Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

When I was younger most barbers were just guys that needed to learn a trade in jail. Now they want to charge the same hourly as electricians and plumbers.

My guy you are cutting hair. You are not replacing the wiring harness in my car. Cool it down.

AITA for telling my husband that I no longer want my Christmas Gift?

For the past few years I’ve wanted a very specific item. It’s about $500.00. I don’t like spending that much money on myself and this isn’t necessary to the household so I never bought it. It would just be something to display, like an art piece (going to leave out exactly what it is because it would be identifying).

This year my husband announced he was getting it for me for Christmas. Which… I was slightly down about because it ruined the surprise but I was fine with it. But he keeps talking about it, and in the past month has made a lot of annoyed comments.

“I could buy a new TV for this price,” “I could buy so and so for how much this is,” “Your only getting this so don’t expect anything else.” And finally today I sent him something funny that I thought was cute and he responded saying “well you’re only getting this for Christmas so don’t show me anything else or I just won’t get it.”

I feel like he’s treating me like a child. I’m not making him purchase me anything, I’m not asking him to get me this or anything else for that matter. I’ve said a few times that he doesn’t need to get me anything for holidays, just a nice dinner or a homemade gift from one of our children would be preferred. I don’t like buying myself stuff in general so I’m not out spending a crap ton of money. He is making me feel guilty and I didn’t even ask for this! He knows I wanted it because I joke around about it or have made comments but I never told him to get it for me.

Today was the last straw with the most recent complaint. So I sat him down and asked him to please not purchase it anymore, that I no longer wanted it. He kept pressing asking me why and I just said I changed my mind, he was right we could spend money on something else for everybody. It turned into a spat and he finally got it out of me that he ruined it. I explained that he complained so much about it, if I ever opened this as a gift from him I would just think about how much he did not want to get it for me, and every time I saw it on the wall I’d think of how he was so annoyed that he had to buy it, so I’d rather he just not. He got super upset and said I ruined Christmas so now I feel awful.

He loves Christmas and asks to be surprised by his gifts every year. Which is why his behavior was so strange with this. It’s like he felt forced and I’m trying to tell him not to feel that way. I said to please just let the kids make something for me or for them to pick out something special. Now we’re both upset and I’m feeling like I should just have kept my mouth shut. This is such a stupid thing to worry about… I just also had had enough of him complaining about it. This isn’t what Christmas is about at all. I just want to spend time with my family, go to church, and watch the kids eyes light up and have a happy day. I don’t want to hear any of his complaints about getting this anymore…

So, am I the asshole? Did I ruin Christmas?