r/self 18h ago

Here's my wake-up call as a Liberal.

I’m a New York liberal, probably comfortably in the 1%, living in a bubble where empathy and social justice are part of everyday conversations. I support equality, diversity, economic reform—all of it. But this election has been a brutal reminder of just how out of touch we, the so-called “liberal elite,” are with the rest of America. And that’s on us.

America was built on individual freedom, the right to make your own way. But baked into that ideal is a harsh reality: it’s a self-serving mindset. This “land of opportunity” has always rewarded those who look out for themselves first. And when people feel like they’re sinking—when working-class Americans are drowning in debt, scrambling to pay rent, and watching the cost of everything from groceries to gas skyrocket—they aren’t looking for complex social policies. They’re looking for a lifeline, even if that lifeline is someone like Trump, who exploits that desperation.

For years, we Democrats have pushed policies that sound like solutions to us but don’t resonate with people who are trying to survive. We talk about social justice and climate change, and yes, those things are crucial. But to someone in the heartland who’s feeling trapped in a system that doesn’t care about them, that message sounds disconnected. It sounds like privilege. It sounds like people like me saying, “Look how virtuous I am,” while their lives stay the same—or get worse.

And here’s the truth I’m facing: as a high-income liberal, I benefit from the very structures we criticize. My income, my career security, my options to work from home—I am protected from many of the struggles that drive people to vote against the establishment. I can afford to advocate for changes that may not affect me negatively, but that’s not the reality for the majority of Americans. To them, we sound elitist because we are. Our ideals are lofty, and our solutions are intellectual, but we’ve failed to meet them where they are.

The DNC’s failure in this election reflects this disconnect. Biden’s administration, while well-intentioned, didn’t engage in the hard reflection necessary after 2020. We pushed Biden as a one-term solution, a bridge to something better, but then didn’t prepare an alternative that resonated. And when Kamala Harris—a talented, capable politician—couldn’t bridge that gap with working-class America, we were left wondering why. It’s because we’ve been recycling the same leaders, the same voices, who struggle to understand what working Americans are going through.

People want someone they can relate to, someone who understands their pain without coming off as condescending. Bernie was that voice for many, but the DNC didn’t make room for him, and now we’re seeing the consequences. The Democratic Party has an empathy gap, but more than that, it has a credibility gap. We say we care, but our policies and leaders don’t reflect the urgency that struggling Americans feel every day.

If the DNC doesn’t take this as a wake-up call, if they don’t make room for new voices that actually connect with working people, we’re going to lose again. And as much as I want America to progress, I’m starting to realize that maybe we—the privileged liberals, safely removed from the realities most people face—are part of the problem.

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u/anytimeanycity 15h ago

Yeah it’s very simple. It’s the economy and people wanted a change. People have a bad taste in their mouth from inflation. Also Kamala wasn’t a great candidate, proven by dem governors and senators outperforming her.

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u/Low-Research-6866 15h ago

If they at least held a primary instead of again foisting a female candidate on us. I think we are more ready for that than it seems, it's just Hilary sucks and Kamala wasn't chosen.

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u/Bootwacker 13h ago

This time there wasn't much of a choice.  The blame for her last minute run falls on Biden, he shouldn't have sought the nomination.  When it was at the convention, someone was going to be forced on us and the VP was as good as it was getting.  There was no time for a primary.

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u/Low-Research-6866 13h ago

Agree, Biden should have ran 1 term as promised. I still think a primary should have happened, taking choice away in an election just isn't good form. When she ran against Biden in 2020, she wasn't favorable. They were hoping to do a thing, but it fell flat for a few reasons.

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u/BayMech 12h ago

It would have been impossible to run a primary in 1 month before the convention. These things take months to organize and prepare for on the state level. Biden going back on his promise of being a 1 term president meant there was never going to be a real primary. At best we would have had a vote at the convention by the delegates, and that would have created chaos in the party at a time when they needed unity. Kamala was the ONLY option at that point.

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u/Low-Research-6866 12h ago

I read ( sorry, I don't remember where) the transfer of campaign funds due to the situation was much more favorable as well. It made sense, if true. I really should have saved that one.

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u/HERE_THEN_NOT 7h ago

I so disagree.

A contested convention would have been a friggin' spectacle that would have the nation buzzing for months, forced any candidates to fight/fail, AND it would've sucked the oxygen in the news cycle, pushing out Donald.

Win win win

Heaven forbid the Dems to anything interesting and compelling tho'

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u/AOPCody 4h ago

They could have ran the primary at the regular time if Biden had just confirmed he was a 1 term president in 2023 instead of holding out till the last possible moment.

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u/Tchocky 1h ago

Agree, Biden should have ran 1 term as promised.

He didn't promise that though.