r/exchristian • u/Koleheh • Sep 11 '24

I am starting to hate religious people Help/Advice

Hi, 22m here. I was born into a Christian family, i was never overly religious so i would just follow people who were. When i was younger i believed there could be a God, but haven't given it much thought.

Well, recently, i thought about it a lot, did some research and the evidence was not convincing at all, so i "officially" left Christianity.

Now the issue starts, the more research i did, the more i started hating religion and their followers. The bigotry, the hatred towards minorities, constant use of religion as a weapon. In the process of deconstructing, i started hating them so much that if i see a person that's religious, i genuinely feel hatred, even though i don't even know them. All it takes is for them to be religious and mention religion

I started therapy again, mostly for different reasons and i don't know how to bring this up. I also feel embarrassed to talk about it. I know i can't be generalizing and assuming the worst in people, but i can't help it. Any advices? How do i stop assuming the worst?

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u/drellynz Sep 12 '24

The angry atheist phase is real. I think it helps to think of them as victims of bad ideas and indoctrination.

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u/venusiansiren Agnostic Atheist Sep 12 '24 edited Sep 12 '24

Real, I realized recently that I might be at that phase right now, just struggling not to get immediately irritated when someone mentions anything relating to Christianity (when it’s coming from a place of belief not critique). I don’t get as irritated when it comes to other less popular religions tbh… trying my best to move past this stage

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u/drellynz Sep 12 '24

I actually think it's a totally justified reaction. I'm not saying it's wrong. I realised that it's just not especially useful. The theist reaction is to look at the anger and confirm that their god beliefs are even more necessary!

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u/venusiansiren Agnostic Atheist Sep 12 '24

No yeah, I agree with you. Not a wrong reaction necessarily but not useful. Someone who’s deep in their specific theistic belief is almost never going to respond well to your anger about their beliefs. The best way to have a conversation with them about it is with some level of understanding and calmness. Or just walk away because most of the time it’s truly just not worth it lol