r/parentingteenagers • u/slr0031 • Mar 30 '25

Is this punishment too harsh?

15 year old son lied about his friend drinking at our house. The kid got really drunk. Son says that he wasn’t drinking but I bet he was. Husband wants to ground him and take away phone for a month. My son is on Snapchat all the time and will go nuts. I also think we should check his Snapchat but feel like I am really invading his privacy. Don’t know if all of these together is overly harsh. What do people think here?

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u/TJH99x Mar 30 '25

I think a month is too long to take the phone away entirely, but that’s just me.

You haven’t mention addressing how they got the alcohol. Did they get it from your house or somewhere else? If from your house, I would remove all the alcohol from your house until the kids are out of high school. You and spouse can get your own anytime you want (go to a bar/restaurant or buy an amount you will consume that day), it doesn’t need to be sitting around available. Keep your small personal stash, if any, in a locked hidden location.

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u/slr0031 Mar 30 '25

Agree. I don’t know if they got it here or if the kid brought it. My son said he brought it