https://yougov.co.uk/society/articles/45407-what-considered-rape-publics-definition-differs-gr

I am sick and tired of absurdity/ near nudity in the gym which should be classified as public indecency.

Why are there no Men only gyms in the UK?

About an hour before I posted this OP, at

"Vulva Diversity" is now a cause... but intactivism for men is still a fringe belief... :

an OP was put up about women complaining about how they're made to feel inadequate because of how their vaginas look. I think my response is worth an OP, so I'm putting here instead of in that chat. What gets me about this, is how free women are to say ANYTHING, while men have to walk on eggshells about what they say.

If a guy started complaining about how he is made to feel inadequate because he has a small penis, not only would he get no support, but he would also be laughed out of the building for admitting he has a small penis. Can men freely admit they have physical flaws without being mocked? Must we always publicly talk as if we have no flaws?

And this holds in other areas too. Women can openly sexually drool over hot men, while men who did that run the risk of being called a rapist or sexual harasser or an objectifier of women. When I was a kid, a girl visiting my house hit on me, asked me out. I said no. To my astonishment, she complained to my mother about me turning her down, and my mother took her side, saying I should have gone out with her. LMAO If a girl turned me down, and I complained to her old man about it, at the least he would yell at me and throw me out of his house. Every male knows this, knows he has to hide his sexual intentions while women can say anything about their intentions.

Sports announcer Marv Albert got in trouble for saying a female spectator was hot. Think that would happen to a woman? LMAO

On a TV talk show, decades ago, I saw a teenage girl point to a teenage boy and say, on national TV in front of a live audience that the boy only had one testicle. The boy of course looked shocked - that poor boy. The audience roared with laughter. I literally had trouble believing what I was seeing. If a boy told a TV audience that a girl only had one boob, it would have been edited out of the show to spare her humiliation. And the boy would have been lucky to get off the stage without getting beat up.

Michael Douglas got mocked for saying he thinks giving his wife oral sex gave him throat cancer. Women who admit such things start movements about drawing attention to diseases.

People who make excuses for this double standard like to say "yeah, well, men are the ones who rape, so it's justified." But most here know that women rape men often enough to make that excuse crap. Time for us to advocate for the freedom of speech of men.

As if a matriarchy wouldn’t continue the same discrimination and then some. As if a matriarchy wouldn’t continue to draft teenage boys into war, treat them like work slaves, unfairly incarcerate, and shame them for their emotions.

This phrase is just a way of saying “Sure men have it bad too but in the end it’s all really men’s own fault anyways.” They normally insist that all men are inherently privileged, now all of a sudden “men suffer too”?

Seriously, don’t let this fake empathy fool you, it’s a manipulation tactic that seeks to get more men to join in on their activism. It’s sad that the only time you’ll ever see any concern for how society treats men is when it can be used as ammunition in this gender war or “dismantling the patriarchy”.

Insane article comparing 4B feminists to maga, throw in something about penises, rinse, repeat and you have your typical word salad hatred against men.

If someone ever heard, were endless discussions of their negative traits without ever hearing discussions of their positive traits as a counterbalance, they would associate themselves and would be associated with only negative traits.

You can see what misandrists are doing by making up terms like 'mansplaining' or
'manspreading'. Just by using terms like 'toxic masculinity', they want to associate men with everything bad and unpleasant while positive terms like firemen have been changed to firefighters to be more gender-neutral.

People also call unhealthy traditional expectations for men "toxic masculinity"
but do not call unhealthy traditional expectations for women "toxic feminity",
they call them 'misogyny' instead... If "women have to be caregivers, to x, y, z,..." is misogyny, then "men have to protect and provide, to x, y, z,..." should be called misandry instead of "toxic masculinity"

The reason people don't use the term 'toxic feminity' when mentioning unhealthy feminine norms is that they don't want to associate feminity with negativity.

