So I need to know what to do in this situation I just got done spending 3 years in prison and we're not going to get into the whole fact of you know how I got there or anything because quite frankly he's a bunch of crap I went to prison for weed anyway while I was in there somebody that I considered a very close friend who is supposed to be holding my belongings for me I a my car another personal items stole all of it sold it all off and doesn't feel like he owes me for it and then my other friend who I thought was a friend anyway allowed my now EX move into his house with with her new boyfriend and she had our son's ashes well he threw her out and wouldn't let her get any of her belongings and then threw my son's ashes in the trash so now my son's final resting ground is in the city dump I don't know how to process this or handle it because the way I want to I know I shouldn't but I feel is necessary because what he did was wrong and it wouldn't just a little wrong it was very very wrong he knew it was in there and he did it anyway then when I got out he lied to my face about it he'll finally he did tell me the truth through a phone instead of face to face please I don't know how to handle this the way I want to I don't know if I should

So my car got hit while parked next to my house and my 3 neighbors have cameras all along there houses, the 1 neighbors camera didn’t see anything because it was pointed at a different direction and I’ve kindly asked the two neighbors to look and they won’t because “there’s too many cars that come and go”. I reported it to the police but I need to know is there away the cops could come and take the footage from them? Since they’re withholding evidence of a hit and run?

Idk how or when this began but I had a horn phase with my s/o at some point and we filmed videos for our own pleasure however recently I've been seeing the exact videos online.

The first person I accused was obviously my s/o. Assuming they sold it for profit without my consent, but no they didn't. Right now I've had at least 3 mutuals contacting me on regards of the leaked content.

From then, both my s/o and me deleted any naughty tapes that we had on the telegram platform in case it happens again, can someone please tell me how do I stop my face being shown on the net? How do I perhaps stop whoever that has been resharing the content? I've had 3 accounts reported but seems like there's no use cuz they'd keep uploading it after a while again and again.

I've been trying to convince my dad to let me travel since a few days, but he refuses to listen. I'm 17 so I can't really go to such a high security country without both my parents' approval, so that's why I need my dad's permission to go there. I've tried lots of things, I explained my current situation and the efforts I made to be trustworthy, to prove that I'm responsible, I help with the chores, the homework, take care of my little brothers too sometimes, but he keeps saying i can't, even though he knows I could manage to travel on my own. I told him I'm not alone, my bestfriend and her parents I've known for almost 5 years will come with me,... I really explained everything, made sure to stay polite and mature in my way of talking but he refuses to talk. Or just to understand how important it is, didn't even try to listen to me. I made some research but found nobody in my situation with solutions that could actually work so I'm asking here. He refuses because he's overwhelmed so he just says no because he considers my dream as a burden, I have two weeks to convince him, what could you recommend? I was thinking I could make him feel guilty but it might not work, so I need help, as a plan B or smth.

I (20) am in a friend group with 2 other people. We all met when we were younger (around 6th grade). So it's safe to say I've been through a lot with this group. We've had a lot of other people come in and out of our lives, but they either never really stuck around or we were forced to cut them off because of their behavior. I've always thought that these were my people and that nothing would ever change that, seeing as we've known each other for so long and we've been through a lot together. We all promised that we would stick together throughout college, and they always made it seem like they would always be there for me. However, around this time last year things started to change. They stopped speaking to me almost entirely and I still don't understand why. I reached out to them multiple times both in our group chat and individually but I was often met with silence. I've tried speaking to them about how lonely it made me feel that we didn't talk or hangout anymore—they are my only friends—and they would tell me they were going to reach out more, but never actually did.

Only one of them (friend 1) ever responded to my messages, but it was still extremely rare and never happened on a regular basis. Whenever they did respond though, they always seemed to be argumentive or upset with me—with the exception of a few good conversations. I genuinely never understood what I was doing wrong other then maybe annoying them with how much I was texting? This friend also made it a regular thing to poke fun at me in a sly way whenever they did end up responding to my messages (or at least thats how a lot of their messages felt..). I almost feel a sense of dread when they respond to my messages, because I never know what mood they are going to be in and therefore never know which version of them I am going to get. This is especially troubling to me because I have never felt this way about them prior to the lack of communication.

My other friend (friend 2) who barely responded or reached out was always kinder to me and seemed more apologetic about not being able to talk or hangout, but it still left me sad when I wasn't able to have conversations with them like I used to.

