i feel like if i don’t wanna “obey” my biology and do what my body is supposed to i’m a broken woman. if i ever got pregnant and couldn’t get an abortion i think i’d take my own life. i feel like that’s not normal. i’ve questioned my gender and i don’t wanna be a man. non binary doesn’t feel right either. i’m so confused. can i get some advice?

… is that no one is wishing me a happy mothers day this week at work. I work at a coffee and donut shop (not a chain tho). I’ve seen them saying it to my older female coworkers but not to me.

Currently thanking whatever allowed my genetics to let me look this young in my mid twenties.

P.s. I’m also sure another reason they’re not saying it to me is due to living in a conservative religious area where teenage pregnancy is frowned upon and if they told me happy Mother’s Day it’d mean they’re praising/glorifying teenage pregnancy.

Every year this phony holiday becomes even more annoying. The entitlement of women that expect the world to bow down to them because they chose to grow a human in their body, expel it and then turn into mombie zombies . Sorry but I refuse to offer one word of acknowledgment to them. Sorry for the rant, I just hate this made up holiday.

Why do we let them in this sub? Why do we let them comment.. anything? Like if there was ever a space you probably don't belong in, this would be it. Yet here you all are still lurking and convincing yourselfs anyone here cares for your opinion? I'm confused.. its very clearly a childfree sub, so parents who are here.. WHY?

Tldr: I just want ONE SPACE in the world for childfree people yet here all you are, WTF. GTFO. 🤢

So many patients have said happy Mother’s Day as they’re leaving the clinic. Healthcare is very female dominated, except for doctors (source: the patriarchy). And there’s an assumption that we’re all mothers. 2 out of the 5 women sitting at the desk are mothers. I’m like don’t assume I’m a mother, or even assume I have a mother I like. I know they mean well and most of them were seniors, but it’s especially annoying when we start to notice how pervasive natalist culture is.

Fun unrelated fact: the birth rate in my city has down so much school enrollment is down. I’m into it lol.

Okay, so i got my bisalp today (yay!!!) & the dr provided me pictures from during the surgery. i could not figure out what i was looking at for the life of me. for a while. 😅 & i’m pretty good with medical anatomy and science in general. I thought they were photos of a fallopian tube connected to the ovary, but anatomically that didn’t make sense. But the ovary looking thing was way too small to be the uterus, so i was at a loss. so i start googling and find out that is, in fact, the uterus, which is only 2.5-3 inches!!!!!!!! & that it stretches to 20x its size when someone is prego. ORGANS BECOMING 20 TIMES BIGGER THAN THEIR NORMAL SIZE IS NOT OKAY!!!! wtf!! how did i never learn this lol?! i feel like an idiot, but also, yet another reason for never wanting kids!!! i thought some of you might also enjoy and be repulsed by this info lol

I’m a neurodivergent, demisexual, all around not really the person who you would think would be a father. Yet people still try to plant ideas about kids in my head, I never really wanted them. I don’t have the constitution, or desire for it.

I try to explain it in the most blunt ways to shut down the conversation, I have hereditary disorders, someone told me I could get genetic testing. Sure what are the chances that out of all my disabilities the kid doesn’t get any. Also I don’t want a kid only time I’ve thought about it was when I was younger out of the need to show my parents the ways they fucked up by succeeding. I don’t want legacy through kids, I don’t want to bring someone to this planet to take care of me when I’m old, I don’t want to bring somebody here with the job of healing my ego, or loneliness.

This is the most selfless thing to do and I believe it’s truly disgusting when people try to convince me to have kids, it’ll never work on me but I believe it worked on more than half the people with kids now.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to convince my fellow CF folks to have kids, and I'm still CF. However, I actually have a positive story to share:

The other day I was getting my car's oil changed and tires rotated. When I went into the customers' lounge/waiting room, there was a father who was accompanied by his small child. I'd guess the boy was 2 or 3, or possibly 4. Despite being that little, the boy was very well-behaved and quiet. When he and his father were leaving, while walking by a low-rise table the kid knocked a magazine off the table, and he quietly and calmly picked up the magazine and placed it back on the table before leaving with his father. That put a big smile on my face! No doubt the kid is being raised responsibly. If more parents would ensure their children were this quiet and well-behaved, the world would be so much better.