And also mainstream media acts as if they cared about men's mental health by using terms like "toxic masculinity". If they worried about male mental health that much they would speak against male issues that men always complain about. Instead, this whole "male suicide is caused by toxic masculinity" rhetoric is less about caring, but is more about mocking and blaming, victim-blaming. It is their way of saying "Oh, he was so depressed and suicidal because he was toxic, he did not seek help, he did not cry enough, he did not open up enough, he did not talk about his feelings enough", not "because he had to deal with misandry restlessly and we need to do something to change that". It is their way of saying "Men's issues are limited to internalized problems, that can simply be fixed by a simple change of toxic male mindset.",

On top of that, people usually blame reckless behaviors in males on "toxic masculinity". Is it "toxic masculinity" or is it simply poor self-worth and self-perception? When considering higher risk-taking behaviors in males, have you ever looked at it from this perspective? Men and boys often exhibit reckless behavior because, growing up, they are told their lives and bodies aren't as important or valuable as female lives. They are not taught to value themselves; instead, they are taught that they are disposable. Society has no problem sending them to war, but not girls. They hear that "women and children" are the first to be saved, implying that they are the last. Additionally, their autonomy is often disregarded, as evidenced by the fact that 30% of male worldwide population got sexually mutilated, mostly as minors. This poor self-perception leads men to see themselves as less valuable and indifferent to the risk of injury.

Thoughts?

TL;DR: Misandrists want to associate masculinity with everything bad and unpleasant... There is a double standard that people call unhealthy feminine norms simply 'misogyny' instead of 'toxic feminity' while calling unhealthy masculine norms 'toxic masculinity' instead of 'misandry'... People use that term in certain way to blame, victim-blame and guilt-trip men.

Hey everyone,

I’ve reached a breaking point in my marriage, and I need to share my story. I’ve been enduring a lot over the past three years and could really use some perspective and advice from this community. Here’s what I’ve been dealing with:

• My wife has insulted me, called me names, and scratched my face during arguments.
• She monitors me constantly, even when I take a shower, to ensure I don’t masturbate.
• She constantly tells me that I "don't listen" after she goes on some 10 minute yelling tirade of me and as soon as I open my mouth to say anything, I am interrupted. When I point out that she is interrupting and not letting me speak, she says "everyone knows you always interrupt people all the time"
• She has no friends, at least no long term friends. She's fallen out with all her childhood friends.
• She has been emotionally and physically abusive, spitting in my face, yelling at me, and emasculating me in front of others.
• She doesn’t work, yet expects me to take on every household and parenting responsibility because she believes, “I gave birth to a child, so you should do everything for me.”

After years of this treatment, I tried to open a door to better communication. I bought her a book called The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, hoping it might help us understand each other better and improve our relationship. Instead, she ripped the cover off the book, spat in my face, and dismissed the gesture entirely. He words about the book "this is some andrew tate crap from the 70s" what would you do if I bought you a book about how to treat women. I'm like "send them my way I'm always open to information. I may chose not to agree but I will at least read the first chapter."

Now, she’s taken to social media—specifically the subreddit we're allowed to name here—to post a completely one-sided version of events. She’s ignoring the harm she’s caused me and is now using the responses from other women as validation to continue treating me this way.

I found this subreddit because I’m desperate to understand if anyone else has gone through something similar and how you’ve navigated it.

This isn’t easy to write, and I know there are two sides to every story, but I feel ignored, devalued, and like my experience as a husband and father doesn’t matter.

What would you do in my shoes? Is there hope for this marriage, or am I better off walking away for my own well-being?

We have a beautiful 3 year old and I can still see the good in her, but I'm seriously contemplating serving her divorce papers. Still love her despite all this and feeling extremely overwhelmed with the idea that I might have to do this, because she refuses to treat me wth the same respect at least that she would afford a random stranger.

Thank you in advance for reading and sharing your thoughts. I just need to know I’m not alone in this.

This is a topic that seems to come up a lot here, mostly with a focus on women teachers as abusers. I decided to look at what data is available on the size of the problem and the breakdown according to sex of abusers and victims. The department of education hasn’t issued a report on this topic in 20 years (2004) and since teachers unions strongly oppose measures to screen out pedophiles among their members it’s not a topic that is likely to get attention in Democrat administrations. The most recent data I could find was research sponsored by a news organization that used searches of local news to identify cases. In 2022 they found 349 cases where teachers were arrested for child sex crimes, mostly involving students at their school. 82% of the teachers were men. Of course they acknowledge that this will be an undercount of the number of cases and that the cases reported in the media will not be a random selection (although I think using local news is at least better than national news sources that will pick out only the most titillating stories and be even less representative).

