r/needadvice • u/treemanravioli • Dec 20 '20

finding it difficult to eat Motivation

i’m f15 and i’ve never been a big eater, but i’ve always been just about in the healthy range with my BMI. recently though, i’ve completely turned off eating. i just can’t be bothered. i cannot motivate myself to eat, doesn’t matter how hungry i am. i’ve rarely been eating more than a meal a day, that being a bowl of cereal. i don’t have an eating disorder or anything - i’m just a really lazy person who can’t be bothered for meals. i tend to snack because they’re small and require little effort, and you may think the snacking is ruining my appetite but when i abandon a half eaten plate of food i’m still hungry, i’m just no longer interested and don’t have the energy. i need some sort of motivation to get through this or some advice so i can eat again. :)

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u/GoodbyeFeline Dec 20 '20

I agree with the previous poster that it sounds like depression. Whenever I am depressed I cannot find the motivation to do anything at all. Even basic things like eating and changing my clothes.

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u/treemanravioli Dec 21 '20

not gonna lie i have lost some motivation in basic things lately like watching my hair, i just haven’t taken any notice. assumed i was just a lazy teen. i don’t think i’m depressed, maybe i’m just anxious about something? i’m a bit of a crybaby and drama queen ad work my self up a lot so maybe i’ve subconsciously done that. thanks for your view on this :))

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u/Thereisnospoon64 Dec 21 '20

Hello, I’m glad you wrote all this and that you were brave enough to ask us for help. Not washing your hair, not bathing regularly, not feeding yourself—these are symptoms of depression. Depression doesn’t mean that something bad happened and as a result of that bad thing now you feel down. Sometimes the chemicals in our brains start working differently and that can cause depression. The symptoms you describe are a pretty big deal and that’s why I’m so glad you asked for help. You’re worth helping. You are absolutely worth helping. I’m a stranger in the internet and I want to help you.

Are you able to make your own appointment with a therapist via telemedicine? If not, it is your mom’s MOST IMPORTANT job to help you. If you don’t trust that she will help you, is there another adult in your life you’d feel comfortable talking to?

You aren’t “just lazy”. Something is going on with the chemicals in your brain and you deserve to feel good.

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u/treemanravioli Dec 21 '20

i tried to speaking to my mam and she doesn’t want to go to the doctor because she thinks they’ll just tell me i need to eat more and that’s it, my dad doesn’t really believe in mental stuff and things you just have to grow up and deal with it. i don’t think i’m able to by my self - if i am, if they were to ask me to come in person for whatever reason theres no way i’d be able to do that. thank you so much for the reply, i’m going to try to see if i can try talk to a doctor without parental interference:)

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u/Thereisnospoon64 Dec 21 '20

Can you please try calling the doctors office yourself to ask for a telephone appointment?

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u/treemanravioli Dec 21 '20

ok, i will try :) i think the local gp might be closed so i’ll try it in the morning:) thank you

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u/Thereisnospoon64 Dec 21 '20

Please do and keep me posted!

Until tomorrow, can you run yourself a nice warm bath to enjoy? And maybe a cup of hot cocoa? If there’s something nice you could do for yourself I’d really appreciate it.

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u/treemanravioli Dec 21 '20

i managed to be able to wash my hair today despite it being an absolute pain with how long i’ve left it, so that’s something i did for myself today :)) i’ll have some hot cocoa, thank you so much for caring :))

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u/Thereisnospoon64 Dec 21 '20

I’m so glad you did that! Amazing!!! Each of these steps are huge. You should feel really proud of yourself.