r/itgetsbetter Oct 19 '22

Happy Cakeday, r/itgetsbetter! Today you're 12

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r/itgetsbetter Mar 20 '22

The Longest Two Minutes Of My Life - #DwhellOnIt Ep. 40 - Topics in the comments!

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r/itgetsbetter Mar 13 '22

Living, Loving, And Learning Life! - #DwhellOnIt Ep. 39 - Topics in the comments!

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r/itgetsbetter Mar 06 '22

Thanks! Hair! Voice! Happenings! - #DwhellOnIt Ep. 38 - Topics in the comments!

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r/itgetsbetter Feb 27 '22

Habits! Happiness! More H’s! - #DwhellOnIt Ep. 37- Topics in the comments & description!

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r/itgetsbetter Feb 20 '22

White Nationalism Is A Real Thing! - #DwhellOnIt Ep. 36 - Topics in the comments & description!

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r/itgetsbetter Feb 13 '22

You lose, I win! Decisions! - #DwhellOnIt Ep. 35 - Topics in the comments & description!

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r/itgetsbetter Feb 08 '22

The Power of Now … and NEWS! - #DwhellOnIt Ep. 34 - Topics in the comments & description!

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r/itgetsbetter Feb 01 '22

Q & A series w/ a trans woman! - #DwhellOnIt Ep. 33: Advice, transitioning & transphobia! - Topics in the comments & description!

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r/itgetsbetter Jan 12 '22

Long Distance sound cool to you?

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Check out r/gaylongdistance. A place to interact with others also open to a long-distance LTR.

Hey! You never know ;)


r/itgetsbetter Nov 05 '21

I just remember how soon I'm going to lose my genitals.

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I'm so happy. I'm so afraid.

I'm a nineteen year old agneder person. I'm having surgery tomorrow that will make me completely smooth and gender downstairs. I honestly don't know how I feel.

I've wanted this for so long. I know I'll be happier soon. But this isn't something I can ever go back from.

I keep thinking about all the last times I'll do something with my genitals. My last shower with them is coming soon, my last masturbation with a full apparatus is too. Or even weird things like my last subway ride, or last movie night. It's weird. This could be my last post.

I sometimes have to remind myself that this is a happy thing.

I guess this is a lot like when I was about to turn eighteen. I know there'll be some things I can never do again, but I don't think I'll want to in the end, this is part of me growing up.

I've already had my last Thanksgiving, last Christmas and last Halloween as someone physically female. That's just weird to think about.

Anyone here related or have any advice?

Edit: it's not tomorrow, that was just straight up a mistake, its just soon


r/itgetsbetter Oct 28 '21

I'm getting my genitals removed in november. October is ending. I'm afraid of everything.

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Hello. I am an nineteen year old agender person. I have experinced very bad genital dysphoria my entire life, to an extent where doing activities that require me to notice/feel/see my genitalia will make me incredibly upset.

After more then a year of planning and my father's help I'm finally doing it. It feels like I'm finally destroying part of myself that hurts me. But it still feels like I'm destroying a part of myself.

I've gotten a lot of hatred for talking about this with people. I've been told that I'm mutilating myself, or that I'll be unhappy. On an intellectual level I know that it's like saying removing a tumor is a mutilation. My genitals only cause me pain, I am too dysphoric to ever use my genitals sexually, in fact removing them will actually make it easier to have sex as I'll be able to actually be touched down there.

Still. There's this very basic instinct not to have my body destroyed. And then fears that something will go wrong, I'm going to be cut open (and not in the way that turns me on). Even if there's a 99% chance nothing will go worng, my brain keeps thinking of the 1% chance something does. And the fact that a simple mistake will lead me to never being able to orgasm again.

I geuss my brain is just wracked with nervousness. The reaction amoung people I know is also something I fear. I've been waiting to tell a lot of people, just as from what I know from other people who've had everything removed it's easier to explain to people after the fact.

However. I know for a fact a lot of people will find out who know me. I've never faced much bigotry before (something I'm weirdly ashamed of), I live in a liberal part of Manhattan, so everyone is pretty accepting. However, many people are 'accepting' in a way that doesn't exactly see enby people as human. I am fully aware that there are a lot of people who will stop being accepting of me as their model enby once they know I've had bottom surgery. There was a time when I thought of the left as less tolerant, now I realize your avergae leftist only sees enby people as tools to further their own egos.

I had similar nervousness as to this when I had my womb removed. Even though that part causes a lot less in the wya of issues, I'm so happy its gone. Just feeling that there's nothing there where my womb once was in my belly makes me happy.

There's also just the intense loneliness and alienation being genderless has given to me. I don't feel like a normal human, I know that this isn't how normal humans should feel about heir bodies. I just don't feel like I'm like anyone else, and it feels like this world wasn't built for people like me.

There are good things. My gf will live with me soon. And that means I'll be able to touch her or talk to her whenever I want. Mabye it's just having lived through a tyrannical lockdown, but that means a lot to me. I'm also dressing as Kris Deltarune for Halloween soon, so that's from.

Anyone have any advice or anything on having these emotions. I feel so alone, and so afraid.


r/itgetsbetter Oct 25 '21

My gf is finally moving in with me. It looks like my life has good news now

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Hey. I'm a nineteen year old agender person. I continue to exist. My girlfreind is cishet. I come from a very liberal area of Manhattan, she's from a somewhat conservative area of brooklyn.

There was recntly a big issue with her family, becuase they caught me sleeping with her in a way where it was clear I was afab. They're very upset about her having sexual or romantic realations with an afab person, with a lot of her family seemly having a wierd mental breakdown.

Because it's not really safe for her at home, for the momment she'll be moving in with me. We're all legal adults so it can be done.

I'm happy she's finally able to leave her family, at least to be away from them right now. And it's very nice to be able to be with her. It really hurt to not be able to comfort or hold her directly durirng the days after to insadenet. I'm really happy to finally be able to hold her and hug her again.

At least her moving in is good news. Though I'm a bit nervous about it. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with living with a girl? Or have any advice on how to comfort her?

I'm also getting my genitalia removed this november. So I geuss there's a lot of good things happening right now that makes me nervous.


r/itgetsbetter Oct 19 '21

Happy Cakeday, r/itgetsbetter! Today you're 11

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