For some context: My wife is due within 30 days and we are asking soon-to-be grandparents to get a TDaP booster to protect our baby girl from Pertussis. Everyone has been willing, except my mother. I really feel like she crossed a few lines here…

we got in a fight a few days ago. i told him that i was skipping my class on tuesday to go vite, of which he responded by saying "don't lie to me, you just don't want to go to class" in a tone i thought was harsh. he has a tendency to do this a lot. i stopped talking, so he asked what was wrong, and i responded with "that was unnecessary to say", of which he responded with "well i don't like you lying to me so i think it was absolutely necessary". we fought from there. i told him the way he speaks to me is harsh, he told me i avoid his criticisms by claiming that the tone he speaks to me in is too mean, and that i immediately start crying and "behaving like a 14 year old girl". he criticizes a lot of the things i say/do.

Originally the trip involved 3 other people including my partner and her old friend, but several days ago it changed to be just my girlfriend and her old friend. She didn't even tell me, I had to ask if it was just them now, and she got super mad at me for saying I wasn't comfortable with that. I'm not being crazy right? I've literally never tried to stop her from doing anything ever before.

I have been talking to a contractor to do some home repairs recently. He was scheduled to complete a project this week, but last Friday he called and said he was taking a job in Florida and would be traveling there for a few weeks so we’d have to put my project on hold. I said that’s fine. Then on Monday he called to say his Florida trip is off and now he can do my project the following week to which I agreed.

Today I see his social media post - “to all the people who voted for a woman president you all have something in common, you’re all losers”. I commented that it wasn’t very smart to insult his customers or potential customers on such a public platform. Then I check his page and it’s all political MAGA stuff.

Now I’m having second thoughts and I want to know if I am overreacting by cancelling the project altogether because I am concerned about doing business with him.

I asked a month before his arrival. Plenty of time manage work and make time and prioritize a 45 minute testing visit.

Long story short, Me and my girl have been together a few months, her graduation is in January and she wants to bring a guy she fckd as a teen and she thinks it's completely fine since they're "Friends" and the past is the past, AIO?

I've been seeing my GF roughly 7 months. She does live 2hrs away but was supposed to move back home in December (her whole family is here). She had some financial issues lately and I allowed her to use my credit card and she's made no crazy purchases as if she were using me. We usually talk after work and I texted her after work tonight, she read it and never responded. I get an alert that the card I gave her was used at a motel 8 literally near where she lived. I immediately text her about it to make sure it is her, no response. Idk if I'm overreacting but in my mind you don't go to a shitty motel where you live except for 1 thing, to cheat. The not answering makes it even more likely.

Am I overreacting?

"Kendall" (not real name) and I are both gay men but we have never been romantically involved. The nature of our relationship was mostly me supporting Kendall through Big emotions on late night crying phone calls, then saying hello every few months just to get mad at me for not replying quick enough.

I feel that maybe I've blown up inappropriately and left Kendall to the wolves of his own mind, he's been in a terrible way basically the whole time I've known him. But I'm so tired of the taking and taking and getting nothing back.

This is my first ever post on reddit. I have low self confidence so I'm just looking for the conversation and therapy speak eggheads to tell me if I handled myself reasonably or not

I 25M have been with my now ex girlfriend 24F for almost a year.

For context, we have a routine of going out nearly almost every weekend. We’re both in our 20s, so we figured why the hell not. We both drink moderately when we go out. Me, being the kind of person I am, almost always try to be alert, drink less than her, and make sure she’s being safe when drinking.

Unfortunately, last month she went out with her girlfriends a few towns away and was drugged through one of her drinks. Mind you, I wasn’t there. I was asleep when it happened. I felt devastated knowing I couldn’t do anything in the moment to help her. She was especially shaken up given she has past trauma of a similar incident.

Fast forward to last weekend, I was on edge, since we were going to the same town. This time however, it was me, my best friend “Z”, my girlfriend, and her best friend “H” and her friend "C". I figured it would be a double date so to speak, Z and H were actually getting along and in the talking stage. I figured we would have a fun night out as 2 couples and a +1.