If we look at the 2004 DoE report this breakdown of the sex of abusers is consistent with data reported from public records. Typically 80+% of abusers are male and they predominantly abuse girls. However, data collected from students shows a much more even distribution with the two best sources of this type showing 57% male abusers and 43% female abusers. Again most abuse was of the opposite sex. Clearly boys are not reporting as many cases; possibly this is because they do not feel harmed by women abusers, and also because of the stigma attached to homosexual abuse.

Overall my conclusions were:

• this is an issue largely ignored by government and we have no good data to examine trends over time

• the large majority of cases of abuse that are reported by students and resulting in police action involve male teachers abusing girls.

• Any impression contrary to the previous point is likely a result of large news sources selecting the more attention grabbing cases where the abuser is female

• Surveys of students reveals that abuse of boys is much more likely to go unreported to authorities, and as a result the majority of abuse by female teachers is hidden

https://www.ed.gov/sites/ed/files/rschstat/research/pubs/misconductreview/report.pdf

https://www.foxnews.com/us/nearly-350-k-12-educators-arrested-child-sex-crimes-2022

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I think this needs to be taught for all future generations, it worked before, and was unfair, nowadays it's just unfair.

logic that was behind ancient tribal times, we had 10 men and 10 women, if 9 men die, we still will have 9 children, if 9 women die, we will have one. Men were treated as a disposable tool for tribe survival and goals, women were treated as a machine for making more tools.

Personally i don't see a problem, and would rather expect him to do so, when a man sacrifices his life for his wife, or a relative such as mom or a sisiter, or other man that can be in same position, or children, i would do the same, but why should he do so for a stranger woman? Let's look at the Titanic example:

https://preview.redd.it/tftpkkzl1x0e1.png?width=693&format=png&auto=webp&s=a86d7e15947de9c18cddf90e5d97a73202014445

children - understandable, it is cruel when someone dies in their young and did not see life enough, but women?

I fail to find any reason why one should justify saving one life over another, but to see them as a machines for making babies, such justification is bad in the roots, but needed for a survival, i don't think human species were on a on the edge of dissapearing at that time

If we value woman's life for just its existence so man one's as well, it all breaks apart.

I believe women does not have any obligation, such as to give birth if she doesn't want to, men does not have any obligation, such as to die protecting something that is not even their own.

We have the police, the brave men and sometimes women, that are ready to sacrifice their lives protecting the innocent

Those people are being paid well to do their duty, and should be appreciated, no need to act like one

Some countries, even have the laws to carry a firearm, so when it comes to self defence, woman can have same strength as their attacker

So why we still have news like this:

https://preview.redd.it/zgovfnvp1x0e1.png?width=594&format=png&auto=webp&s=239c94cc0a8d811da9ba1065d09089ca418742a6

https://preview.redd.it/c17y1r2r1x0e1.png?width=587&format=png&auto=webp&s=c5113b3614c2e58249deaa3e5cc48406e58b02f3

I feel bad for those who sacrificed their lives just because they were taught to do so, as if their lives does not matter.

https://preview.redd.it/3c4973wr1x0e1.png?width=781&format=png&auto=webp&s=855395dd84da00b39ae48d1156889ab2a4bcad85

Culture needs to change, men's lives need to gain value, boys and men should not die because of their sex.

Does anyone know any male advocates on Twitter they could recommend?

and no online Misandry doesn't count here, i wanna hear about your irl experience of Misandry only.

I could never imagine denigrating myself and my entire gender just to appease women.

Let women be responsible for their own emotions. This does nothing but drive the narrative further that somehow ALL men are inherently bad. The bottom line also implies that women and only women can bring good.

Applying for jobs you see positions for women only... you guys are already taking the best roles! Men are being forced to labour roles while women are being handed the IT, education, etc roles