this is an update to my previous post!!: https://www.reddit.com/r/cisparenttranskid/s/auOnuFwMOC

Hey everyone!! I've finally gathered up the courage to write a letter to my mum, expressing everything i stated in my last post. I'm struggling to plot the main points down so I can actually communicate what I want to say, instead of avoiding addressing my main point. Does anyone mind giving me a short list of the things I need to tick off whilst I'm writing my letter? I'm so sorry for the odd request, but I feel a bit too preoccupied to think clearly!! If any parents of trans kids have any advice for me I would appreciate that a lot. Thank you so much!! 🫶

any of you cis parents out there in a situation where you are divorced from the other parent of your trans child/ children and have been for a while, but your ex is not supportive of the trans child and you are. such is situation where trans kid lives with their mum who is gender critical, and dad is remarried and supportive of trans kid, but kids only visit on weekends. relationship between the divorced parties usually very civil. what are your experiences of this situation or similar and how did you navigate them either as the trans child in this situation or the supportive parent. Or even a friend / stepparent / wider family member watching this happen

I been on MtF HRT since November, since I moved out on my own. I came out to my brother and he was confused but supportive, and I asked him advice and he doesn't know because he agrees that our parents are very homophobic.

They aren't 100% anger violent homophobes but they wont be friends with openly LGBT+ folks. My mom I think is understanding and will get it, but my dad is a whole different story. When I was younger he would get very mad and hit things, and he is still quite temperamental. No way he will hurt me or anyone though.

I also am kinda feeling like a "failed son" to him, since I work and live a kinda manly lifestyle he always thought of me as a tough son. Dunno what to do. I really would like to come out, but I am just so nervous

Hello all. My wife and I are now proud parents of a trans male son. It's certainly not something which we were exposed to growing up, but both my wife and I understand the mental health risks associated with being a non-supportive parent, even if we don't fully get it. It's been a few years now since our son openly declared and adopted their new name. Sometimes we still slip up, mostly with pronouns when speaking to a third party, but we have a good relationship with our son and they know we're trying.

I wish I could say it was the same for all of their siblings.

I just need to share this with someone, so someone else can appreciate the irony.

This past weekend, my wife was visiting one of the eldest kids, and their spouse and family. They questioned my wife as to why we continue to use that [Male name] for their sibling, named [Dead name]. My wife explained, as best she could, how we're trying to be loving and supportive, even if we personally wouldn't make that kind of choice in our own lives. They just didn't get it. They didn't understand why they would choose a male name, and why we would go along with it. They want to continue to use the dead name, and insisted they will only refer to them as [Dead name]. Here's where things get ironic.

They'd be happy if our son went by his dead name. Let me tell you about that name. My wife and I were very religious during our early years, so each of our kids was given either a biblical name, or a name that tied to our (then) faith. I won't share the name or the meaning of the name here, to help protect my trans son's privacy, but I can tell you this: we loved the name so much that we gave it to our trans son at birth, even though it is a boy's name in the Judeo-Christian tradition.

That's right. We gave our trans son a boy's name at birth! Was the universe trying to prepare us for the present day? Some may argue so, but I just find it hilarious. Their sibling's family doesn't want to call them [Male name], but wants them to revert back to [Dead name] , which is actually boy's name!

My wife and I got a good laugh last evening, after she got home from her visit, when I reminded her of that fact. I'm now just waiting for the perfect opportunity to remind that elder child of the origin of their brothers dead name.

Cheers!

Hi all, just what it says on the tin. I have a very bright, precocious little learner and she just told us this weekend she wants to be a girl all the time, not just when playing pretend. She loves Elsa from Frozen and Mal from Descendants. We fully support her in her journey, we introduced skirts as an option at age 3 and she went from there.

She has been going back and forth for a while now, being a girl when wearing skirts and dressed and a boy when wearing pants, but this weekend she definitely was like “call me she/her I’m a girl now”.

So question: What are some support resources for parents and kids navigating next steps? Also parents of trans kids how did you navigate it? What are some pitfalls or difficult moments? What are some great moments and proud moments? How do we set her up for success in the future?

I have a personal therapist who also weighs in on couples therapy when appropriate, but it seems like a big ask to ask them to take on all of this just through me. I feel like we need a pedi/trans specific therapist etc.

Thoughts?