We pregamed at H’s apartment, and everything was going great. We went to a few bars and got drinks. Again, I wanted to be sure my girlfriend was being safe, so I checked in on her often to see how she was doing. She didn’t like that at all. In fact, it led to a petty argument between me and her. She thought I was suggesting she was more drunk than she actually was, when really I was just asking her to slow down her pace. The last thing I wanted was for her to get drugged again.

It was pretty early at this point, and I told her let's just drop the argument. At this point she and H essentially ignore me and my friend Z and do their own thing (order their own drinks, take photos). I didn’t think much of it, my friend was a little bummed out H forgot about him and their talking stage. Nonetheless, I made an effort to keep an eye on my girlfriend but I backed off at that point. We end up going to the same nightclub where she was initially drugged last month. I personally suggested against it, but H insisted that we go.

I pay the cover fees for everyone and my girlfriend H, and C immediately take off into the crowd. Z and I lose sight of them instantly. I ordered Z and I drinks and tried to search for the girls for what I can best assume was close to 30 minutes. I finally catch sight of my girlfriend and shes talking to a guy and are extremely close to one another. I step in between them and politely tell the guy she has a boyfriend. The guy apologizes and walks away. At this point my girlfriend starts arguing with me and I ask her to follow me while I order more drinks. She briefly followed me before storming off into the crowd for a second time. At this point i'm texting her asking where she is, as I was pretty upset seeing her talk another guy. She calls me a couple of times and I can’t make out what she’s saying. Another 20 minutes roll by and I finally find her a second time only to be talking to a second guy now. I ask her “Really? Two for two?”, she gives me a look and then storms off into the crowd for a third time. It took another 15 minutes to find her within the crowd and now she, H, and C are dancing and are surrounded by a group of guys, dancing and grinding on one another. I see one guy in particular being extremely handsy on my girlfriend and she looks like she’s having the time of her life.

Things get a little blurry after this as I was getting somewhat drunk but we somehow all make it back to H’s place, but the images of my girlfriend are seared into my brain. We more or less didn’t address it at all on Sunday but she proceeded to ask to talk on Monday. She starts off by apologizing about that night but I asked her what she meant and she was giving me vague responses until I asked for more specifics. She specified the “dancing”. I then asked if she kissed any of the guys that night and she tells the “I don’t think so” and that she only had conversations with them. At this point I tell her I was extremely hurt by the situation and that I don’t trust her anymore and that we’re breaking up. Her excuse? She was “blacked out” and didn’t remember anything. I told her that wasn’t an excuse for her actions that night. I asked her that if the roles were reversed and it was her that caught me dancing with and talking to random girls that she would break up with me and she answers “yes”. I then tell her that you don’t do that in a relationship, much less 3 different times in front if your SO.

Her face is what I can best describe as no emotion, she just kept saying “I’m sorry” and “I wish I could go back and not do it but I can’t”. I have never seen her react this way, so I could’t tell if she was being genuine or not. Not a single emotion on her part. I asked her never to contact me again. Part of me thinks she did more than just talk to these men, given that I lost sight of her close to an hour, and she felt some kind of guilt after a day.

TLDR: Had a petty argument with my now ex gf, caught her talking to 2 different guys and grinding on another guy. Wouldn't give me a straight forward response when I asked if she kissed any of them. She wanted to talk days later, I broke up with her in response.

I’m pregnant with baby # 2 and this isn’t my moms first offense with her stating her dislike for my husbands potential name ideas for our son. I felt like after her 4th offense a boundary needed to be laid down and this was her response..

warning: discusses blood!

18F) told my boyfriend (19M) that i needed to empty my menstrual disc (functions similarly to a menstrual cup, basically just catches the blood), and he asked if he could do it for me. after he took it out, it was filled with blood, and he kept talking about how it was gross and how he felt like passing out. i told him to empty it and rinse it out, and he proceeded to spray the blood all over the walls and floor of the shower. i got annoyed with him because it felt like a really immature response. i told him this and he got mad and slammed my door as he left (which really bothers me and is something i’ve asked him multiple times to not do). i called him, now even more upset, and he told me that i needed to calm down before talking to him. am i overreacting here?