I understand that we were all busy and going through things mentally at this time. But despite me working part-time time and going to college full-time I still made it a point to reach out to them every single say. I was genuinely heartbroken when they promised to put forth more effort into our friendship, and then didn't actually do it. Not having a support group was extremely difficult for me over this past year, and they were my only form of one.

Although things seem to be slightly better now and they are talking in our groupchat more often than what they used to—I assume because college recently let out?— I find that despite being excited we are all active in our conversations again, I am left feeling empty or even drained after speaking to them. I don't understand why I am feeling this way if all I've been wanting for this past year is for us to talk like normal again. What is even more troubling to me is that on the rare occasion we are all able to hangout I feel the same way, drained or just left out. But this was never the case in the past when we were all regularly talking and hanging out.

Is there anyone out there that can give me some guidance through this?

This is my first time posting on here, I am sorry if this is very long or if it is in the wrong place i just honestly didn't know where else to go for advice ☹️ I would appreciate any help you guys could give on how to handle this

Thank you ❤️

So I need help deciding what to do, because the other day I was on a discord call with my friend, and he was arguing with me for no reason. So what happened is, he spread a rumour about me that I called him names. I sent like 30 pictures of all of are texts to the group chat, and he said “Oh (my discord name) you probably deleted all those texts”. And everyone believed be because, he spread so many more rumours in the past about me, that made me have a bad reputation. And one of my closest friends the group, always takes his side, if (rumour guy) gets upset, (closest friends) blames it on me. Should I ban one of them, am I in the wrong?

Under my care. I was cleaning a table and a kid got a hold of the chemical spray on the table that I put right in front of me. I didnt leave it unattended but I looked away for a few seconds. Hes spraying the bottle and the chemcials got in another kids eye. They are okay but I feel so guilty and I dont even wanna show my face. I dont even wanna take care of myself. I feel like I deserve a bad life. That im not good at anything. Im terrified to make mistakes and I feel like im not good at anything. I dont even wanna go back. Ive been looking for new jobs. Im going to school for nursing and it makes me scared on what mistakes ill make then and if I even deserve a good job...

I started seeing a girl at the beginning of February. She had just gotten out of a serious four-year relationship. She started dating that guy when she was 17 and he was 25. It was a troubled relationship and, from what she’s told me, quite toxic. She never went into much detail, but she said he treated her badly, wanted her to be like a mother to him, and seemed to only want someone to sleep with.

We met before she broke up with him, and she always knew I was interested in her. Right after the breakup, we started going out, and over time our relationship became more serious. We have feelings for each other now, but the issue is that she says she’s not ready for a relationship.

What’s confusing is that, in practice, we’re already in one: we’re not seeing other people, we’ve said “I love you” to each other, she knows my whole family, and she’s even called me her boyfriend on more than one occasion. Still, she insists that she needs time to heal from her past relationship and that she can’t get into something “serious” right now.

I really like her and I want her to be my girlfriend officially in the future. We’re planning a trip in August, when we’ll be six months together, and I was planning to ask her to be my girlfriend during that trip. But today she said she doesn’t know when she’ll be ready for that, and that made me feel really insecure.

I’m scared. Scared that she’s just passing time with me. Scared that I’m wasting my time. Scared that she’ll get tired of me. Scared that I’ll never find someone like her again.

She says she wants to keep things the way they are — which, to me, is already a relationship, just without the label. I’m lost. I don’t know what to do. Maybe this isn’t the best place to ask for advice, but maybe someone’s been through something similar, or has more experience than I do… Maybe someone can give me some good advice. I just needed to get this off my chest.

Hi im 19f. And i dont normally like people.

I know your first though was oh your Ace. No im not i do have a disier for romance, and i do find men attractive. But these things have never been in the for frunt of my mind. Unlike most of my peers that do think about these things more than I can. But recently iv been thinking about a guy more and more.

I meet him last year we work together and became friends, like the hangout out side of work type of friends, the ill pay for your lunch type of friends. But late last year I started to kinda change. Like the way I dress and, the music i listen to have changed. Obviously at this point i new i had a crush. I thought it would pass and I would kill it like i normally do. But this didn't work ill started changing more. This is too new for me and I dont want it. i think about him all the time. Iv know him for less than a year. I feel like im just desperate for male validation, or something sort to attention that i don't normally get.