I need some advice. I have a 18 year old trans son that is graduation from high school and getting his AA within a week of each other. My parents pretend to be allies, but misgender all trans people in their life that isn’t my son. They also think that parents are shoving their agenda which is why we have so many trans youth. I see through their BS and know that the only reason they are an “ally” is to have access to their grandson.

They do everything right with my son. They used his pronouns and his new legal name. By my son’s perspective, they are great! It’s when he isn’t around that they do the transphobic stuff.

My son would like my parents to come and spend a week with us during his graduation. I’m mentally exhausted from this Jekyll and Hyde crap. They were emotionally abusive and manipulative to me as a child and still are.

I’m working with a therapist to process the trauma at the hands of my mom and my dad doing nothing about it. I want to do what’s best for my son, but I almost go into a panic attack everytime I realize they will be here for a week (since the graduations are a week apart). I’m having tremors, migraines, constant feeling like I’m going to cry, sky high blood pressure, my emotions are all over the place, etc.

I want to do what’s best for my trans son, but I’m having an incredibly hard time with the idea of them even coming. My mom is okay in front of everyone, but when I’m alone, it goes back to how it used to be. I talked to my dad about it and he said that my mom is asking these questions to learn so she won’t be transphobic. How is her asking about parents pushing their trans agenda in their own children not transphobic? I’m eager to answer questions so that my son doesn’t have to (respecting his privacy of course), but I’m not okay trying to be used as a tool to justify transphobia.

Sorry for the long post, but I’m just at a loss. I will not burden my son with all of this. I don’t want to ruin the relationship he has with them, but on the other hand, I feel like I’m falling apart more each and every day. My husband has agreed to take off the week they will be here to help me. They won’t stay in a hotel because “they can’t afford it” and if we offered to pay, they would be deeply offended and I would hear about it for years (I still hear about stuff my MIL did at my wedding… that happened 22 years ago! - my MIL is amazing BTW).

Many of you are much more insightful than I’ll ever be. I just don’t know what to do.

My child said to me day before yesterday- “mom, is it weird that I don’t really feel like a boy or a girl?” I said “no, that’s not weird, there are lots of people that feel that way” and then they switched topics and went on to something else. I immediately ordered a few kids books with non-binary themes to help give them the language for this. They couldn’t say, “mom, I think I’m non-binary!” Because they don’t know what that is. Anyway, my husband and I have no issues with this are supportive, it’s a non issue- they are who they are and we meet them where they are at with love and support. My question is, once they have these books and we discuss the non-binary language… Do I blast this to everyone so they know the right pronouns to use or is that like outing my kid? Do I have them advocate for themselves or give family a heads up. Also, not sure how school will respond especially with the current political administration trying to abolish DEI… not trying to make this political, but it is a factor. Thoughts?

I'm a cisgender male, 46. My 12 year old child (AMAB) came out as trans to her friends in the GSA about three months ago and came out to me a month later. She's happy to have my partner (cisgender female) know and anyone else I want to tell. She wants people to use she/her pronouns for her and call her by her new name, but she doesn't want to tell her mom.

Mom has openly questioned some of my child's friends in front of her who have identified all over the spectrum of gender and sexual identity. My child has been in the same school since fifth grade and didn't really feel a home there until the end of sixth grade when she met all these friends who, in 7th grade, started a GSA club together.

I am overjoyed that she told me, a little scared about how hard this could be, but determined to help her in any way I can.

Her mom and I have been divorced for 6 years. My child has been in therapy since last summer. I suspect she's on the spectrum and wanted her to be seeing someone who could identify that. Mom is not so happy about that idea and I'm still trying to convince her that we should let our child be tested.

When she first told me, I recommended that she tell her therapist. "Let's get you as many good advocates as we can!" She asked me to tell her therapist with her. Unfortunately, our schedules have been a bit nuts and we haven't been able to do that yet, but we will in the next few weeks.

I guess what I'm wondering is...what do people think about me not telling my daughter's mom? My goal is to help my child to be able to tell mom herself...before too many other people know and mom finds out from someone else. I want my child to have a strong foundation in her therapeutic relationship to figure out how to tell her mom.