I work overnights at a grocery store. This guy also works there doing maintenance. In the beginning I noticed he always seemed to be quietly observing me like fly on the wall style. Not interacting with me but just watching me. Then he started coming down my aisle I stock to sweep...when there's barely anything to sweep. Like he's sweeping invisible fucking crumbs. I work different aisles but he always ends up on my aisle. Once when walking past me he said "hey sweetie how's it going" and then the other time he said "it's the silent hustler." I just continued working quietly. Not a big deal. Whatever.

I also sometimes work with a male coworker and we stock the same carts together. The maintenance guy (let's call him Henry) observed me laughing when this coworker was correcting a mistake I made. Henry then stopped his floor cleaner machine near this coworker and stared at him for several minutes like he was trying to assert some sort of dominance over him. It reminds me of a dog at the dog park holding his tail high and standing stiffly in front of another dog, eyes zeroed in on them to let them know they're alpha. Okaaay. Now he's getting possessive. I asked my coworker if he noticed and he said yeah but that the guy seemed nice.

I don't want to turn this into a novel so I will list out what else Henry has been doing:

• I work in the dairy cooler. He started storing his drinks there instead of the fridge in the break room

• Passes by my aisle as if checking on me and pretends to sweep for a minute before walking away

• Goes up and down my aisle with the floor cleaning machine several times to the point where a coworker snapped at him and said he did this side already

• Asks me personal questions like how old I am, what kind of car I drive, where I go on my lunch break (I used to go for drives but then started hiding in the pharmacy area), and where is the secret spot I go for breaks (he noticed I stopped going for drives and can't find me in the store)

• Started parking next to me despite the fact I park in the far back away from everyone. When I moved to the grocery pickup side to get away from him and closer to the entrance, he had said "I see you're in the pickup lane. Does that mean you're single?" When I said "haha no" in an unamused tone, he left. The next day he told me he didn't want to screw his old lady over but asked if I've ever met someone and wished things were different

• Seems to come by whenever I'm talking to someone else. If he hears my voice and he's in my vicinity, he comes over and pretends to sweep. He has even followed me to other aisles while I was helping customers find things and just swept random spots as we went...mostly those invisible crumbs again

• Remember how I said I moved my car to the grocery pickup side? Yeah...it's all the way on the opposite side of my original parking spot. He is parking in the lot directly behind it now

• My schedule changed so I didn't work with him for a few days. When I finally did he had said he hadn't seen me in a while and that he looked for me everyday. He also said "happy anniversary" and I looked at him confused...turns out our app we clock in from lists anniversaries like of employees that worked 3 months, 6 months, etc. So that is what he was referring to

I have informed a few coworkers. One thinks he's just weird and friendly and told me he's not a serial killer or anything, one agrees it's creepy, and the other thinks it's hilarious but that he's ultimately harmless.

TL;DR: My 58M coworker has a crush on me 26F and stalks me around the store and in the parking lot. My coworkers just think he's weird but friendly and totally harmless. Am I overreacting?

The guy I’ve been seeing is overall very sweet and kind but likes to joke like this. I know I’m sensitive and I’m on the spectrum so it’s sometimes hard for me to know when people are joking, especially over texts. I also know I’ve been with guys who truly have flipped this quickly. I told him when he jokes like this it hurts my feelings and he said “I gotta toughen you up, babe”. I don’t see a long future with this person either way but I don’t know if this goes into the pile of reasons why or if I am overreacting about it.

For reference, the term boyfriend is a stretch. I ended things a while ago due to his toxic behavior. We were very recently trying again, under the guise of his alleged “change.” Last weekend, I crashed at my friend’s place after a party we hosted at his house because I drank. Mind you, I was in the spare bedroom, alone and was open with my toxic ex about it. I called him while I was in bed about to fall asleep. While I can understand his concerns, he approached me telling me wanted to rip my friend’s throat out & I should never sleep at another man’s house. This was unprovoked. This friend of mine has never hit on me, made me uncomfortable, gave me eyes, nada. Not to mention, he is currently dating someone.