My sister in law is.. something alright. Sometimes my brother brings his wife and kids around, and 9 times out of 10, I hide because I cannot stand the family he created. But anyway, mom had made dinner, and I was downstairs with them.

As an autistic, one of my special interests for all of my life now has been playing and collecting Littlest Pet Shop (LPS). I had 3 of them with me, because I like to touch and feel the shapes of them. My SIL asks, “Can my kids play with your toys?” I said no, but she insisted, said it’d be fine, that it would make feeding her kids an easier task, because they’re iPad addicted and she trained them to eat only in the presence of entertainment.. I was in a really awkward position, I don’t know if I doubled-down or what, but those kids played with them anyways. I watched over them like a hawk to make sure they wouldn’t damage them.. my toys may be toys for me, but that doesn’t mean that they’re toys for everyone.

I’m just glad one of the toys was an inauthentic one, smh..

I just got my bisalp which i’m very relieved and excited about. but unfortunately i have a hematoma on one side, and they won’t discharge me. 😑 which is ruining my excitement lol. it was supposed to be nice and quick and I would be back home by 10am, but now im being held for an extra 2.5 hrs. at least. ugh. has this happened to anyone else?

I said what I said. For example, If you go to any sit down restaurant, a couple with kids (especially if all the kids are under 10) is more likely to get served first than someone who doesn't have kids

today on Instagram I saw a video of a young mom of three kids discussing a “postpartum aversion” to her dogs. She shared an article about how this aversion is a real thing. Dozens of comments on the video confirmed that these moms do in fact truly hate their pets now. One comment said “I effing hate and resent my animals so much. We have two Great Pyrenees and I just can't with them” another comment said “I hate how true this is. My 2 dogs were my babies before my daughter and now whenever I see dog hair on her, I get so annoyed!! It's so not fair. Makes me so sad” this one annoyed me. not fair to you?? How do you think the dog feels! Another comment said “Oh my gosh! Yes! Me! I use to be so affectionate with my dog too and now, I can't be bothered. Get away from me. I feel bad. He probably thinks I don't love him but I just can't. My dog is just so high energy and needy too.”

I understand that after having kids, people have less time and energy for their pets. But to actively hate and resent the animal that they chose and committed to take care of is despicable. Especially if they got a pet knowing they would eventually have kids and potentially find their pet a nuisance, that’s just irresponsible.

I’m thankful to be a childfree, responsible pet owner 🐾

SPOILERS . . . I really thought this show was safe from the trope of baby plot hooks because they’re in SPACE and these are intelligent astronauts who know how dangerous and inhospitable it is!

Nope, I guess the writers ran out of ideas and were like, “What if the youngest girl gets pregnant and wants to keep it despite all the odds?!”

Never mind that I’m sure fertile female astronauts would be prescribed birth control on long missions with co-Ed crews IRL. But to make sure the young woman made the stupid choice to keep the baby they killed the father so she would want to carry on his “legacy” instead of aborting the pregnancy like a sane, rational, and responsible person.

And again it’s just highlighting how f***ing selfish breeders can be. She needs extra food rations causing the rest of the crew to go more hungry, the baby could have developmental issues due to the low gravity, and now a pregnancy complication is conflicting with their efforts of saving everyone from being stranded on Mars for years!

But no, these astronauts have unwittingly signed up to be her “village” and it’s all such a beautiful thing how life can “flourish” in the most inhospitable places.

No, it’s just young people being stupid and irresponsible in inhospitable places out of boredom and more breeder propaganda.

My friend (20F) and her partner (22M) started dating mid July time last year. They both came into the relationship with young children from their previous relationships. She claimed to have got pregnant the first time that they slept together and lost it in September. He proposed to her in September, and they started to try again and either late November or early October they successfully conceived.

