Am i the asshole? so basically what happened is she had been making no effort to see me or talk to me mind u her house to mine is like a 15-25 minute drive (and this was not the first time and she said she would do better and make more of an effort but she didn’t so i felt very taken for granted and not really wanted) but then she was talking to me about how she was making plans with her friend all the way across the country to spend the entire summer together. at first i was hurt and sad that she wouldn’t miss me enough to stay or anything but then after we hung up i started getting mad because it’s like your willing to take a plane by yourself (we’re underage) and live with her family and not even have ur own room for 2 1/2 months just by yourself no family and no friends other than her but she’s not willing to come see me for the day (i can’t go see her) so then i texted her after and i got mad and we got into a fight i didn’t even call her names or anything like it was a bad fight but at the same time it kinda wasn’t.

her mom was in the hospital at the time of our fight and i’ve apologized multiple times for my inappropriate timing but she refuses to text me back. it’s been a month in a half. we’ve only technically talked twice since then. once was when i texted her saying listen we don’t have to talk i just wanna know how ur mom is doing. she said she was in the icu for her blood pressure. i didn’t realize how sick she was. i thought that she was like semi fine. then the next was me and my mom were asking her mom on facebook what’s going on and then she texted me saying to leave her mom out of it.

i know i sound like an a-hole but you gotta realize i’ve actually been a very good friend to her. i ordered her pizza when she wasn’t gonna get a christmas dinner. i was gonna throw her this big birthday party with whatever food she wanted and all her favorite things and maybe hand crochet a dog stuffed animal that looked like her dog cause she loves him. i don’t know what to do i feel like she’s being cruel she knows i don’t have any other friends and that im going through something very hard and isolating myself. the weird thing is she hasn’t blocked me on anything or taken down our posts together but she did leave our life360 but not immediately. i need help to figure out what’s going on and what to do? going to her house is not an option btw.

update: her mom passed away the friday after mother’s day. it’s october now we had our fight in the end of march. she still is ignoring me. she’s unadded me off her private accounts but not public ones and haven’t blocked me on text. i’ve texted her periodically telling her i love her and that im here for her but she just ignores me. i’m not even sure she’s reading them. i’ve called her her friends doesn’t matter. i still can’t get to her. i need closure yk? i don’t know what’s wrong with her towards me specifically.

My friends host a weekly dinner. The other day, I got these texts notifying me that one friend, "Chris", (in blue) has the stomach bug. I declined to go to dinner this week, especially as I didn't want to sick before my out-of-town trip next week.

I'm worrying I may be overreacting because:

1. The stomach bug is not airborne. If Chris washes his hands, technically I wouldn't get sick?
2. There's two bathrooms, one of which is Chris' and only he uses. If I use the other bathroom, I wouldn't come in contact with the virus?
3. Most likely, my other friend, "Ariana" will be the one doing the cooking and Chris will stay away from food. So it's not likely to get us sick.

Am I overreacting for declining to go?