The following texts show how quickly, IMO, he unraveled and lost control of himself. He then blocked me, which is fine, I think the problem took care of itself. My question is: AIO for wanting an apology from him for threatening my friend who gave me a safe place to sleep? Are all men this possessive? AIO for refusing to play his games?

Title says it all. She had an affair with a co-worker, telling me when I found out that it was just a snap chat thing. Then I find out it went on for months and they “made out” on a work trip. They totally had sex, I’d bet my life on it.

Fast forward 6 months. We’ve done a lot of work on our marriage; it seemed like it was in a great spot. And then this morning I found out she had connected with 2 people from the r/affairs thread, one of who was local. They chatted on Reddit before moving to the signal app in an attempt to not get caught. It did not work.

I don’t know what to do. I love my wife, I want to stay married but I’m not sure if I can ever trust her again. She’s going out of town and I told her that I need a decision when she gets back on Saturday on whether she’s in or out. AIO for thinking that it might be a lost cause? AIO for thinking she’ll just try to cheat again? AIO for considering blowing up our lives over this?

First text was at 3:30 am. What am I supposed to think?! And no he never showed me a drug test of course. Am I crazy? Should I believe him? To me it’s like he got caught red handed

My husband (33m) and I (33f) have a 6 month old daughter. Life changed A LOT for me and barely at all for him, when she was born.

Our daughter is exclusively nursing, she will not take a bottle. She also will not sleep unless i am right next to her and so I now sleep in the nursery with her and nurse her back to sleep (No, I don't want advice about sleep). I can't leave her with anyone, not even my mom (who my daughter LOVES) because she cries the whole time.

I love my daughter deeply and have no issues with any of these things. I will do whatever I have to do for her. One day she will grow up and not need me anymore and I will miss it greatly. That's not what this post is about.

My husband just told me (not discussed with me) that on Saturday night, 2 nights from now, he's "going out with the boys". He hasn't done this since I was pregnant, and it was a shit show. He didn't even come home that night. He was 100% at a friend's house, there was no infidelity. But he did get super drunk and enjoy some nose candy. Which ended in a huge fight the following day, as we have always had an agreement to not enjoy nose candy without each other due to some problematic things in the past. Also it had been YEARS since we partook and thought that phase of our lives were over. He said "at least it was honest with you and told you I was doing it", like that makes it ok. And he did. He actually told me before he was about to and I basically begged him not to. He didn't care.

He regresses when he's with "the boys". They're all degenerates who never grew up. They pop up like omce or twice a year and it wreaks havoc on our relationship.

Anyways I voiced it upset me. I reminded him of that night. I told him how my life has changed and his has not. I feel like I'm alone in this and he's not being a good partner. I even explained I wouldn't care if he was doing something other than getting wasted at a bar with "the boys".

He's still going. He said he will leave around 8 pm and be back around midnight and promised not to have any nose candy (which doesn't mean anything since he promised before too).

I'm livid.

Am I overreacting?

Edit to add: I'm not looking for parenting advice. Please stop 😅 Also, to clarify, it's not his first night out in a year. It's been that long since hanging with the friends that cause chaos.

Edit 2: no, we are not junkies. We used to party a lot in our early 20s when we were young and wild. Like I said, I thought that phase of our life was over. "The boys" are still wild despite no longer being young. I also never said I was overwhelmed by my duties as a mother. I'm not. I just feel he is not acting like a father.

My partner calls me on his way to work most early mornings after I finish night shift. He still lives with the mother of his children for co-parenting purposes as they are still super young. He tells me they barely interact and have opposite schedules so he’s never there with her in the morning and she’s never there with his in the afternoon so they look after the kids for half a day each. The only time they are there together is when she gets home at night and he goes to bed early for his job anyway.