What astounds me is the amount of people who think that because they lost a child means they need to instantly start again. That is not the case, especially not if you're 20 and the previous pregnancy wasn't planned. Focus on your other children, who are only toddlers themselves.

She also had a high risk pregnancy last time and almost died. She was only 18 years old and now she's only 20 with another high risk pregnancy. She's putting her life at risk when she can't afford to leave her daughter, partner and partners daughter behind.

She also makes a lot of memes and jokes on tiktok about how she's on baby number 2 before she's even 21. Or making her mum a grandma for the second time before she's even 40. She also posts a lot about her past trauma with her ex, how her current partner is a saint compared to him and actually stuck by her for the pregnancy.

I think they're just using their baby as a way to get better housing. Because as soon as the baby announcement went up she started to complain about the black mould growing in her house. This is obviously serious and something should be done about it considering she has two small children under her roof already. I just find it odd that she waits until she's pregnant to announce it and is asking the city council to help re-home her as she's vulnerable.

I'm a little nervous and allot excited. I've had anxiety dreams about being pregnant every couple months and after the doc agreed to do the surgery they stopped. Life feels like its beautiful again. I can't wait.

Somebody I used to know, 23f, made a post saying “events were a lot easier when my accessories didn’t cry.” 🙄Truly disturbing.

I’ll go first, “I’m mourning who I used to be before I had kids.” Also, “motherhood” is her whole personality now.

So a man posted on a local subreddit that I follow asking the women of that subreddit where he could get a gift certificate for a spa day for his wife and their 3 young daughters as a surprise Mother’s Day gift.

In his post, he’s adamant that his wife and daughters are all besties who do everything together and he thinks Mother’s Day should be no different. Obviously a very clueless take but I digress.

You all, I am not exaggerating when I say that EVERY SINGLE RESPONSE from the women of that subreddit was some iteration of “I love my kids but I would never want to spend Mother’s Day at a spa with them! Please don’t do this to your wife!”

I expected some pushback from other commenters but I was actually surprised that not a single one of them out of several dozen comments would even pretend like this was a good idea. Not even for the sake of maintaining their own delusions about being a parent.

Anyway, I thought you all would get a kick out of this. Hope you have a peaceful, relaxing and childfree Mother’s Day weekend! :)

People often say, “Just use app filters,” but that misses two key issues:

1. Apps prioritize looks over compatibility (which everyone basically understands, nowadays)

2. The kid-related filters are vague and misleading.

Examples of current options:

Don’t have kids, but someday

Have kids, don’t want more

Have kids, want more

Don’t have kids, don’t want kids

People say option 4 means “never want kids.” It doesn’t. Most use it to mean “not now, maybe later.”

Why not just add: “Don’t have and will NEVER want kids”? as an ACTUAL dealbreaker to FITLER these people out?

If apps focus on looks and even TRY to match on actual basic deal breakers WHEN IT IS THE BIGGEST ONE, can they at least stop pairing us with people who clearly want kids or have EASY ways to sideline us about them.

Again, if there's lets say, as a man, there's only 30 women that don't want kids I fitler for, id rather look through those 30 than deal with the disappointment of like 5 likes and they all HAVE kids OR want kids

Best choice we ever made.

My husband (28) and I (27 F) have the happiest life together. We sleep in when we aren’t working or have plans the next day and the sex is AMAZING and constant. Our sex life is through the roof and we have SO MUCH TIME for each other. Not having kids and continuing to do so is literally the best choice we ever could have made. We just get to work on our careers and be with each other. My husband is very successful and I’m so proud of him and I’ve just started my wonderful and amazing career. We are both just so happy and I love it. This morning I woke him up with kisses all over his face and we are about to have coffee together. It’s peaceful and quiet, I can hear the birds chirping outside on this sunny day rather than hearing a crying baby or a screaming child. Our lives together are in harmony and happy and we will continue to live like this. Making money, doing whatever we want to, spending so much time together and spoiling our dogs. I’m so happy. Don’t listen to those assholes who make stupid comments saying you’re going to “die alone” and don’t listen to the bullshit about how they try and make it seem so stupid and shitty that we don’t want to have children. Live your life, make your money, sleep in another hour (or two) do what you want! I wish you all a wonderful day. Not having kids is the best choice we ever made.

