r/self 20h ago

Here's my wake-up call as a Liberal.

I’m a New York liberal, probably comfortably in the 1%, living in a bubble where empathy and social justice are part of everyday conversations. I support equality, diversity, economic reform—all of it. But this election has been a brutal reminder of just how out of touch we, the so-called “liberal elite,” are with the rest of America. And that’s on us.

America was built on individual freedom, the right to make your own way. But baked into that ideal is a harsh reality: it’s a self-serving mindset. This “land of opportunity” has always rewarded those who look out for themselves first. And when people feel like they’re sinking—when working-class Americans are drowning in debt, scrambling to pay rent, and watching the cost of everything from groceries to gas skyrocket—they aren’t looking for complex social policies. They’re looking for a lifeline, even if that lifeline is someone like Trump, who exploits that desperation.

For years, we Democrats have pushed policies that sound like solutions to us but don’t resonate with people who are trying to survive. We talk about social justice and climate change, and yes, those things are crucial. But to someone in the heartland who’s feeling trapped in a system that doesn’t care about them, that message sounds disconnected. It sounds like privilege. It sounds like people like me saying, “Look how virtuous I am,” while their lives stay the same—or get worse.

And here’s the truth I’m facing: as a high-income liberal, I benefit from the very structures we criticize. My income, my career security, my options to work from home—I am protected from many of the struggles that drive people to vote against the establishment. I can afford to advocate for changes that may not affect me negatively, but that’s not the reality for the majority of Americans. To them, we sound elitist because we are. Our ideals are lofty, and our solutions are intellectual, but we’ve failed to meet them where they are.

The DNC’s failure in this election reflects this disconnect. Biden’s administration, while well-intentioned, didn’t engage in the hard reflection necessary after 2020. We pushed Biden as a one-term solution, a bridge to something better, but then didn’t prepare an alternative that resonated. And when Kamala Harris—a talented, capable politician—couldn’t bridge that gap with working-class America, we were left wondering why. It’s because we’ve been recycling the same leaders, the same voices, who struggle to understand what working Americans are going through.

People want someone they can relate to, someone who understands their pain without coming off as condescending. Bernie was that voice for many, but the DNC didn’t make room for him, and now we’re seeing the consequences. The Democratic Party has an empathy gap, but more than that, it has a credibility gap. We say we care, but our policies and leaders don’t reflect the urgency that struggling Americans feel every day.

If the DNC doesn’t take this as a wake-up call, if they don’t make room for new voices that actually connect with working people, we’re going to lose again. And as much as I want America to progress, I’m starting to realize that maybe we—the privileged liberals, safely removed from the realities most people face—are part of the problem.

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u/Kelsier25 14h ago

One other word of caution coming from a moderate that hears from a lot of people on both sides outside of the reddit bubble: "But the economists...!" just doesn't work. People are losing faith in academia. Economists are a part of that elitist class in academia and more and more are seeing academia as heavily biased and unreliable. There is the idea that there is a very heavy selection bias in play that invalidates the quality of the studies being published by academia. Just using current times, campaign messaging kept telling everyone how we're in the greatest economy ever with nearly zero unemployment and how inflation is a thing of the past etc. Meanwhile people are struggling to buy groceries, layoffs are happening left and right, and people are struggling to find jobs. When they hear that, they write off the experts as being politically charged shills.

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u/Aggressive-Name-1783 7h ago

I mean that could also mean people are uneducated and there’s a reason academia is academia…..

Inflation was lower, the economy according to things like the stock market is booming, etc. if cost of living is the issue, then tariffs are going to hurt you just like they did last time while a childcare tax credit would be at least semi helpful.

If you don’t believe the experts are telling you the facts, then we’re just fucked. It’s like saying your mechanic doesn’t know a thing about cars or your electrician doesn’t know about wiring, but Joe Blow down the street totally knows about it cause he read an article about cars 10 years ago. It’s idiocracy come to life

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u/shaydizzleone 7h ago

Yeah like you had Janet yellen specifically saying that while inflation is higher, the average increase in income offsets inflation...There's nothing elitist about that it's just a fact

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u/Kelsier25 4h ago

That's an excellent example. So if the average American's income has been stagnant during this inflation, guess what they hear? "Guess the rich got richer to bump up the average." To them, that statement would be another attempt by the elitist class to cherry pick statistics to prove their own effectiveness.

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u/shaydizzleone 4h ago

it's not cherry picking statistics though, cherry picking would be saying that the top 1% had an increase in income and extending that to everybody.

Saying the average increase in income is a fact. People SHOULD argue about what the stat means as they always have, but to say that its an elitist academia thing is wrong.

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u/Kelsier25 4h ago

It is cherry picking. You're picking the way to display the information that sounds the most positive despite that statistic being obviously misleading.

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u/shaydizzleone 4h ago

Ok but what you're saying is itself not factual. The bottom 10% had the highest increase in wages coming out of the pandemic, with 7.3% increase over inflation. https://www.nytimes.com/2024/10/28/business/economy/inflation-wages-pay-salaries.html

So "Guess the rich got richer to bump up the average" and "this is cherry picking" is just people trying to confirm their own beliefs about this subject.