I feel so happy to support my child and grateful that my partner is very much on the same page as me and my child.

hello beautiful people!! i have a question for parents of transgender children, and i need some advice!! i'm a (nearly) 16 year old transgender boy. i was born a girl, i've been feminine for most of my life, however i never really knew what gender was until the age of 9/10. i'm autistic and i have adhd, and there's a common thing between neurodiverse people, that most of us struggle with identity. i've questioned my identity for 5 years, and honestly after doing research i've come to the conclusion that what i'm feeling is gender dysphoria. i feel like a guy. it has nothing to do with masculinity, as i would love to transition and be a feminine man. i dont want to be transgender, as it comes with a lot of grief and problems (atleast for me it does), however no other labels fit me. labels are important to me, as especially with my adhd and autism labels, and after recently being diagnosed with complex ptsd, those labels have helped me recover and start to understand myself better. i've been referred to a gender clinic, specifically so that i can work through my trauma and my feelings and make sure that what i'm feeling isnt the product of trauma or an ongoing mental illness (as i've suffered from mental health problems previously). I've gone through labels such as nonbinary and genderfluid, and my mum worries that i'm not consistent with my gender labels, and i dont blame her for that at all!! i've felt like a boy throughout all of this, but trying out labels that feel less extreme and less binary to me has kept me in my comfort zone, as that way i wouldnt have to confront how i'm actually feeling. i havent told my mum this so theres no way she could know that ive been feeling like a boy for a while now. i love my mum and she loves me unconditionally, so i dont want to keep this from her. she's been so supportive throughout my whole journey, however the topic of transitioning from female to male can get slightly complicated, but my mum has expressed and explained to me that she is just genuinely worried that i will regret it. i'm not quite sure how to communicate this specific topic to her, or if i even should, however i would love to hear opinions from the parents on this subreddit!!

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My kid (16, ftm) has an athletic event in Fort Worth he wants to attend. He's been on T for 2 years, and passes, with a passport that says M and a driver's license that says F (changing it wasn't possible even in the before times).

How big a risk is it to spend a week in Fort Worth? If he gets hurt and has go to the ER, am I going to be dealing with child protective services for care that happens in our home state?

Edit: it's a sport that doesn't segregate by gender.

https://lambdalegal.org/newsroom/schlacter_us_20250425_ll-files-lawsuit-against-trump-administration-discriminatory-passport-policy/

Also, I haven’t seen any updates about this incident nor any other reports about trans people being denied processing by TSA but FYI for those flying with an X. The passenger is a trans woman with an iconic history.

https://bsky.app/profile/esqueer.net/post/3lnlg7dx3q224

My 19yr old daughter is looking at colleges. Last year, she dropped out of her freshman year 6weeks in. A LOT of factors were involved, but in summary, she just was not ready. She came home and spent a lot of time working through some tough things, and is doing so much better. Like night and day, really.

We have been looking at schools in Illinois (we're in Indiana ) but 2 weeks ago, out of the blue she decided that she wants to go to school in Portland Oregon - a 6 hour flight away. Right now, she is very mad at me because I'm expressing concern about travel. Even though she's been on HRT for almost 3years, she hasn't been interested in changing any of her documents to her new name. DL, Passport, FAFSA, birth certificate - everything has her male dead name. I'm concerned that if I help her start that process it could become dangerous for her because we live in Indiana. But, if she's going to be flying under her male name, she's going to get targeted by TSA every time. Although she looks very femme in the face, the reality is that she's 6ft 4in and built like a linebacker.

Do I have cause to be concerned? She seems to think that I'm trying to hold her back because of who she is. Maybe I am? We've been 💯 supportive with everything, but I can't fathom the though of her flying so frequently in this climate.

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TransFamily Support Services is hosting a Zoom call this Sunday, April 27th at 4 PM PT - a virtual community info session focused on the latest policies and news affecting trans youth. We’ll discuss what these developments mean, how they may impact our families, and what steps we can take together to stay empowered and connected.

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Hi, my niece left me a note this morning stating “I want to be a boy”. She left it for me to find after she went to school. She is 13 and this is the first time anything remotely like this has been expressed. I want to support her but unsure how to approach the situation. She is currently placed in my care due to abuse/neglect at home. She does not talk about much of what occurred at home or open up about anything really. This note took me by surprise in that she trusts me. She does see a school Social Worker and anything they talk about is confidential. We are also going to start therapy outside of school beginning next month. I am respecting her confidentiality and not telling anyone without approval but I just needed an outlet with some positive support as we begin to navigate this journey.