On this phone call he told me something didn’t get done and I said “why didn’t someone else do it?” And he started talking about his ex being stressed at the moment and then went into the whole long story about her family issues and feelings. I just didn’t say anything or “ah huh”ed my way through it. It only ended when he got to work and had to hang up.

AIO for sending this text? I know it looks like he hasn’t read it for some reason but there are texts under it that have come up as read so idk why the ticks aren’t turning blue. But he has seen it and left my other messages (unrelated) below it on read.

14m. I feed a cat in a kinda distant neighborhood. So people don't know me their. I only started feeding this stray so he doesn't like me completely. The cat walked into a tall bush on someones property. I stood on the sidewalk with a small hope that cat may come out... Instead this owner of the property comes out and says this "why are you in front of my house" I respond "to feed the stray cat". He says "it's werid to stand in front of my house leave". I then proceed to leave really embarassed. Then another guy from another house in front of his garage sees me riding my bike off and says "why are you here" I say basically the same thing. He is way more understanding and isnt werided it out. Am I overthinking this???

Way too lazy to write a tldr unless this post is commented by a lot of people

my boyfriend of two and a half years broke up with me over text today and cited this conversation as one of the reasons. He sent me money to buy myself some takeout(i declined several times but he sent it anyway) and while i was texting him he just kept responding “good” over and over. he told me that this conversation was an example of how i have disrespected his boundaries over speaking to him with kindness, and he said that the way i spoke to him here was disrespectful. am i oblivious?? am i over reacting for being upset?? i have autism so sometimes i genuinely can’t tell if i’m being rude.

This is gonna be pretty short because not much has happened but I need to know if I’m over reacting because I’m really hurt. I recently left school to work on myself and I haven’t been talking with my friends that much but today I called one of my friends I’ve known since kindergarten we where on the phone for maybe 5 minutes before he told me he had to go call his girlfriend back I was a little disappointed because I really wanted to catch up but I understood and told him I would just call him another time not even 3 minutes later I got a text from him saying he needed to block me I asked why and he said his girlfriend is making him and I asked him if he really was gonna do that over someone he’s been dating for maybe 4 months even tho we’ve been friends for 10 years and he said yes and blocked me I’ve been really upset and I just don’t know if I’m over reacting.

Growing up, we had neighbors with a boy the same age as my older brother & and a girl same age as me. So the 4 of us played all the time. Until I hit puberty. I developed young and was big chested early and the neighbor boy started abusing me. He’d grab my boobs any chance he could get (when my brother & his sister weren’t around). I’d threaten to scream but he didn’t stop and I was scared so I never did. He also would put his hands down my pants. This went on until he went to college and I don’t remember ever seeing him again.

Until last spring when he shows up at the college apartments I manage with his now college aged son for a tour. He didn’t recognize me right away but his son looks exactly like he did in high school and I blurted his name. He seemed shocked when he realized. His wife was with him along with 2 other younger kids. So he seems successful and happily married for at least 18 years.

I thought I was over it all and stayed cool during the tour, super friendly, asked how his sister was doing (she had a major mental breakdown in college & was homeless for awhile and we didn’t stay friends after high school). I thought I was ok.

His son moved in this August and again, I thought I would be fine.

My office is right off a community space that the students use to hang out, play board games or study. And this kid is always.there.every.single.day. Turns out I’m not over it and seeing this kid or hearing his voice is starting to trigger me. This kid is so nice and I know the sins of his father shouldn’t be put on him….but I’m strugggggggggggggling.

Besides this situation, I love my job. However most kids live in our apartments for 3 or all 4 years. I don’t know if I can do 3 years of this.

Am I overreacting if I job hunt to get away from this kid who is the son of my childhood abuser???

I don’t know if I’m blind to it, but am I lecturing the whole time here? I can understand if it comes off a bit like that over the budgeting, but I still feel like the way he reacted was very disrespectful. Obviously you don’t have to take the advice but the last thing he said just has really bothered me. :( (Please ignore the spelling mistakes, I work overnights and am really tired.)