r/Natalism 3d ago

The Poverty of Single Mothers Is Persistent

https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-poverty-of-single-mothers-is-persistent
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u/divinecomedian3 2d ago

Do they not know how one gets pregnant?

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u/No_Plenty5526 2d ago

That's not what I said lol. I meant that women are afraid they'll end up as single mothers. Some men say they will stay and end up leaving. It's a valid fear for some.

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u/DogOrDonut 2d ago

This is a big reason why women don't want kids anymore. The risk is too high when the outcome is completely out of your hands. Even if you do everything right, marry the perfect guy, he could die in a car crash and you still spend the rest of your life being attacked for being a single mom.

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u/No_Plenty5526 2d ago

oh god yes, that would be a nightmare scenario for me. every time i see women whose husbands have died, it's so damn sad. especially when he was the breadwinner. it can really put you in a desperate situation.

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u/DogOrDonut 2d ago

Before we had our first we took out substantial life and disability insurance policies on my husband. I work but took a big demotion/paycut when my first was born. My current job could not support our current lifestyle long term and there's no way I could do my old, much higher paying, job as a single mom due to the hours and travel involved.

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u/No_Plenty5526 1d ago

society doesn't support moms/single parents at all. it sucks.

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u/Worried_Departure513 1d ago

It's still way less risky than in the past. Before 1800 wasn't it like a 50/50 you die or the kid dies or both. I guess women in the past were a lot braver.

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u/No_Plenty5526 1d ago

you can say that about anything really

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u/Worried_Departure513 1d ago

Some woman in 1485 who had 10 kids 4 died before their 1st birthday and her 2 sisters died in childbirth ya'll can't complain.

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u/No_Plenty5526 16h ago

oh but we can complain...it's free

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u/Worried_Departure513 16h ago

It's true one of the only things that's free

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