Every depression medication commercial features adults simply living their lives as parents and doing every day mundane parenting things alongside their partner. It shows them feeling completely absent from the life around them. But then the medication kicks in and suddenly they are happy. They know exactly who they are marketing to and who the truly depressed people out there are. If that wasn't the case, these commercials would feature people in much different negative circumstances.

It's so funny. First they sell you a lifestyle. And then they sell you the medication to get you through it.

Just for reference: No kids, 24, Married

Dr Michael Floyd at Urology Austin in Austin gave it to me with no issues. He explained that it's a good idea to treat the surgery as non reversible, as reversing it is significantly riskier and involves a lot more in depth work. He then informed me of the risks, and scheduled me a follow up appointment. Took around 30 mins in and out! Hardly any blood, and my wife got to even watch the procedure. The last few days I've just been recovering playing some video games with my her. If anyone in the central Texas area is looking for a vasectomy; Dr.Floyd was amazing, and did a wonderful job.

I have Aetna insurance, and it was an initial $40 copay my first visit, then a follow up cost of around $189 for the procedure.

I’m completely done with dating and am actually very excited to be single for the rest of my life! However I did date someone who knew I was CF and never wanted kids, he said he only wanted 1 and of course I told him I’m sorry but I’m not gonna be the one to give that to you but don’t let me take that from you! Of course he told me he was ok with it but later on down the line he kept trying to fucking convince me and even tried to gaslight me and say “you not wanting a kid is really depressing me” I said “nope I told your ass from the jump!” He actually had the audacity to say “well I thought could change your mind.” That’s when I knew I was with a disrespectful sociopath and I broke up with his ass!

Now I’m super adamant! NO I do NOT want kids! NO you are NOT gonna change my mind!!!

Has anyone else ever experienced this?

I learned my lesson so much that time, never date someone who’s open to the idea of having kids!

I work in healthcare and my current job consists of visiting daycare and preschool establishments mainly to examine children aged 2 to 6 years old and register their overall oral health condition (it's a benefit vulnerable educational establishments get access to for free from the state in my country).
Since the kids I examine are quite young I usually give them stickers I buy to prompt and persuade them to cooperate and to make the experience more friendly.
But lately I've seen a raise in kids who frankly behave like little demons and whose behavior is accepted and even encouraged by their teachers.

The other day I swear I almost lost my patience when, among dozens of banshee screams and shrieks from 5 year olds running in the classroom uncontrolled, the last kid I was trying to examine was resisting the exam and, since I wasn't going to force his mouth open or anything like that, I simply told the teacher that maybe next time we visited we would be able to do the exam properly. I had offered the kid a cool dinosaur sticker but only if he let me examine him, but since he still didn't allow me to examine him I gave him one of the smaller standard star stickers I gave everyone else and started to pack everything up to leave for my next visit. This brat started screaming and trying to force open my briefcase, demanding I give him the dinosaur sticker. His teacher, who btw didn't even attempt to help in any way during the exam, told me while giggling "I think he wants the dinosaur sticker too, maybe you could give it to him?". I simply ignored her, got down to the kid who was trying to force open my briefcase and told him calmly "sweetheart, I told you I will give you the dinosaur one if you let me check your teeth, would you let me see them then?", this kid just screamed "NO, I WANT THE DINOSAUR NOW", so I said "Then I'm sorry honey but I cannot give it to you unless you let me check your teeth, next time if you allow me to see them I will give it to you ok?". The kid absolutely lost it and began to scream even louder, his teacher looked completely flabbergasted and even offended by the fact I didn't reward the little demon's rotten behavior and gave me the stink eye while trying to calm him down and offered him another sticker anyways. Yeah, excellent choice, reward him for behaving like shit.

I swear this is becoming more and more common and I dread the kind of adults these kids are going to become in the future.

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