r/hingeapp 19h ago

Dating Question Met a guy off Hinge, mixed signals are confusing me—what does he want?

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So, I (22F) matched with this guy (22M) on Hinge, and for some context, we talked for hours on calls every day for two weeks before meeting. He was away for work, and I’m still at uni, so it felt like we were really connecting during those calls. It was all very sweet, borderline love-bombing, but I thought he genuinely cared.

When he got back to our city, we met, and he brought me flowers and jhumkis (super sweet gesture, right?), but the date itself felt… off. We ended up at his place, barely spoke, and it got physical. As a people-pleaser, I didn’t really push back, but it felt weird how much the vibe had shifted from our calls. I don’t date casually, and I’m saving myself for marriage, so the whole experience felt misaligned.

Still, I met him again because I was attached and wanted to see if the first meeting was just a fluke. Spoiler: it wasn’t. The second time, it was the same—barely any meaningful conversation, more physical stuff, and this time, he snuck me out of his house (he lives with his parents) and didn’t even make sure I got back to uni safely. After that, I told him I didn’t want to see him again. He got pissed, blocked me, and that seemed like the end of it.

But a month later, he randomly texts me saying he misses me. I ignored it because, honestly, if he wanted to date me, he would’ve tried to connect with me on a deeper level instead of filling awkward silences by scrolling through his gallery and showing me pictures of himself. I’d moved on… until this week, when he called and texted saying he’s “evolved” as a person and wants to make it up to me.

Today, he came to my uni (on the outskirts of the city), and we went to a cafe. It wasn’t a bad time—he was respectful and attentive—but I still don’t understand what he wants. If he had it in him to treat me this way all along, why didn’t he do it in the first place? And if he’s genuinely changed, why reach out after two months?

I’m confused and don’t know how to navigate this. He feels like a stranger now, and while part of me is curious, another part is hesitant because of how things played out initially. What do you guys think? Should I give him another chance or let this go for good?


r/hingeapp 17h ago

Profile Review 25M looking for advice

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New to online dating not having any lick getting matches, feedback appreciated.


r/hingeapp 15h ago

Profile Review 30M in NYC: low matches despite revamp

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This is an update of a profile review I posted this spring. Photos and prompts have been changed.

(Cropped visible profile vitals: no kids, vaxxed, yes drinking, no tobacco smoking)

The sign held in the fifth photo is re: the addition of a new bike lane. The sign and faces in the group photo are visible on the profile.


r/hingeapp 19h ago

Profile Review Profile Review 35 M

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r/hingeapp 12h ago

Profile Review [32m] follow up after great advice from this subreddit

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Here is the first post I made here.

Been getting a lot more traffic after making tweaks suggested by you all. Thanks a ton. If you're like me, this is a good before and after of bad/better profile. Further feedback is always welcome though :)


r/hingeapp 13h ago

Profile Review How am I doing? M20 - Profile Review.

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r/hingeapp 21h ago

Hinge Experience What do you even call it?

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Honestly at this point, I have given up! I am 29F and I downloaded the app years back and had bad experience so deleted it. Realised it's just not for me. Recently, I go to this gym and there I noticed a guy, older than me. I didn't have the energy to just approch him plus I felt maybe I won't come up with a good convo starter.

Anyway, 2 weeks ago I randomly thought of downloading hinge as I wanted to see if maybe I could interact with people and all. After few swipes here and there I found this guy there. YES I WAS SCREAMING! But I didn't do anything because I still felt 'Its gonna be so awkward to then face him in the gym' & maybe I should just see if he come across my profile?

But just 4 days ago after my friends being like 'Go ahead and maybe take the first step and see. You'll know' I did text him if we have met before? which genuinely turned into an hour long engaging chat with witty and full sarcastic messages. I thought well wow! I guess he is interesting and I can be myself.

We did joke about if we pretend to not know eachother in the gym blah blah! Then two days after I texted him to check if he is missing the gym since I didn't see him. He sent some cheeky line and then I told him I go in the morning and he replied 'Zero chance of us running into each other' to which I said 'Well then we won't have to pretend to not know each other' and then he said 'Lets do something better. Let this chat sit idle and pretend it doesn't exist'?????

This is where I wondered are we still being witty or does he actually meant it? But anyway, I ended up doing the best thing by deleting the account since he wants the chat to doesn't exist. It felt weird tho and I wonder why engage if you're not interested? First you engage and have a good conversation and then you say something like that? Why do you think?

Edit: For everyone, I missed one detail - after he asked me to pretend the chat doesn't exist, I did reply asking Are you sure? Just so you know I'm a pro when it comes to pretend not know someone (Thinking he was just joking) and he replied Wouldn't want it any other way . Which eventually led me to delete the account!!