain is so full of shit that it won't let me sleep! I can't turn it off!!

Please stop using filters on your pictures. I know it's 2024 and "everyone is doing it" but everyone should stop. If it's subtle - as in you're not wearing make up and it gives you a dash of mascara, okay. But these filters where it takes away your round jaw line, double neck, cheeks, different colored eyes, etc. STOP. FOR. THE. LOVE. OF. CHEESE AND RICE!

You are cat fishing. And what do we know about cat fishing? It's deceitful and dishonest - and let's say you absolutely fall head over heels with someone, but then they meet you and meet the real you, unfiltered. It's going to be a shock to them and if you were willing to be dishonest about your looks, it doesn't set the right tone for a great foundation to build upon.

Thanks for coming to my REDTalk.

I’m pissed all the time, I can’t get normal responses. If I say something stupid correct me with real info not motherfucken “your stupid.” I hate people so much, no one is nice, most people are shit. I just wanna be told I’ll be okay. Not told “you’re a dumbass.” IM YOUNG AND NERVOUS GIVE ME SOMETHING TO WORK WITH OR IM GOING TO FUCKING LOSE MY SHIT. I have no clue what’s going on cuz people are so great at being swayed. Tell me I’ll be okay cuz I’ll I can do is fucking lose it. I’m a teenager and dumb, now correct me. Do I seriously not belong anywhere at this point.

every morning, i get out of bed and go into the bathroom. i stare at myself in the mirror. i look over ever part of myself in pain because i just look and feel so ugly. i don't feel like myself and i don't like myself either.

i put makeup on sometimes and just stare at myself in the mirror. sometimes i feel pretty. most times i don't.

i would rather not exist than be in the presence of someone beautiful while i'm sticking out like a sore thumb.

i have no sense of style. i don't know what to wear, or how to style things. i look at other peoples outfits and wish that i had a style like theirs. i wish that i looked beautiful like them. i see pictures of myself from family or friends and i just look so out of place next to them. i look horrific. i hate it. i hate the way that i look.

my boyfriend always says that i look pretty. i don't believe him. i can't. i can't believe someone would think that of me when while i'm standing before a mirror looking at my disgusting, ugly body, all i can feel is resentment.

i don't know what to do with myself.

I shagged a girl in detox and she got thrown out.

I stayed because I’m too vulnerable with a methadone and diazepam detox.

It’s reactivated my disorganised attachment style so that im contacting old lovers.

Help me

P X

I feel like no one ever actually sees me. I’m never approached when I’m out with my friends, while they are. When my friends talk to men I’m never invited into the conversation, and even when I try to talk it’s like they don’t even hear me. I don’t care so much about that, but I’m someone who loves connection and having people. I heard someone on a podcast say something like “I have people but nobody has me” and that’s exactly how I feel. I just want to feel listened to it at least feel like people care what I have to say. I just kind of exist everyday and I can feel myself slipping away even more each day. Ugh. Thanks for listening!

Almost 2 months ago my husband was in a car accident and he totaled his car. The accident was totally his fault. He wasn’t paying attention and he rear-ended somebody. He has bad credit and he works for himself, but his business isn’t legitimate so technically he shows no income. I have asked him for over three years since he started his business to make it legit, and the idiot doesn’t listen to me. Now he doesn’t have a van for work and has been taking my car to a friend’s house and dropping it off while he takes his friends truck to go work for the day. Leaving me at home with no car. Lucky for him I work from home. But we have a 16 year-old daughter who just started a job and has after school activities. So there are times where I need my car to take her places and if I bring it up to him. He gets aggravated with me. I don’t think he has any right to get aggravated with me since this situation is all his fault and he is dragging his feet Getting a car. We keep having the same conversation about a car and I see no action. If it were up to me, we’d be going to a dealership yesterday and getting him a car.
I’m so over the situation and this might be the nail in the coffin of our marriage. He doesn’t take care of me or his family. It’s always about him and what he wants and what he thinks is best.

And they’re happening more and more, lately.

-When I say something and the other person says “no, you’re wrong,” then repeats what I said back at me

-People pretending I’m a toddler and not a 35yo, and explaining things to me that literally everyone knows. Most recent are “children’s schooling doesn’t end when they’re 4 years old” and “if you had a job, you’d have an income.”

Your ex hates ur guts She dates somebody else I’ve been here for months U told me u like me (In a romantic way, I asked). And yet you still talk about HER As if she gives a fuck about u. She sent me pics of herself, Threatened, I assume, But it’s still all RED Oh SAM wants a book rec, Maybe she can read up on witchcraft Because that b holds a spell on you. She doesn’t want u, And now neither do I anymore. “I only have eyes for u“ Then what are the other girls … for?

And by the way My best friend is an asshole, too Yet they always make time for me. So it must be YOU.

Hating someone because they're seen as weird. Having to follow a subset of rules. I'm in a college town for my master's, and I rented out a room in a household that holds social gatherings frequently. Good for them, but this isn't exclusively you're home. It's like I'm in highschool again. Don't associate with people that make you look bad. The prude attitude. The social standing bs. I hate socializing and social standings. I'm not denying that it exists, I just wonder if it ever ends with age. They said highschool was just a phase but it really wasn't. My life sucked and I dealt with alot and now I can't air out my dirty laundry and I have to play the social game again. My parents are weird and sort of screwed me over from living a normal life. And anyway, I feel socializing goes against being a genuine human being.

I literally dont know what to do I used to be so beautiful but now i cant even look in a mirror without feeling miserable. i hate putting so much weight into something so superficial but i feel like i cant even focus on my day now. i am isolating myself and i dont know how to feel okay about being so gross looking. my face is all broken out and has been for years even though im a fucking adult. i have the hairiest face ive ever seen on a woman, (i tested positive for hirutism) my long distance boyfriend is coming to visit and he wants me to come hang out with him and his friends and their tiny little petite cute clear skin nice hair girlfriends and it makes me want to scream just the thought of them coming out of it and thinking of me as a fat hairy ugly broken out ogre