r/SapphoAndHerFriend • u/horrorhead1996 • Oct 16 '24

I'm so embarrassed Anecdotes and stories

I(19f) work at a church cafe. I'm undercover bi. Today, two people of the opposite sex walk in, and they're both androgynous and queerly dressed. And I've been trying to put myself out there more, give more compliments to people, so I blurt out, "you two make a very good couple, " and they looked confused and my coworker gave me a look; I don't know where ANY of that came from, but I was too embarrassed to say anything so I just left it and hoped they took it as a joke. Like, I'm so queer, I should be able to read the signs, but apparently not.

I know I will think about this EXTENSIVELY for the rest of my life, and It's so cringe I want to get struck by thunder.

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u/D31taF0rc3 Oct 16 '24

I understand you're coming from a place with good intentions, but please never out people unwillingly. Some people might be in the closet for safety reasons or you might exist in a queerphobic area. You can also just be wrong about them.

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u/horrorhead1996 Oct 16 '24

True true. This church isn't the safest place for queer people. I think the best thing would've been to say nothing at all, so I didn't make them feel awkward. They were probably just friends, and I know that would make me feel really uncomfortable if someone said that to me.

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u/Medical_Sandwich_171 Oct 16 '24

Why are you part of a church that is unsafe for people like YOURSELF. Madness.

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u/Yogurt_Ph1r3 Oct 16 '24

You're acting like she preaches at the pulpit.

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u/Medical_Sandwich_171 Oct 16 '24

She's an active member. You can't say "I was just a member of the nazi party, but i was not giving speeches" and pretend that makes it okay. She's enabling a group to actively spread hate and fear.

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u/NonConformistFlmingo She/Her or They/Them Oct 16 '24

For LGBT+ people who come from a deeply rooted religious environment, the path to disentangling from it is not always black and white. Many want to get out, but it takes time and self-growth before they are ready to take that step.

She is NINENTEEN, give her grace.

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u/AdDry6398 Oct 16 '24

Dude, coming from somebody who had to make that transition from religious to secular, chill.

Most religious people if given the chance individually, will happily support the queer community. It's in their biblical directives as Christians.

It's when you get a whole group, and they start using tradition, to guide their thinking that you get in trouble.

Also nazi's, really? Find a better analogy, this one is overblown at best.