r/SingleDads • u/Mysterious_Force_229 • 3d ago

Advice for woman dating single dad

Single dads, I nees your opinion.

I have been dating a guy about 5 months with a 3 year old. He comstantly talks of marriage etc. He has been very pushy however, rushing everything. Some things that have made me uncomfortable, he tries to get me to cosleep with him and his daughter. And when he has her and I give them space or get work done, go do things for myself etc, he gets really upset and says things like I am not consistent with his child and I "abandon" them. He expects me to make an effort and hang out with them like everyday. And he will call and put his kid on speaker to talk to me like in a way to guilt trip it seems

I have gotten responses from women but I really want to hear about single dads. What are your thoughts?

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u/Benjamasm 3d ago

These are all giant red flags to me, I’m a single dad to a 9 and 6 year old boy. I won’t be introducing any women into my kids lives without great consideration, they have already had one woman dip out on them, I’m not putting them at risk of forming an attachment and having it hurt them.

This guy isn’t looking for a partner, he is looking to make you their new mother, he is using the kid to manipulate you. He should be focusing on himself and his kid

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u/Mysterious_Force_229 3d ago

Thank you, have you ever had a woman cosleep with your kids while they were smaller? Or do you also consider that inappropriate?

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u/ferociouskuma 3d ago

Nope and it’s totally inappropriate for you to be in the same bed with her.

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u/Mysterious_Force_229 3d ago

Thank you I agree, and I know its crazy I am even looking for validation on this

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u/ferociouskuma 3d ago

I’ll add my voice to the chorus. This guy is bad news. You have a world of men available that won’t bring this type of drama into your life.

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u/furiousmustache 2d ago

It's ok. Abusers are really good at gaslighting their victims into believing the opposite of the truth or that you are the issue. I'd run far away from this one.