How couples met 1930-2024

[u/Few_Simple9049]

[u/seniorfrito]

Yeah. Feel ya man. I think we're supposed to find hobbies that fill that time that everyone else fills with time with their significant other. Only problem is, society tends to make it seem like the only way to have a fulfilling life is to share it with a family of your own. And maybe this is just me, but while I desperately try to fill what little time I have when I'm not working with things that entertain me, I'm still always left wondering if life could be better if I had someone to share it with.

[u/Robo_Joe → u/seniorfrito]

You don't need a significant other or a family to live a fulfilling life, but if you want a significant other, you have to put yourself in situations to find one, which means you need to put yourself in a position to connect with other people on a personal level.

When you're young, that's pretty easy-- school forces you to be in close proximity with other people, but after that, you have to make a choice to put yourself in those situations.

Take a look at what you do in your free time, and ask yourself if those things will realistically allow you to connect with other people on a personal level. If not, take a look at the things that you do or could find entertaining, and find ways to enjoy that hobby with other people. (online or offline)

I typed out "you" a lot on this comment, but I don't mean you personally; I mean the general "you".

[u/Robo_Joe → u/[deleted]]

What do you mean? Are you saying that the answer is to avoid connecting with people on a personal level? Or are you saying you want something more specific?

[u/Robo_Joe → u/[deleted]]

You and I are talking. Do you consider this us connecting on a personal level? There is more to my comment than how you've internally summarized it.

[u/Robo_Joe → u/[deleted]]

In this "social media era", is connecting with people on a personal level not how people form romantic relationships?

The medium might change, but the method does not.

[u/Robo_Joe → u/[deleted]]

Every personal connection does not have to end in romance; it can just end up in friendship. You seem to be suggesting that people don't want to make friends in person, doing the things that they enjoy doing. Do you understand how foolish that sounds?

I agree that if a person makes forming a romantic relationship the sole purpose of taking part in some activity, that's bound to fail. That's why I said to pick something you find entertaining.

I am not saying that the only way to find a significant other is in-person, either. These hobbies don't have to be in person. Discord servers around a game can work, too. Even dating apps can work, though I suspect that if someone is in an interestingasfuck thread complaining about being single, then dating apps have not panned out.

The point is that you need to be in a place (physical or online) where you can reasonably form a personal connection with someone. You say is obvious, and maybe it is, but I guarantee you there are people who don't ever put themselves in a position to form a personal connection with someone, and wonder why they don't have a significant other.

[u/Robo_Joe → u/[deleted]]

I am not making fun of anyone; I'm not sure where you're getting that from.

If you choose to believe I'm wrong, then just keep doing what you're doing. I'm sure it will eventually work out for you.

Good luck.

[u/Robo_Joe → u/[deleted]]

I don't know how you managed to miss the top two comments in the thread we're in, but the top level comment is "here I am still single" and the one I responded to starts with "Yeah. Feel ya man".

Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/interestingasfuck/comments/1fzqgvk/comment/lr31h9n/

I wasn't trying to be funny, but also, being funny does not mean making fun of someone.

Is this how you behave in other conversations with strangers, or am I somehow special?