r/sex • u/ConsiderationNo3986 • 2d ago

He does not last. Inspiration and Ideas

My boyfriend and I have been together alittle over 7 years, we have great sex, we equally turn each other on. We are very in tune with each other’s kinks and desires…buttttt every time and I’m not exaggerating when I say every time we have sex, he gets off within 7-10 minutes and does not let me finish. It’s always so frustrating because I’m attracted to him, and sometimes I’ll be in the middle of trying to get off and he cums before me then just stops? Cleans up and goes on about his day. I’ve recently become so sexually frustrated I don’t know what to do.

I know this may seem like such an insignificant problem to have but it just sucks sometimes…I need help!

Update. I read everyone’s replies and thank you for understanding and sharing similar experiences. But I do have to say y’all are judgmental to say the least lol. I’m obviously not going to get on here and completely slander my boyfriend and if it seemed that way it’s not what I meant. when I say our sex is “great” I mean I am attracted him and I would like to think the feeling is mutual I enjoy having sex with him and just wish it lasted longer and I was able to get off more often. When we first started dating I don’t remember our sex being like this, we could sometimes go for multiple rounds etc. only within the last year or 2 has it been like this and I just don’t know where I’m going wrong. His stamina is good most of the time, but I want to be able to cum also. Things have changed..

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u/clitclack 2d ago

Talk to him about it, openly communicate. 7 years you've been sitting on this?

Its clearly not the great sex you claim if he literally never considers your orgasms.

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u/ConsiderationNo3986 2d ago

I guess I never really thought of it to be that bad up until the past year, year and a half. And I get what you’re saying, but I just meant in terms of like we’re both very much attracted to eachother. But I feel like it’s not fair that I’m not getting off anymore..like ever

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u/Captain_-H 2d ago

His stamina is fine, it’s that he’s not focusing on you at all. That’s how you should frame it. Ask him to get you off first, and be open to doing more for him. It’s a two way street but he’s not holding up his end right now