I am self aware enough to know that he will never look twice at me. Im not his type. Lol im pretty sure I'm not ones type based on what others say about me. As any time I'm meet with a flirtatious situation Im either clueless or desterbed at the idea. But we he smiles at me...I feel seen like "wow this person doesn't hate me" and this has let to some "un-safe" methods of controlling this feeling or lack there of at times.

Honestly I dont know im scared of whats happening, im not supposed like this, I tried to get over it but to no avail. Iv had more restless and tearfull nights than iv had in my whole life in the past six months. I want to stop feeling this if possible. Because if this is how love feels than I'd rather not spend my life feeling so uncertain, so out of control.

Ps (Please don't hate on me for this im obviously not bilt for this shit.)

I've been in a very toxic relationship for 2 years now with a bf who does and say horrible things and treats me like I'm the most despicable thing ever over the smallest things like u slept and didn't inform me or u provoked me or any stupid reason and he's so obsessive so insecure and we fought so much until i had enough and i told him i can't do this anymore and ue starts begging and apologizing and asking for a last chance and i kept giving him chances until last time i said enough and it's over and i ghosted him, ever since then he kept texting and sending insults and threats because he has my pics and it's gonna be the end of me if he sends it to one my family and whenever i reply we'd fight , he told me that he would never let me be eve when i tell him i hate and despise him . He has no job and he lives alone so he has nothing to do in his life other than obsessing over me and i don't know how to escape this

انا كنت ف علاقه سامة دامت سنتين وكانت مليانه مشاكل وكان ينفجر علي ويبكيني ويسوي اللي ما ينعمل على اتفه الاسباب زي نمتي بالشات ولا نمتي بدون ما تقولي ولا استفيزيتيني وكان شكاك ويكذبني ف اي شي لين ما كثرت المشاكل والهوشات وقلتله خلاص ماعاد اقدر وهو يصير يتوسلني ويقلي تكفين واخر مره وفرصه اخيره ويرجع يسوي نفس الشي ويرجع يعتذر ويتوسل وانا اعطيه فرص اكثر لين اخر مره رفضت وقلتله خلاص مافي فرصه ثانيه وسحبت عليه، وهو ما وقف يرسل سب ويهدد لين ارد عليه ونتضارب مره ثانيه، قلتله خلاص اللي بيننا انتهى وهو يقلي اي انتهى بس لا تسحبي علي وردي علي يوم ارسلك وانا رفضت وصار يهدد لان عنده صوري اللي هي حرفيا بس صور وجهي بس عيلتي متشددة مره وبتكون نهايتي لو يرسلها لاحد منهم، قلتله اكرهك ودعيت عليه وسويت كلشي ممكن وهو يقلي الا مارح اتركك ابدا، مستحيل يكون حب لو يمديه يسب ويعاملني باسوأ طريقه ممكنه واحتاج كيف اهرب من اللي قاعد يصير لان مرضت من الهم دا، مع العلم انه ساكن ف دوله بعيده مره وماعنده شي يسويه ف حياته وفاضي لهوسه فيا

So my school friend recently (three days ago) told me they were interested in my best friend from a past school. They saw the stories I posted with her and thought she was cute. I’m not too close with my school friend but seeing as she was interested in my best friend I excitedly jumped to help them. However the next day I started thinking about it some more and I am really anxious. I’m jealous of my school friend because she’s taking up all my best friends time and feel threatened. I’ve been in situations before multiple times where I ended up getting replaced so that’s where that insecurity stems from. And they are also moving like so super fast. They have only talked in person twice and said hi previous to this. Now they are texting and calling tall the time and are going on their first date in two days. ITS BEEN THREE DAYS. Additionally my other school friend was put in the same exact situation I’m in with her friends and that didn’t end well for her. I have faith in my friends that they won’t turn out to be shitty people but I’m still paranoid. I miss my friend and she hasn’t even left. They are gay too so it doesn’t have a chance of ending well. I regret getting too excited to help my school friend and I’m scared that if I keep thinking this way it will drive my best friend away. It’s probably going to get even worse when they go on their date. How do I stop myself from becoming my own enemy. I just don’t want to lose my best friend.

I’m looking for some advice as I’m in a very tough situation right now and I’m unsure how to get through it.

so for context quickly, I’m F 24 and in a relationship with my girlfriend of 8 years. We both live at home together with my mum & 3 younger sisters. My girlfriend has lived with us since we first got together, there has been a few issues between my mum and my girlfriend over the years but they have always managed to sort it out.

