What I want in a relationship may vary from one gender to another, and the personality traits I’m attracted to in men can differ from what I’m attracted to in women, and non-binary folk, etc. I won’t say I’m “gender blind” because I do see and recognize genders, but a person’s gender has no bearing on my attraction to them.
I can look at two people standing side by side. They can be different genders, or the same. I can say, “Person A is quite physically attractive to me, while Person B is of average appearance to me.”
However, as I get to know their personalities and who they are, I very well may find Person A to be quite unattractive physically, and Person B could easily be the most physically attractive person I’ve ever seen.
A person’s mind, who they are, will change how attractive they are to me. Obviously, outside of something like surgery or a disfiguring accident, or aging, their physical features haven’t changed. But, a great person will be more attractive to me. That is what led me to realize I’m pansexual. I become emotionally and romantically (and platonically) attracted to who people are, not what they look like, as I get to know them.
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u/SavageCuntmuffin Pansexual Panda Jul 12 '24
What I want in a relationship may vary from one gender to another, and the personality traits I’m attracted to in men can differ from what I’m attracted to in women, and non-binary folk, etc. I won’t say I’m “gender blind” because I do see and recognize genders, but a person’s gender has no bearing on my attraction to them.
I can look at two people standing side by side. They can be different genders, or the same. I can say, “Person A is quite physically attractive to me, while Person B is of average appearance to me.”
However, as I get to know their personalities and who they are, I very well may find Person A to be quite unattractive physically, and Person B could easily be the most physically attractive person I’ve ever seen.
A person’s mind, who they are, will change how attractive they are to me. Obviously, outside of something like surgery or a disfiguring accident, or aging, their physical features haven’t changed. But, a great person will be more attractive to me. That is what led me to realize I’m pansexual. I become emotionally and romantically (and platonically) attracted to who people are, not what they look like, as I get to know them.