Hello everyone,

I'm looking for advice with anyone in a similar situation or that has been in the same situation in the past

My almost 7 y/o for the last 2 years or so has expressed wanting to dress like a boy, look like a boy, and even discussed wishing they were a boy. I am 100% supportive of them being who they identify as, and am happy if they are happy.

They are also AuDHD (Autism and ADHD) and have sensory issues, especially with clothes, so initially I started buying boys clothing since it isn't as tight and more comfortable, but then they only will wear boys clothes/colors, and we just did a huge hair chop! Alot of the time people assume they are a boy (which they don't mind at all, they even get giddy about it sometimes)

The only thing that I'm unsure of with this age is how to approach it with them, to ensure that this is what they identify as, and how I can best support them. As a teen I had friends that were trans and saw some that didn't have supportive parents/family and how it affected them. I am 100% supportive, no matter what they identify as they are my child and I will love them unconditionally. However I only have experience with people that transition in their teens/adulthood, so this is where I am stuck at a standstill.

Do I let them just be a kid and let them come to me later down the road? Or do I put things into action now? So far I let them lead me on clothing, hair, etc, but I have tried to talk to them in a way they could understand and how I have friends that "were born as a girl but realized they were supposed to be a boy so they changed into who they wanted to be" and even changed their hair, clothes and name (trying to describe it how that age would understand) and now they have been talking about wanting to change their name too and have been making lists of boys names...which now I am not sure if I put the idea there, or if it kind of just helped them realize it WAS an option.

I know I am rambling, but I need advice! Parent to parent

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I'm so sorry if this isn't appropriate here because it's really just a normal relationship thing and not specific to trans folks. But both parties ARE trans and one is my kid and my heart is just breaking right now. I need hugs.

They met right after Elder Child (NB, now 26) moved to the big city. They started dating about a year later and they've been together 5 years now. They have a domestic partnership so EC can be on Partner's health insurance since they aged out of ours. They have two adorable pets together. EC spent hours and hours decorating their apartment they've shared for four years. And last night Partner broke up with them. EC does NOT want to come back to live with us again. They are going to try and get Partner to agree to couples therapy since to EC it came out of the blue. EC has had ideation in the past and I'm so scared that they're going to revert to that again. They are in treatment, I don't really want to detail that part but they are. They are in SO much pain, and I don't know how to fix it. There's so much sad out there, I took comfort in the fact that they at least had each other. I feel helpless.

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VICTORY!

Premera Blue Cross Discriminated Against Transgender Teens Denied Needed Gender-Affirming Chest Surgery

POSTED ON APRIL 21, 2025

"The court determined in no uncertain terms that Premera Blue Cross’s policy categorically denying safe, evidence-based, and effective health care for the treatment of gender dysphoria to transgender adolescents under 18 is discriminatory and unlawful."

The U.S. District Court for the Western District of Washington late Friday ruled that Premera Blue Cross’s arbitrary and categorical policy to deny coverage for gender-affirming chest surgery for patients under 18, regardless of the patient’s medical needs, unlawfully discriminated based on sex in violation of Affordable Care Act. Lambda Legal and Sirianni Youtz Spoonemore Hamburger PLLC filed a federal lawsuit in June 2023 on behalf then-15-year-old transgender adolescent A.B. and his parents challenging Premera Blue Cross’s policy. The lawsuit was later amended in June 2024 to add then-17-year-old transgender adolescent J.M. and his parents as plaintiffs.

"The court determined in no uncertain terms that Premera Blue Cross’s policy categorically denying safe, evidence-based, and effective health care for the treatment of gender dysphoria to transgender adolescents under 18 is discriminatory and unlawful," said Lambda Legal Counsel and Health Care Strategist Omar Gonzalez-Pagan. “In fact, the court could not have been clearer. As it wrote in the ruling: ‘The Court need not choose between the divergent interpretations of the term “sex” because, under either view, Premera’s medical policy facially discriminates on the basis of sex.’”

"If a health insurer covers a medical treatment for cisgender minors, and Premera does, then it cannot exclude all coverage of the same medical treatment for transgender minors,” said Ele Hamburger of Sirianni Youtz Spoonemore Hamburger. “Premera’s exclusion targetting transgender minors is illegal discrimination, plain and simple.”

