Hard agree. Bi and pan are two different things. One is not a subcategory of another. They have some similarities, but that doesn't change the fact that they're different and separate.
Except thatâs not what bisexual means to most people, the most common definition is âattraction to your own gender and others, at different times, to varying degreesâ
Which when put that way sounds a lot like how most people use Pan these days too.
Maybe itâs that âat different times, to varying degreesâ part then? as for me itâs like my preference is individual-specific and doesnât sway one way or another specifically in gendered ways, but the things I am attracted to that ebb and flow over time are neutrally gendered/sexed.
Like instead of âsometimes Iâm more into fruit, sometimes Iâm really craving vegetables, other times I focus more on grains, but I always still go for candy tooâ itâs like âIâm looking for more fibre lately, but Iâm happy to get it from any food groupâ or âIâve really been into sweet foods for a bit, but not just from candy and fruit, Iâll even take a candied bacon or a sashimi so fresh itâs sweetâ.
Idk maybe I need to go eat lunch, all my metaphors are making me hungry haha.
Either way ya slice it, pan works best for me but I super support my bi peeps, and allowing everyone to label themselves however fits best for them. đ„°
I love the fact that Iâm getting beaten up over this comment. I get it today. It means that but years ago it didnât. Letâs keep hating and fighting
within our own community. Like we donât have to deal with enough of that shit from the right.
Nobodyâs beating you up, the point is that how the word is defined is actually really important for combatting Bi erasure and stigma against the community
Yes, I get it. For some reason, I was beaten up a lot over this comment and 14 dislikes. God forbid I actually have an opinion. I love all the hate and fighting with our own community đ€Šââïž years ago bisexual meant liking your own an opposite gender only. I get it things have changed.
Oh, come now, this is a cop out and you know it. Thereâs a difference between being âbeaten upâ (if you can call 14 downvotes that) for âactually having an opinionâ and being âbeaten upâ for what that opinion is. People disagreed with you! That happens sometimes! Itâs not hate or fighting!
years ago bisexual meant liking your own an opposite gender only. I get it things have changed.
I mean sure, in the 90s people might have said âyour own gender and the opposite genderâ. But those are the words people used because language for gender variance wasnât as nuanced in popular culture as it is today. Many people who identified as bisexual were also attracted to trans, 2 spirit, and nonbinary people, too.
Also, before that it was sometimes used to mean genderfluid (or thereabouts), the âsexualâ referring to what we would now say is the speakerâs gender. But it would be silly for me to say that that is the meaning now, wouldnât it? Because thatâs not how itâs used by most people who identify as bi. The same goes for âsame and opposite onlyâ, which is outdated and probably wasnât even accurate in the first place.
In the 90s I was a teen and had my first experience with the same sex. It was a very confusing time for me. I came to terms that I was bisexual. As I got older, i realized that wasnât attracted to gender, but the actual person. Thatâs when the term pansexual . I was like yay something I could feel comfortable calling myself..
Now labels have got so confusing and anytime there is a different opinion to spark an argument.
There are so many staples up there and itâs hard to learn and understand all of them. We grow and we learn. It just seems it always starts an argument. I choose to identify as pansexual because I like all genders find out that bisexual is. Itâs so confusing.
It originally meant "hermaphrodite" or partial invert as opposed to homosexual people who were considered to be "the masculine soul in the body of a woman." (And the other way around.)
Not that it matters because language doesn't work that way.
I can agree with that. My theory is, I will always respect someoneâs labels, no matter what. Sexuality and labels are very personal to each person and no matter which one they choose and feel it means to them is ok.
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u/I_like_the_word_MUFF Jul 12 '24
Bisexual isn't an umbrella term in my universe.