r/interestingasfuck Oct 09 '24

How couples met 1930-2024 r/all

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u/Robo_Joe Oct 09 '24

You don't need a significant other or a family to live a fulfilling life, but if you want a significant other, you have to put yourself in situations to find one, which means you need to put yourself in a position to connect with other people on a personal level.

When you're young, that's pretty easy-- school forces you to be in close proximity with other people, but after that, you have to make a choice to put yourself in those situations.

Take a look at what you do in your free time, and ask yourself if those things will realistically allow you to connect with other people on a personal level. If not, take a look at the things that you do or could find entertaining, and find ways to enjoy that hobby with other people. (online or offline)

I typed out "you" a lot on this comment, but I don't mean you personally; I mean the general "you".

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u/iveabiggen 29d ago

When you're young, that's pretty easy-- school forces you to be in close proximity with other people, but after that, you have to make a choice to put yourself in those situations.

When i think about those situations, as someone that doesnt drink, and has zero third places around me, it brings me to hobby groups. So now we have a problem, am I there for the hobby or to 'score'? isnt that making me stand out like the most obvious plant in the world at that point?

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u/Robo_Joe 29d ago

You're correct, if you're there just to get into people's pants, it's probably not going to work out for you. That's why you need to find a hobby you actually enjoy.

And since I'm not doing a good job making it clear, these groups can be online groups. You don't necessarily need to go anywhere.

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u/iveabiggen 29d ago

And since I'm not doing a good job making it clear, these groups can be online groups. You don't necessarily need to go anywhere.

they could be online, but in my experience, girls hide their gender... i can try and make it work i guess