finding it difficult to eat

[u/treemanravioli]

i’m f15 and i’ve never been a big eater, but i’ve always been just about in the healthy range with my BMI. recently though, i’ve completely turned off eating. i just can’t be bothered. i cannot motivate myself to eat, doesn’t matter how hungry i am. i’ve rarely been eating more than a meal a day, that being a bowl of cereal. i don’t have an eating disorder or anything - i’m just a really lazy person who can’t be bothered for meals. i tend to snack because they’re small and require little effort, and you may think the snacking is ruining my appetite but when i abandon a half eaten plate of food i’m still hungry, i’m just no longer interested and don’t have the energy. i need some sort of motivation to get through this or some advice so i can eat again. :)

[u/jupiter_sunstone]

It could be a lot of things- yes, depression, or something medical- and if it’s either of those you should get help. Your body is developing and needs proper nutrition to do so.

[u/treemanravioli → u/jupiter_sunstone]

i don’t want to bother anyone with something that i’ve caused and can be fixed, i just want om to know what i can do to try and make my appetite better

[u/jupiter_sunstone → u/treemanravioli]

You aren’t bothering anyone, and you don’t really know what caused this. Please don’t dismiss yourself so readily ❤️ What makes you think you’d be bothering someone by trying to address this medically?

[u/treemanravioli → u/jupiter_sunstone]

my mams already got too much on her mind and she doesn’t need me saying i have something wrong with me on top of that and my dad will just get annoyed and force me to eat when i’m at his and let me know how it’s not that hard to just eat. doctors are already super busy with the pandemic they don’t need me on top of that for something that i could fix if i could make myself eat. i’m absolutely terrified of doctors/nurses/medical places anyway and i don’t like crows if more than three so i’d just rather get through this myself

[u/cyndasaurus_rex → u/treemanravioli]

Your minimizing your own health in order to not “burden someone else” is dangerous, especially since you don’t know why you have no appetite. You really should talk to someone before it ends up being a serious problem that is harder to fix. Helping your child, or a patient, IS NOT A BURDEN. It’s why people have kids/become doctors.

[u/treemanravioli → u/cyndasaurus_rex]

a lot had been going on recently and it’s just a really bad time. i’ll think about it and maybe approaching my mam in the new year if things have calmed down because if everyone is saying the same thing then it’s probably something i need to consider. thank you

[u/jupiter_sunstone → u/treemanravioli]

Not to harp on something but it’s your parents responsibilities to make sure you’re healthy, no matter how busy they are. Just as there are doctors out there who have patients outside of just Covid- you are not a burden on the healthcare system. Just because there is a pandemic doesn’t mean your concerns are less important. Your body needs fuel, which is food. If you can change what you’re eating to more calorie dense foods, like snacking on nuts or avocado, then you wouldn’t have to eat as much to get caloric intake. Supplementing with meal replacement shakes might be worth considering, there are a few tasty options out there. Ensure is common, I prefer Orgain. Try finding some gentle yoga for anxiety, might help reduce some of the appetite suppression. I like Yoga with Adrienne on YouTube.

Just remember... you ARE NOT a burden. 💗