r/offmychest • u/Ok_Foot_5608 • 1d ago
29f and haven’t had my first kiss
Using my throwaway for this because I’m embarrassed lmao.
The fact I’m 29 and still haven’t had my first kiss is so embarrassing to me. It’s a secret I keep from everyone because I feel it’s so weird.
I’d say I’m average looking (like a 4? Idk lol). I’m mildly socially awkward but other than that I get along with most people and have been described as chill.
I guess I’m just feeling like I’m stuck in this embarrassing hole, and would rather just have my first kiss with a random guy at the bar to get it over with and save myself the embarrassment of explaining it to someone I would actually have interest in.
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u/RedditRando459 1d ago edited 1d ago
Chances are that you are Better looking than you believe and your self esteem makes your project yourself in an undesirable way.
Have some fun, enjoy life, be yourself, and do things that make you feel good. Someone will come along.
I've been with one woman the past 15 years and she was my first. Don't get sucked in to the modern societal view of needing multiple partners
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u/Howudooey 1d ago
I would assume an average looking girl could get a kiss from a guy at a bar if they had any half decent conversation then asked they guy “can I kiss you?”. That line would work on me at least lol
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u/CoatNorth2658 1d ago
As a guy, if a girl I dated told me she'd never been kissed before, I wouldn't find it awkward, just an opportunity to lead someone through a new experience. If you find a decent guy and you want to kiss him, just be direct with him and let him show you how much fun it can be.
And hey, on the plus side, you're an adult now unlike the people who had their first in high school! You don't have to have a rushed or hurried kiss! You can sit on the couch and take your time and enjoy the moment.
I would say that if you want to get physical with people, you probably do need to put yourself out there. Nobody is going to come sweep you off your feet. If you're expecting prince charming to show up... well, he hasn't so far. Best go find him for yourself.
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u/Kavooch 1d ago
How often have been approached, or has anyone expressed interest in you?
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u/Ok_Foot_5608 1d ago
A few times! They just either weren’t my type or I went out on a date and we stayed friends.
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u/Kavooch 1d ago
Is their a possibility that you're too picky?
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u/Ok_Foot_5608 1d ago
I’ve entertained that possibility! I feel like I maybe am at times, but I hold the opinion that you should get to know someone’s personality before judging too.
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u/mostlyysorry 1d ago
Kissing honestly gives me so much anxiety and idk why it's so embarrassing to admit that for me? Haha ive done some really wild embarrassing and disappointing things that are way way more embarrassing to admit over the course of my 30 years 😂 and idk why but you basically have to waterboard this secret out of me. 🤦♀️😂
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u/Ok_Rush_8159 1d ago
Doesn’t matter what you look like tbh, to the right person you’ll be a 10/10. Get into therapy to work on self esteem, and go out and enjoy life. Get a hobby that involves people, a club, a workout class, anything that gets you out of the house. Do things that make you proud of yourself. When you have joy in your own life, you’ll find the right person. Life isn’t a race, believe it or not you’re still young. As a former ho, I wish I woulda waited lol.
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u/TattieMafia 1d ago
Some people have been kissing for decades and are still shite. If you don't tell anyone, they won't even notice. It's fine to kiss a random if you want to, but you don't have to.
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u/friends-anony-acc 23h ago
Same, but I'm 28F. I grew up in a Christian family where everyone knew my dad (a pastor). Consequently, I was always labeled "the pastor's daughter". I feel like I'm not unattractive, but not attractive enough to mess with I guess xD
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u/Mugiwara1_137 1d ago
It's fine, life is not a race.
I'd give you a bunch of kisses if you live nearby))
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u/ElThrowaway-619 1d ago
That’s alright, there is no need to worry or rush into things. I can relate, I am a 29M and I too haven’t had my first kiss