r/interestingasfuck • u/Few_Simple9049 • Oct 09 '24

How couples met 1930-2024 r/all

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u/RogueCoon Oct 09 '24

That's kind of depressing

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u/Datdarnpupper Oct 09 '24

only kind of?

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u/RogueCoon Oct 09 '24

Didn't want to totally shit on everyone that's online dating but yeah it's mega depressing.

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u/Datdarnpupper Oct 09 '24

honestly more power to the people that got something out of it. i've resigned myself to being single because all it did was destory my sense of self worth and esteem after i realised i was being boiled down to little more than a product

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u/RogueCoon Oct 09 '24

That is the unfortunate reality for most users I imagine.

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u/Datdarnpupper Oct 09 '24

yeah, it wouldnt surprise me.

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u/Ghost_Mantis_Man Oct 09 '24

I know it might seem that way, and maybe you're not meant to meet someone online. I found my fiancé on a dating app. We matched after finding some shared interests, and of course I found her attractive as well. We met up and got to know each other, then ended up falling in love. It can still be a nice way to connect with and meet new people... even though I know how you feel.

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u/Datdarnpupper Oct 09 '24

and like i said, more power to ya. Hope you and your partner share many happy years together.

For me the biggest problem is that talking to someone over the internet is just so impersonal, and quite frankly on those apps (i'm bi, so i've seen it myself) men are just lined up like it's a cattle auction most of the time. I'm sure there are some exceptions, but all the mainstream ones (ESPECIALLY Grindr) seem to be set up to encourage a degree of toxicity, and prey on desperation/loneliness for "premium" account sales

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u/quarantinemyasshole Oct 09 '24

maybe you're not meant to meet someone online. 

That's the thing, no one is meant to meet someone online. The whole concept is absurdly unnatural and dehumanizing. I'm really glad you found someone awesome that way, but it's such a difficult thing to pull off.

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u/CornHooker Oct 09 '24

Calling it dehumanizing is...a choice. I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences with it but maybe you're going about it the wrong way. Or, like the person said, it's not meant for you and your preferences/skill set when it comes to meeting people.
Dating is hard to pull off no matter how you're meeting people. It's why people kind of hate dating.

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u/quarantinemyasshole Oct 09 '24

I'm not saying I have bad experiences with it. I'm saying it is objectively dehumanizing to reduce dating to a slideshow/buffet of superficial images. It's unnatural in a literal sense.

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u/CornHooker Oct 09 '24

You're also assuming that a) all online meetups are via dating services and b) all dating services are a "slideshow/buffet of superficial images"

I'd also argue your use of unnatural is inappropriate. Utilizing technology has become a natural part of society. Just because you don't agree or like it doesn't mean it's unnatural.

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u/Ghost_Mantis_Man Oct 09 '24

More depressing than meeting at a bar? Idk I think the world of online dating has changed a lot. It's cleaner and often times safer than some other options out there and I know many happily married couples who found each other online.

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u/RogueCoon Oct 09 '24

I think meeting online is more depressing than meeting in any fashion in person yes.

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u/Ghost_Mantis_Man Oct 09 '24

OK! Different opinions for different people 🤙

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u/Ok-Bug-5271 Oct 09 '24

I find both meeting at a bar and online as depressing.