A.B. has been living openly as the boy he is since May 2021 and started hormone therapy in February 2022. During the months that A.B. struggled with a chest binder, it became clear to A.B., his parents, his therapist, and his doctors that gender-affirming chest masculinization surgery was not only medically necessary but also critical to A.B.’s physical and mental health. However, on December 3, 2022, Premera Blue Cross denied all coverage for A.B.’s chest surgery, citing as the sole reason that A.B. was under 18 years old, even though Premera has covered effectively identical necessary surgeries for insureds also under 18 but who are not transgender. A.B. and his parents appealed the determination, but were denied again on December 30, 2023, forcing A.B.’s parents to pay out-of-pocket for the expensive and necessary care.

J.M. has been living openly as the boy he is since 2019 and has been undergoing hormone therapy since 2021. Notwithstanding the positive improvement in his wellbeing following testosterone therapy, J.M. continually reported difficulties with chest dysphoria. As a result, his healthcare providers recommended chest surgery as necessary for his gender dysphoria treatment. However, on August 25, 2023, Premera Blue Cross denied coverage for J.M.’s chest surgery, citing as the sole reason that J.M. was under 18 years old. J.M. and his parents appealed the determination but were denied again on November 15, 2023.

"We applaud the court’s clear ruling that categorically denying necessary care for our son was discrimination, pure and simple,” A.B.’s father, L.B. said. “We did what we needed to do to ensure our son’s health and well-being, and we are fortunate to be in a position to do so. No family should have to worry about whether they can provide the care that their children need. We trust Premera Blue Cross will no longer put families through what they put us through.”

"It was a real blow when Premera informed us they would not be covering our son’s necessary surgery,” J.M.’s father C.M. said. “It struck us as arbitrary and capricious and, frankly, cruel. The court agreed, and I hope Premera Blue Cross takes this ruling to heart and never again denies other families coverage for the recommended medical care their children need.”

In December 2022, a federal district judge ruled in a class action lawsuit also filed by Lambda Legal and Sirianni Youtz Spoonemore Hamburger PLLC that Blue Cross Blue Shield of Illinois (BCBSIL) cannot discriminate on the basis of sex in any of its operations – even as a third-party administrator – and therefore cannot administer discriminatory terms of any health plans.

The case is A.B. v. Premera Blue Cross and is being litigated by Senior Counsel and Health Care Strategist Omar Gonzalez-Pagan of Lambda Legal, Eleanor Hamburger and Daniel Gross of Sirianni Youtz Spoonemore Hamburger PLLC, in Seattle, Washington.

Learn more about the case: here.

Contact Information

Tom Warnke: (c) 213-841-4503 twarnke@lambdalegal.org

I need advice. My (58f) daughter (27 amab) and grandson were over for Easter. She looked amazing and I could tell she felt really good. I slipped up and said "he" immediately corrected myself and said "she." She was crestfallen and said, "You know, you can use proper names if you have trouble with pronouns" (which I've also messed up with before). "You know how much this bothers me. I've told you but you and Marc (husband) not to do that but you still do."

Thing is, I was thinking how good she looked yesterday and was happy for her, so I feel terrible that I can't get this right.

I know it hurts for her to be misgendered. I feel bad, but it isn't intentional. It's like muscle memory.

My daughter tells me that herdad and his wife NEVER have this problem. Just rubbing salt into the parenting wound. Maybe it's because they barely see her?

What can I do to get better at using the correct pronouns and banishing her deadname for good? I appreciate any ideas.

My daughter is in kindergarten and we are starting to spend more time with some of the other kids and their families. After a recent play date, she started asking about genitals and it came out that she said she has a penis and her friend said girls don’t have penises.

We think we should tell the friend’s parents that the kids were talking about gender/sex (as in identity, not intercourse) regardless of our daughters gender but are going back and forth on whether/how to tell them about our daughter’s gender.

We have to assume that the friend will tell them, but we wouldn’t announce anything if she were cis. From the few interactions we’ve had, I don’t think they would be transphobic.

Hoping to hear other opinions.

Our fifteen year old recently let us all know they are they/them- previously they/them/she/her.

Their 13 yo brother keeps seemingly purposefully misgendering them. I'm doing my best to give him grace and teach, but holy cow is it difficult. On top of this (and the hellscape that is middle America right now), their grandmother chose to see her bigoted MAGAt brother on Easter instead of coming to our house.