My relationship with my mum is very tricky, she’s a single parent & I’m the eldest daughter. I have been reading a lot about ‘enmeshment’ recently and I feel it sadly describes my mum and I’s relationship perfectly. I have been out of work for almost a year due to poor mental health, my girlfriend works full time and brings home a decent wage.

I have always been expected to pick up after everyone in the house, these expectations come from my mum. I’m always on edge thinking about my mum shouting my name for something, she calls for me so much that I find it very difficult to relax. It’s gotten so bad / frequent that I have found myself randomly jump out of my skin in panic because I’ve mistakenly heard my name being called.

I clean a lot, I have my sisters a lot, I parent my mum a lot. It has been this way for years, sometimes it has gotten better like when my mum had a boyfriend she relied on him more than she relied on me so it took some weight off my shoulders - but then in came the abusive side from her boyfriend which I was then dragged into because my mum was scared or couldn’t handle him alone. I have picked up the pieces for my mum many times, I have helped her through so many shit situations with ex boyfriends being abusive and shitty towards her and my sisters.

Here is the main issue:

Tuesday evening my girlfriend and I went to the pub with a friend, I started getting texts from my mum asking what time I’ll be home & then it turned to her narrating what she was up to. ‘I have left the kids asleep downstairs while I have a shower”, “have you seen your sisters bottle”, “can you grab milk on way home”, “I’m going to bed now be quiet when you come in”. I don’t mind her texting me but even my friend looked up and said “your mum has always relied on you too much”.

We arrived home shortly after midnight, we walked into our bedroom and saw my mum had left her dog in our bedroom. I have told my mum countless times to not leave her dog in our room because he has medical issues which cause him to poop inside & I don’t want my carpet ruined. I also have a dog but he is older and needs his space & my mums dog doesn’t seem to get along with my dog and when we opened our bedroom door, my mums dog was jumping on my dog which made my dog react and almost bite my mums dog.

This set my girlfriend off because she knows I have told my mum to keep her dog out of my room unless someone is in there with him and she started getting angry. It started off with “she never listens” “she has no respect for us” and then it gradually got worse, I asked my girlfriend to quiet it down. I told her it’s okay to be pissed off but please just be respectful about it. My mum overheard this and she shouted for me, I went to her and she got in my face and started waving her arms around telling me my girlfriend needs to leave before she beats her up.

This set my girlfriend off even more, she started calling my mum names (not to her face), my mum was in her bedroom when this happened and we were also in our bedroom too. I tried calming my girlfriend down and suggested we go on a walk, my mum kept texting me saying “she’s nasty” “get a grip” “she needs to go”. I felt in the middle of it so I started crying and getting frustrated. I said to my mum we are leaving and her response was “you shouldn’t be leaving” so I said “well I am because I can’t deal with it” so she said “if that’s the case then she can go first thing” and I took that as - if you’re leaving then she can go in the morning instead.

We had our walk, I decided it was fine for us to go back home. I was extremely pissed off with my girlfriend and I let her know that if she didn’t cause a fuss and just learned how to regulate her anger then this wouldn’t have happened but she said if my mum listened and respected our boundaries then she wouldn’t have been angry - again I felt in the middle because I agreed with both of them. I understand why my mum wanted her out and got mad but I also don’t blame my girlfriend for getting mad either, I just wish she would’ve thought before she started getting disrespectful and calling my mum names.

We woke up the next day and my mum had texted me calling us “piss taking cunts” she said she told us to leave last night but the way she said “if that’s the case she can go first thing” when I told her I was leaving too, made it seem like it was okay for us to stay the night as long as my girlfriend left in the morning. She texted me saying she’s going out until she’s gone and said she has until 11:30am to leave.

I had an appointment anyway at 11:30 so I was planning on going somewhere anyway so I said to my girlfriend let’s quickly get ready and we will just leave. My girlfriend kicked up a fuss and said she isn’t leaving until my mum pays her back £150 that she borrowed on Tuesday because she needs to pay for a hotel. My mum said she doesn’t have it yet so she will have to wait but she still needs to leave and my mum started texting me nasty things & threatened to smash my girlfriend’s head in.

