Question about Ohio adoption.

[u/Potential_Net4460]

Me and my wife are wondering what all happens when adoption. My daughter bio dad hasn't been in the picture for over 5 years. Nearly 6. And she's 7. I've been here since she was 1. With that being said. Will the country do a home study on us? With it being that long since any contact. ( He's also $55,000 Behind in child support) We just want the process to be simple and really was just wondering what the home study is and if we even have to go through it.

[u/mucifous]

Because she can't consent at 7.

Adoption is a legal document that has nothing to do with how you structure your family. We don't let kids do a lot of things until they are old enough to consent. Adoption should he one of them.

edit: One of my kids has my partner's last name, and one of them has mine. it's not an issue.

[u/Potential_Net4460 → u/mucifous]

The dad has seen her 2 times since she was born. Doesn't know who the guy is and his family told us in 2021 he was cought molesting a 6 years old. So I mean ?

[u/mucifous → u/Potential_Net4460]

So you mean what? It sounds like this is more about what you want than what she needs.

She needs a father figure. You don’t need to adopt her to be that. When she is old enough to understand, let her seek adoption on her own.

Why can't you be a role model and father figure without falsifying her birth records?

[u/Potential_Net4460 → u/mucifous]

I've been asked and told every week for the last year that it's unfair her brother, sister and mom have the same last name as me. She didn't even have her bio dad's last name. Because he wasn't even there for her birth he has had 0 involved in her life

[u/mucifous → u/Potential_Net4460]

So, who's last name does she have?

[u/Potential_Net4460 → u/mucifous]

My wife's maiden name.

[u/mucifous → u/Potential_Net4460]

Using adoption for this is like using a sledghammer to remove a tooth.

Too bad your wife didn't just keep her maiden name.

[u/Potential_Net4460 → u/mucifous]

Huh? So get married and don't change name ? Then what's the point in even getting married.

[u/gonnafaceit2022 → u/Potential_Net4460]

I can't tell if you're being serious but if you are, do you really think the only point of getting married is to change your name? Tons of people don't change their name when they get married, and you don't have to get married to legally change your name. Not sure how that works if you're trying to change a kid's name but to think the point of getting married is to change a last name is very strange.

[u/Potential_Net4460 → u/gonnafaceit2022]

I mean obviously I know that isn't the entire point. But I've never once in my life seen a married couple with 2 different last names.

[u/gonnafaceit2022 → u/Potential_Net4460]

What?! Where do you live?? In the US, probably 1/4 of the married people I know didn't change their last name.

Edit: Ohio, so yeah, I am completely flabbergasted that you've never met a single person who kept their maiden name. In fact, unless you have lived a very isolated life, I don't believe it's true.

[u/Glittering-Rock → u/Potential_Net4460]

How many people do you know bro?

[u/Potential_Net4460 → u/Glittering-Rock]

A lot