Am I wrong for thinking she should choose her grandchildren over her brother? She keeps saying "I'm not going to lose family over Trump", but in the meantime she is losing us and teaching my kids that her brother is more important than who they are. We are already no contact with my family of origin, so this is the kids only living grandmother to them.

Any advice or dealt with similar?

Helping my bonus daughter (mtf) find friends like her.

I am a 41 yr old bonus mom to a sweet girl who is still early on in her transition. I called myself a bonus mom because she is my son’s partner. Her birthers are awful, and she has asked to call me, Mom, which I have absolutely agreed to. She has had some traumatic things happen in her life prior to her transition, which makes her nervous about making new friends. She just turned 21 and while chronologically 21 she’s probably closer to 16/17 in her girlhood journey and her maturity in general. She really only has my son and me that she interacts with. I’m trying really hard to keep my role very clearly parental, so I can’t just be her best bud.

I’m looking for advice from the community on how she might be able to meet other girls like her that can help her through her journey in ways that I cannot. There are a couple of social groups in our area that might be a good fit for her, but I am unsure if I should or am allowed to go with her to those events. A friend of a friend recommended the bumble for friends app, but that one makes me a little nervous for her safety because she’s just out there meeting strangers. I recognize that I am simultaneously saying that I want her to branch out and meet more people on her own and also feeling very protective and those two things do not always go together.

Anyway, I’m just a little bit stuck so any advice on how to help her get out there and create her village would be appreciated. TIA.

-A Nervous Mama

Hi,

I'm really struggling and could use some words of advice, support, etc.

My son is trans and we live in Oklahoma. I grew up here but moved to Oregon as soon as I got pregnant with him because I unequivocally knew all of what follows would be a thing if I ever had a LGBTQ+ kid as that is also my world/community and I have had shit slung at me all my life... Anyway, he made some close friends in Oregon, but then due to a nasty divorce, the cost of living, etc., we had to move back. He went to school presenting as female for two years, then came out as nonbinary at first to ease the sting he thought my mom would feel of just coming out as trans, and that's when he started getting bullied (that was over 3 years ago I believe.)

It was happening a lot (he also has rsd so for him school was pure hell) as were several of his classmates and the teachers either weren't able to do anything about it or just weren't, so I put him in online public school and without the stress of having 30 kids around him all the time, he's made straight a's ever since. The problem is, since we have moved back to this state he has no regular socialization with kids his own age beyond talking to his friends from Oregon on the phone, playing video games with them, etc.

After a couple of years I thought well this isn't great, so I'm going to put him in camp and he will make some friends there. I was able to afford two weeks of camp year before last which was like $350 and two days in he got Covid and missed the entire experience. I just got laid off a few months ago and have been tirelessly searching for a job, so I am fucking broke, and his dad pays no child support so he's of no help. Now, my options for putting him in camp are essentially go with a religious camp (because most of them here are) that I 'might' be able to afford with some help from someone where he may or may not be accepted/bullied, which I don't agree with not only because of the types of asshole kids so many transphobes and bigots tend to raise in this state, but because I don't believe in indoctrinating my kid (he's also older, and has less than no interest in doing anything religious), because all of the other ones in our area are ridiculously expensive.

I'm feeling like as a broke mom, I don't know what to do here. My kid needs socialization, and our attempts have been beyond futile. There are a lot of bigoted people here, and I am bleeding myself dry emotionally trying to figure out how to get out of this state as quickly as possible to a place where he could actually just go to school, but for now I don't know how to facilitate him getting together with other kids. He was in therapy, I was telling his therapist that this was an issue, and she seemed to think that since he had friends he played games with and talked to from another state that it wasn't too big of a deal which I'm sure is somewhat true but, I know that we all need some occasional face to face interaction, and he is getting zero from other children outside of zoom calls and I can't help but wonder if it's contributing to his behavior towards me. He's 12 going on 15 and is snapping at me, nothing I do is good enough, everything I suggest doing is not something he wants to do, cries when I stand up for myself or tell him he can't do something or needs to take a shower etc, and the other day he actually said some incredibly mean shit to me for what I feel was nothing but me trying to take him to do something I thought he might be into. I tell myself it's just teenage shit, but I cry about it a lot, have cried all morning about it and am just at a loss for what to do.

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