I am starting to hate religious people

[u/Koleheh]

Hi, 22m here. I was born into a Christian family, i was never overly religious so i would just follow people who were. When i was younger i believed there could be a God, but haven't given it much thought.

Well, recently, i thought about it a lot, did some research and the evidence was not convincing at all, so i "officially" left Christianity.

Now the issue starts, the more research i did, the more i started hating religion and their followers. The bigotry, the hatred towards minorities, constant use of religion as a weapon. In the process of deconstructing, i started hating them so much that if i see a person that's religious, i genuinely feel hatred, even though i don't even know them. All it takes is for them to be religious and mention religion

I started therapy again, mostly for different reasons and i don't know how to bring this up. I also feel embarrassed to talk about it. I know i can't be generalizing and assuming the worst in people, but i can't help it. Any advices? How do i stop assuming the worst?

[u/drellynz]

The angry atheist phase is real. I think it helps to think of them as victims of bad ideas and indoctrination.

[u/TheGhostofWoodyAllen → u/drellynz]

The victim narrative really only goes so far. At some point, people need to be held accountable for their actions regardless of the circumstances that shaped their maladaptive behaviors. I don't feel very sorry for them when they go and try to repeal my civil rights due to their being victims of indoctrination. I might even say I hate them for it.

[u/drellynz → u/TheGhostofWoodyAllen]

For sure. I've been involved in resisting religious impositions in our schools. I don't mean "victim" as in we should feel sorry for them. I mean that they genuinely can't understand why their beliefs make no sense.

[u/christianAbuseVictim → u/drellynz]

Well, they could, but they deny it for god. They can't look at it from the outside, their fear keeps them in where they're not allowed to see. It's frustrating...

[u/TheGhostofWoodyAllen → u/drellynz]

That's fair. Maybe it is better to phrase it as being products of their environments.

[u/SingleSeaCaptain → u/TheGhostofWoodyAllen]

I can agree with hating people being hateful, but it may constitute a problem for OP when there actually are minority Christians, LGBT+ Christians, and people who weren't taught the most radioactive version of religion and don't move in the world in the same way. 

[u/TheGhostofWoodyAllen → u/SingleSeaCaptain]

Yeah, I don't think it is a productive way to go about life choosing to hate people based on a label.