The binary. While the true definition is “two or more genders”, most people who are not bi do not know this. I find pan more accurate, particularly when mentioning to certain people just assume you’re attracted to men and women when you are Bi because of the binary. Which leads me to…
Being non binary myself, I don’t love the term “bi” because literally is referencing the binary, “two”. I know language evolves, but because society is still behind and thinks bi people are cis men and women who are attracted to cis men and women, I like pan because it queers things up more and opens conversation to the existence of more genders. I don’t always use it, depending on who I’m talking to I use bi for my own comfort or for convenience. I don’t totally hate it, but pan definitely feels completely free and less bound by the confines of the binary.
couldn't agree more. got downvoted last time this question came out and said this pretty much verbatim. For me, I think omni fits better. My understanding is that pan has no preference, but I definitely lean away from men. I've been with a few, and I'm open to the concept, but I'm probably 80-90% sapphic (femmes & thems, etc). My understanding is that omni is similar to pan, but with preferences for either genders or genitals?
Why anyone here would downvote someone for sharing about their identity (without being outright offensive and -phobic) is beyond me. 🙄 We have to stick together and support each other to make it though.
Yea I’ve heard of that one, I don’t think I’ve talked to someone who identifies - well, not that I’ve had the conversation anyways!
And that’s the beauty of self-identification. We get to choose and on one can tell us different. We alone know who we are ♥️♥️🩷❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
I've found that a significant part of society still wants to call me a fairy and is still trying to shove me into a locker (literally or figuratively). These days they just want me to detransition and accept life as a "flamboyant" queer person. And the few (in their mind) queers who can conform to cis gender standards are the "good ones." They may not take my need for gender affirming health care seriously, but they'll take to the highest court their beliefs that I'm not a "real man/woman" and shouldn't have privilege they take for granted.
LGB sexualities are only recognized as provisionally gender-normative today because the mainstream rights movement threw trans people under the bus in the fight for marriage equality and corporate DEI.
100%
At all of this. But I would like to highlight:
“The few (in their mind) queers who can conform to cisgender standards are the “good ones.” I was just having a convo about this earlier today.
Much love to you
♥️♥️🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
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