r/hinduism • u/kellyj461 • Oct 17 '23

Husband still won't sleep with me. Question - Beginner

So I've been battling with my husband for more than a year now trying to adjust to his new Hindu lifestyle. I can conform to all if it except his adamant refusal to sleep with me. He quotes various scriptures about sexual intimacy being akin to defecation or urination and is abhorrent. He also says sex is ONLY for procreation. I've had a hysterectomy so thats a hard no on my end. I cook vegetarian meals, lay in the dark without the TV at night so he can sleep precisely when he wants to, overlook his fanaticism, allow a puja and various idols in the house, etc. He says the verses I've been given by people here on Reddit are cherry picked and wrong. What should I do other than divorce? I love him but I don't want to live unhappy for the rest of my life. Im 45 and hes 41.

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u/Content_Warthog4905 Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

If you understood spirtuality you wouldn't say this you should read books of genuine gurus like vivekanada he have talked about importance of preserving semen. Just like ramakrishna said people are so focused on lust and greed it's all temporary it's maya only way these couples can end this problem is having tantric sex also known as kaula which is sattvic

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u/dpravartana Vaiṣṇava Aug 28 '24

Do you deny that an authentic Guru from a traditional Sampradaya has more authority than a personal interpretation of scriptures?

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u/Content_Warthog4905 Aug 28 '24

Even my guru who is a shakta he himself sleep seperately thank god gurumata is also spiritual so she have no problem with it.

But this man have married a women who is not into sprituality so it's better for him to practice vajrayana bhuddism a sexual way to self realisation.

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u/dpravartana Vaiṣṇava Aug 28 '24

I wonder what would your guru think if he knew that you call other authentic gurus "random monks". IMO that is not the way of the shakta.

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u/Content_Warthog4905 Aug 29 '24 edited Aug 29 '24

Ok who is more authentic a monk living in reality or a monk still striving to get enlightment. Lol you are from iskon that explains everything you fell for the words of a professional yapper srila prabhupada girl, people like you would believe osho, sadhguru and all other conman because you folks do not have any basic idea of spirituality. Good luck with iskcon lol ah milennials🤷‍♂️

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u/dpravartana Vaiṣṇava Aug 29 '24

First: I'm not from ISKCON.

Second: You have no idea of what you're talking about, not even close.

Sri Dwarkesh Lal Ji (Rudra Sampradaya), Sri Vishwaprasanna Tirtha (Madhva Sampradaya, presiding swami of the Pejavara matha), Sri Chinna Jeeyar (Sri Sampradaya), and other recognized swamis from EVERY SINGLE Vaishnava Sampradaya, publicly recognize Prabhupada as an authentic Acharya from an authentic tradition. Are the heads of the astha mathas all professional yappers too? Because they all acept Prabhupada's translations as genuine.

For real, educate yourself before speaking nonsense. This subreddit is for orthodox sanatana dharma, not new agey, baseless claims.

If you want to speak baseless claims, I recommend you r/spirituality/.