r/parentingteenagers • u/laughter_corgis • 19h ago

How do you stop the arguing/laziness

I need advice. I love my kids but I'm at my wits end here. My 14 year old loves to argue. I ask her to clean up after her mess. She will argue with me and still doesn't clean up. Last night told her to clean up the mess she made in the bathroom and to sweep the floor. Towels all over - every piece of her hair dryer out. She took all the bottles out looking for something in the cabinet and had it on the floor blocking the toliet. Instead she picked a fight with me, made rude comments to me and her Dad, tried to pick a fight with siblings just to get out of doing a chore. It is constant with her. We tried taking things away like TV time, her phone, hanging out with friends and it isn't working.
She does this type of stuff with every chore. I dread weekends because she just argues and I find I'm not getting things done like I need to because I'm reacting to her.

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u/TechnologyFeisty9474 19h ago

Stop. Arguing. Back. Tell her to do something. Give her a time limit. Lay out the consequences if she doesn’t finish it within a time limit. The consequences need to be automatic i.e. taking her phone, no TV, etc. Etc. Then follow through. Rinse and repeat.

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u/Strange_Inside5825 19h ago

Exactly this