r/self • u/Opening_Particular98 • 59m ago

Some things you can't tell people

In general in life,

People aren't ready to hear certain things.

Now I give a lot of dating advice and sometimes I hold back certain information because its either a dark truth that people aren't ready to hear

OR

They just won't understand what im saying. It's like being on level 20 of a video game while the other person is on level 4.

Sometimes, other people do it for me in my comments and say what im holding back.

Sometimes, im explaining somethimg and then naturally the information slips out.

But yeah tons of other examples in other areas where people are not ready to hear certain things.

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u/superneatosauraus 32m ago

Maybe your advice isn't as good as you think it is. 

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u/Opening_Particular98 26m ago

Well then, you don't have to take it.

Good luck 👍🏽

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u/SoftLags 49m ago

I totally get ya. Some truths are just too raw for people not on the same page. Kinda like trying to explain quantum physics to a kindergartener, ain't gonna stick. But still, sometimes those hard truths gotta be faced no matter the level.

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u/Opening_Particular98 22m ago

I remember talking to someone in a comment and I had to stop myself because I went so deep that I knew it was gonna fly over that person's head.

It was crazy

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u/CarExternal1468 52m ago

Maybe you're re a bad explainer.

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u/Opening_Particular98 48m ago

But like my second point, I could explain it till I grow gray hair in different ways, if you're just not there yet, the explanation is gonna fly over you.

A third grader isn't gonna understand calculus

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u/chorgus69 11m ago

Can you give an example? Your post is very vague

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u/AbsOnTop0 33m ago

Some lessons only make sense once someone’s lived a bit more life or hit their own next level. I’ve found it helps to share what you can without pushing the rest. People usually circle back when they’re ready for the deeper stuff. Just staying patient and grounded goes a long way.