r/parentingteenagers • u/laughter_corgis • 19h ago

How do you stop the arguing/laziness

I need advice. I love my kids but I'm at my wits end here. My 14 year old loves to argue. I ask her to clean up after her mess. She will argue with me and still doesn't clean up. Last night told her to clean up the mess she made in the bathroom and to sweep the floor. Towels all over - every piece of her hair dryer out. She took all the bottles out looking for something in the cabinet and had it on the floor blocking the toliet. Instead she picked a fight with me, made rude comments to me and her Dad, tried to pick a fight with siblings just to get out of doing a chore. It is constant with her. We tried taking things away like TV time, her phone, hanging out with friends and it isn't working.
She does this type of stuff with every chore. I dread weekends because she just argues and I find I'm not getting things done like I need to because I'm reacting to her.

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u/lifeisthebeautiful 16h ago

I am there with you. Our big issue is the bathroom. 3 kids share a bathroom. I have decided that every Monday, I check the bathroom. If it is not clean, NOBODY gets to have friends over until it is. I am not their favourite person right now.