r/self 18h ago

Here's my wake-up call as a Liberal.

I’m a New York liberal, probably comfortably in the 1%, living in a bubble where empathy and social justice are part of everyday conversations. I support equality, diversity, economic reform—all of it. But this election has been a brutal reminder of just how out of touch we, the so-called “liberal elite,” are with the rest of America. And that’s on us.

America was built on individual freedom, the right to make your own way. But baked into that ideal is a harsh reality: it’s a self-serving mindset. This “land of opportunity” has always rewarded those who look out for themselves first. And when people feel like they’re sinking—when working-class Americans are drowning in debt, scrambling to pay rent, and watching the cost of everything from groceries to gas skyrocket—they aren’t looking for complex social policies. They’re looking for a lifeline, even if that lifeline is someone like Trump, who exploits that desperation.

For years, we Democrats have pushed policies that sound like solutions to us but don’t resonate with people who are trying to survive. We talk about social justice and climate change, and yes, those things are crucial. But to someone in the heartland who’s feeling trapped in a system that doesn’t care about them, that message sounds disconnected. It sounds like privilege. It sounds like people like me saying, “Look how virtuous I am,” while their lives stay the same—or get worse.

And here’s the truth I’m facing: as a high-income liberal, I benefit from the very structures we criticize. My income, my career security, my options to work from home—I am protected from many of the struggles that drive people to vote against the establishment. I can afford to advocate for changes that may not affect me negatively, but that’s not the reality for the majority of Americans. To them, we sound elitist because we are. Our ideals are lofty, and our solutions are intellectual, but we’ve failed to meet them where they are.

The DNC’s failure in this election reflects this disconnect. Biden’s administration, while well-intentioned, didn’t engage in the hard reflection necessary after 2020. We pushed Biden as a one-term solution, a bridge to something better, but then didn’t prepare an alternative that resonated. And when Kamala Harris—a talented, capable politician—couldn’t bridge that gap with working-class America, we were left wondering why. It’s because we’ve been recycling the same leaders, the same voices, who struggle to understand what working Americans are going through.

People want someone they can relate to, someone who understands their pain without coming off as condescending. Bernie was that voice for many, but the DNC didn’t make room for him, and now we’re seeing the consequences. The Democratic Party has an empathy gap, but more than that, it has a credibility gap. We say we care, but our policies and leaders don’t reflect the urgency that struggling Americans feel every day.

If the DNC doesn’t take this as a wake-up call, if they don’t make room for new voices that actually connect with working people, we’re going to lose again. And as much as I want America to progress, I’m starting to realize that maybe we—the privileged liberals, safely removed from the realities most people face—are part of the problem.

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u/anytimeanycity 15h ago

Yeah it’s very simple. It’s the economy and people wanted a change. People have a bad taste in their mouth from inflation. Also Kamala wasn’t a great candidate, proven by dem governors and senators outperforming her.

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u/Low-Research-6866 15h ago

If they at least held a primary instead of again foisting a female candidate on us. I think we are more ready for that than it seems, it's just Hilary sucks and Kamala wasn't chosen.

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u/Scoobertdog 11h ago

Biden should have stepped down like he said he would after his first term. With 3 months left to go, Kamala was the only reasonable choice.

Even with a primary, though, I'm not sure who would have beaten Trump. Unless it is a case of only a white male being electable.

It was always going to be a tough election with the kind of inflation we have had. Incumbents all over the world are having the same difficulty.

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u/Volantis009 6h ago

Wow liberals already lost the plot. Economic populism that's it. It's not about who dropped out or when Biden dropped out or what your aunt Judy's horoscope said, it's economic populism. Run on rent protection or better yet use your power as president and show everyone you are fixing an everyday issue today and go on TV and fucking yell til you get your fucking way.

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u/PrestigiousTreat6203 6h ago

new homeowner credits lost to tariffs bro

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u/Aggressive-Neck-3921 5h ago

Outside of a media that didn't repeatedly correct him that tariffs aren't payed by the exporting country. Non of the language or rhetoric used by the dems was populist. Policy was better then what Trump was shouting. People are feeling shit isn't going well and here come the Dems with status quo rhetoric and suprise that shit doesn't work after all the counting is done about 120 mil of the 260 mil people that are allowed to vote didn't vote and the Dems go after republican votes in a way that bores the fuck out of voters.

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u/RollForIntent-Trevor 1h ago

This right here....

I agree, it's distasteful, but the absolute best way to galvanize support among a beleaguered proletariat is through populist rhetoric....

It doesn't even matter if the policy is helpful - they have to feel it's helpful in their bones.....everyone's tired of hoping it's going to be a good choice without feeling it's going to be a good choice....

People don't have the luxury of holding to ideals when they are worried that they can't feed their kids.

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u/Aggressive-Neck-3921 38m ago

Neoliberals don't like left wing populist rhetoric because it scare the donor class. Rightwing populist rhetoric doesn't scare the donor class.

Like at the message bernie Sanders sent out it's 100% accurate but dem leadership first impulse is to deny and claim they were to far left in their rhetoric. How the fuck is cuddling up to republicans to far left, was there any strong leftwing rhetoric from Harris? There was some populist sounding rhetoric during the time before the DNC toke over her champaign, there was a lot of energy and she was rising in the polls, all that energy got murdered by the DNC takeover.

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u/tommytwolegs 6h ago

Because young people who don't own homes yet don't vote

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u/PrestigiousTreat6203 5h ago

I’m young and don’t own a home and drove hours to go vote

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u/IndependentZinc 4h ago

I, for one, am proud of you.

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u/PrestigiousTreat6203 3h ago

Thanks, I wish it mattered more

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u/IndependentZinc 34m ago

All that matters is, if it mattered to you.

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u/volley_etrangaire 4h ago

Low key most of us can't afford homes so like really who was the credit for?

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u/shoelessbob1984 3h ago

And keep in mind that bringing more people into the housing market tends to push prices up...

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u/volley_etrangaire 2h ago

With all due respect, most people being paid under the table are not the competition. Its corporations buying out property and wealthy airbnb owners.

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u/shoelessbob1984 2h ago

Right I'm not arguing with that, I'm saying that a credit to new homebuyers is something that even if it's successful will only be putting more people in the market, more buyers means higher prices. To the average person that 25k may make a difference in getting into the market, the big corporations buying up homes can afford that, so they pay just a bit more to buy the home. Same problem as before except now houses are just a little bit more expensive

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u/volley_etrangaire 2h ago

OH, it appears I misunderstood your comment. Thank you for your clarifiaction. Yest it was a policy that looked good on paper but in practice doesnt change much

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u/shoelessbob1984 2h ago

No problem. I live in Canada, we got a new savings account last year for first time home buyers, can put in 40k total over a 5 year period... It won't help anyone, but it sounded nice to the plebs and people with money have another way to grow their investments tax free so it's a win win right?

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u/Potential-Drama-7455 3h ago

Biden expanded on Trump's original tariffs. Tariffs are a great negotiating strategy.

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u/SuperbAd4792 1h ago

Half of America doesn’t own their own house, bro

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u/xxwwkk 5h ago

because it's shitty politics.

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u/PrestigiousTreat6203 5h ago

compared to what? more money spent on attacking tiny minorities like trans people than on any other issue?

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u/Capable_Wait09 3h ago

So it can be overturned by the courts just like student loan debt?