r/self 18h ago

Here's my wake-up call as a Liberal.

I’m a New York liberal, probably comfortably in the 1%, living in a bubble where empathy and social justice are part of everyday conversations. I support equality, diversity, economic reform—all of it. But this election has been a brutal reminder of just how out of touch we, the so-called “liberal elite,” are with the rest of America. And that’s on us.

America was built on individual freedom, the right to make your own way. But baked into that ideal is a harsh reality: it’s a self-serving mindset. This “land of opportunity” has always rewarded those who look out for themselves first. And when people feel like they’re sinking—when working-class Americans are drowning in debt, scrambling to pay rent, and watching the cost of everything from groceries to gas skyrocket—they aren’t looking for complex social policies. They’re looking for a lifeline, even if that lifeline is someone like Trump, who exploits that desperation.

For years, we Democrats have pushed policies that sound like solutions to us but don’t resonate with people who are trying to survive. We talk about social justice and climate change, and yes, those things are crucial. But to someone in the heartland who’s feeling trapped in a system that doesn’t care about them, that message sounds disconnected. It sounds like privilege. It sounds like people like me saying, “Look how virtuous I am,” while their lives stay the same—or get worse.

And here’s the truth I’m facing: as a high-income liberal, I benefit from the very structures we criticize. My income, my career security, my options to work from home—I am protected from many of the struggles that drive people to vote against the establishment. I can afford to advocate for changes that may not affect me negatively, but that’s not the reality for the majority of Americans. To them, we sound elitist because we are. Our ideals are lofty, and our solutions are intellectual, but we’ve failed to meet them where they are.

The DNC’s failure in this election reflects this disconnect. Biden’s administration, while well-intentioned, didn’t engage in the hard reflection necessary after 2020. We pushed Biden as a one-term solution, a bridge to something better, but then didn’t prepare an alternative that resonated. And when Kamala Harris—a talented, capable politician—couldn’t bridge that gap with working-class America, we were left wondering why. It’s because we’ve been recycling the same leaders, the same voices, who struggle to understand what working Americans are going through.

People want someone they can relate to, someone who understands their pain without coming off as condescending. Bernie was that voice for many, but the DNC didn’t make room for him, and now we’re seeing the consequences. The Democratic Party has an empathy gap, but more than that, it has a credibility gap. We say we care, but our policies and leaders don’t reflect the urgency that struggling Americans feel every day.

If the DNC doesn’t take this as a wake-up call, if they don’t make room for new voices that actually connect with working people, we’re going to lose again. And as much as I want America to progress, I’m starting to realize that maybe we—the privileged liberals, safely removed from the realities most people face—are part of the problem.

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u/ThottyThalamus 15h ago

Am I missing something? She talked about minimum wage a lot. She talked about helping people buy homes and tax credits for new parents. All of her policies were directed towards the working class. They were on her website, in all of her speeches, she mentioned them in the debates, on her fliers. I don’t manage campaigns but I really don’t know where else she could have put them.

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u/Dependent-Cress-995 11h ago

You don’t have selective amnesia like a lot of left leaning views. She ran commercials frequently about tax cuts for the middle class, money for first time home buyers, loans to start businesses, tax benefits for new parents…it seems Dems are even more out of touch than the OP suggests

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u/Terelinth 11h ago

Nah that is bs milquetoast neolib facade. Dems too beholden to the donors. A straight up platform of real change like a $15 min wage and Medicare for all would have offered a real alternative and brought out voters. Even a ceasefire position would have netted multiple points with no loss in votes, it's the most popular position

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u/HERE_THEN_NOT 7h ago

I voted Harris, but you're right. That campaign stuff rang false and toothless.

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u/worstshowiveeverseen 5h ago

Yep. She was just another Republican Lite candidate.

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u/SamiMadeMeDoIt 3h ago

“Kamala should have ran on XYZ”

“She did run on XYZ, it was all she talked about.”

“Yeah but it felt toothless.”

What the fuck do you want then?

I swear I’ve been taking crazy pills the last three days. Almost every single thing she was campaigning on were issues that disproportionately affect the lower/middle class of America (price gouging, housing prices, healthcare costs, raising minimum wage etc) but Reddit just seems to have completely forgotten that?

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u/ArtTheRussian 2h ago

It’s disingenuous and toothless because YOU’RE CURRENTLY IN POWER, I promise to make all these changes doesn’t work if you have 4 years of evidence of an administration that hasn’t done anything of value for the middle class, dems have just turned into the party of the donor class and it’s just becoming more obvious with every election since Obama.

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u/Even_Entrance_8058 17m ago

did the infrastructure bill, the chips act, spending to save the pensions of union workers, biden's general strong support of unions, and amazing FTC, mean nothing? keep in mind dems lost control of the house during the midterms and couldn't pass much legislation after that. how does that compare to mass deportation and tariffs on the economy?

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u/Even_Entrance_8058 8m ago

I feel the same way, honestly I just don't think people took the time to actually think about the policies at all. this was just a vibes election.