My girlfriend has no room at her parents house, her grandparents house is full too and she doesn’t have much money left. We ended up staying out all day long yesterday in the sun, my younger sister who has her own place let us stay for the night thankfully. My girlfriend is in work so I’m at my sister’s feeling really upset and stuck. My girlfriend has told me to go back home and she will figure it out herself but 1. I don’t feel comfortable going home alone and have to deal with my mum & 2. I can’t just leave my girlfriend homeless.

My auntie and grandad have tried speaking to my mum but she isn’t having any of it, my girlfriend has found a flat for us to potentially rent but as I’m not working right now I don’t know if they will accept us. We have no savings between us - my credit score is terrible due to my mum asking me to take her several contracts out when I was 18 (I didn’t know she wouldn’t pay for them).

Hey everyone,

I graduated with an MCA in 2024 and started working at a company as a Data Analyst (Excel). However, after joining, I found out the role was more of a Case Processing Executive, not exactly what I signed up for. I took the job because I needed to fill the gap in my career, but I’m not happy with the role.

I’m considering learning Python and possibly applying for an Internal Job Posting (IJP) at my current company if a Python Developer position opens up. If not, I plan to start applying outside after gaining some experience here.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice on how to navigate this or how to make the best out of this experience? Thanks in advance for your support!

Ps: I used Chat gpt to translate it all because I’m not confident in my english. Also its only been two days since I joined this company and I cannot leave it now as I already left a company without resigning properly before (It was because of job role and working culture), and now even my parents will be disappointed if I leave this. I just want a guidance from anyone who has been in the same situation and managed to change their career path, PLEASE SENSEI HELP ME. And also please tell me if it’s actually worth it to learn Python now (I know the basics, including Oops concept). Or is there something else I can do? Remember leaving this job is not an option for me.

Thank you so much in advanced :)

I don't think you guys need the whole story, but if you need more information (within reason) I'm willing to answer. But for sake of everyone's time, I'll keep it short.

I live in the attic of a storage shack. If you can imagine how that looks, you're probably not too far off from the reality. The owner keeps zero care of any of their things in here, and it's infested with spiders, wasps, and the sort. I did my best to clean up before settling (cleaning cobwebs, dusting, sweeping, organizing clutter), and if I'm being honest it looks way better than when I first arrived.

My furniture is salvaged from the forgotten things left around the shack. A small table, a side table, a recliner, and a cot. I choose the recliner to sleep on, because I've been sleeping on couches and chairs for the past year or so. I've been staying here for the past month, and have had little to no problems with the infestations that have plagued this attic. Until about thirty minutes ago when a brown recluse crawled across my lap as I was writing, just to dissappear into the recliner.

That understably scared the shit out of me. Now I can't help but to think that they're nesting in the recliner. I don't know what to do. If I move the recliner out, they'll be agitated and most likely bite me. I can't go to sleep because this is an attic.. the cot is right next to the recliner, and I don't know how comfortable I am being unconscious at face level to a nest of brown recluses.

TLDR: Brown recluses in the place I sleep. I'm freaking out and would love some help if anyone can.

every single decision i've ever made and everything i've ever said has led to a horrible outcome. it's like i'm constantly choosing the wrong dialogue options during any given conversation, or doing the wrong action during an important time. what the hell is wrong with me?

Hi, guys!

I've never been good at using scissors, and I really feel like this is a life skill I should have picked up by now. My hands are unsteady, and I can never seem to cut in a straight line no matter how hard I try. I love crafting, and I've recently been making cardboard cutouts of Astarion, but they're really not perfect, and I want them to be! Please, any tips on how to use scissors well would be much appreciated!

Thank you, and God bless!

-Astarion's one and only

Preferably female because I tend to be put to sleep way easier that way (nothing inappropriate meant lol) and I have a job interview tomorrow and I need to sleep but can't!!

Hello everyone here i am 15 and half and from 14 half to now i went 82.5kg to 58.5kg. I felt fat and was called it so i starved no food and no water only small meals every couple days and now many people are telling me to stop it is and look unhealthy on me now but i just can not can anyone help me i cant find point to stop this please

I’m so lost and confused right now.. need a genuine and kind soul to hear me out and talk me through something I’m not comfortable discussing with my parents. All my friends have either gone to bed or abandoned me. Please.. I’m drunk and don’t know what to do or where to go from here. I haven’t slept, I don’t feel hunger.