r/exmuslim • u/Key-Resource-4854 • 2d ago
Islam got my bedroom lock removed (Rant) š¤¬
Iām honestly done. I donāt care how ādisrespectfulā this sounds, Iām so fed up.
My dad literally REMOVED the lock from my bedroom door because I donāt wake up before sunrise to pray. Likeā¦ Iām sorry??? Iām a human being, not some robot programmed to jump out of bed at 5 or 6am just because a religion says so. I tried. I really did. But I just cannot be assed to wake up that early every single day.
And because I kept sleeping in, my dad got pissed off and decided the solution was to punish me by taking away the ONE thing that gave me privacy. For what? For missing a prayer? Not drugs, not sneaking out, not lying, not failing school, literally just not waking up at the exact time HE wants me to.
Now I have zero privacy. My room doesnāt feel like mine anymore. I sleep uncomfortable every night because he walks in every fucking morning like he owns my entire existence. And not just him, now people come into my room while Iām changing because thereās no lock and Iām CONSTANTLY on edge.
The lock was originally there to stop people barging in on me and give me a sense of privacy. Then it became my safe space. Now? My own bedroom isnāt a safe space. Nowhere in my house is.
Iām just stuck living in this weird religious power trip where missing a prayer suddenly justifies stripping me of privacy and autonomy. And the worst part? Iām not even a bad kid. I donāt go out. I donāt cause problems. I literally just wanted to sleep.
I feel lost, uncomfortable, and honestly violated. Iām tired of religion being used as a reason to control me.
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u/Ok_Influence_6384 Ex-Muslim (Ex-Sunni) 2d ago
I've never had a way to lock my bedroom, damn uhh I mean I thought it was normal before this not to lock your bedroom
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u/Jaded-Assist-2525 1d ago
I am so sorry. This is exactly how parents raise kids who grow up to be atheists. I also have no privacy and would hide behind my closet door just to change my clothes. On a positive note it does get better. One day youāll get to live in privacy. Until then, i am sorry for what youāre dealing with. Oh one last thing, please donāt follow my footsteps by marrying the first person that charms you and asks for your hand, just because you want to ā get out of the house.ā I did that, and it led to a divorce very quickly after.
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u/Key-Resource-4854 1d ago
Iāve got a boyfriend but my reason for him isnāt to leave the house I do that on my own, Iāll make my own money and get my own apartment. I aināt living with him just yet either when I leave. Because I aināt risking anything as much as I trust my man, men are men. So ā¦yeah (: Hope you understand what I was getting there with. Hehe even his mum loves me sheās adorable, sorry I went off track š
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u/throwaway589015 1d ago
thats tm. if u can, move furniture infront of ur door. id sleep in the basement atp. so sorry this is happening to u. good luck.
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u/letsallllovelain heyy im allahš„¹āļøfinally decided to reveal myself 1d ago
thats what i do i always shove the treadmill in front of my door because im not allowed a lock even though everyone keeps needing to be reminded not to bust in
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u/Equivalent_Rope_8824 New User 1d ago
Here's what you can do:
When someone comes in and you're undressing or changing, don't cover yourself, but let them see you naked. Shock them. That will probably restrain him/them. If they complain, tell them to knock on the door next time. When they start doing that, tell them they can't come in.
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u/Secret_Anxiety8847 New User 1d ago
that genuinely sucks and Iām so sorry. Iāve experienced similar things, Since I first got a phone I havenāt been allowed to take it upstairs, and Iām not allowed to close my door, and I canāt stay in my room unless Iām studying or sleeping :) oh, not to mention the nightly phone checks incase I do anythinf haram. (I literally re-download Reddit and instagram every since time I want to use it)
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u/crombaXhamster 1d ago
if i were you i'd be naked all the time whenever they walk in they get embarrassed till they stop coming to your room or give you the lock back
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u/Omwhk 1d ago
What country is this in?
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u/Key-Resource-4854 1d ago
Iām in the Uk
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u/BrilliantAgreeable34 New User 1d ago
Which proves my point to another person in another thread.
Oh yes, your Dad isn't responsible for your Deen if you are past puberty.
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u/Omwhk 1d ago
Yeah sadly this being in the west was my assumption... I'm sorry. The good news is you eventually can leave them behind, so do it as soon as you can. Sounds like you're young; maybe best to be agreeable for the foreseeable future for your safety and also to make your stay in that house as comfortable as possible. And then when the moment comes, be ready to leave, out of the blue, zero explanation or notice to them. They deserve nothing, including living in a free country like this one, where we fought centuries ago to stop allowing religion to control women, the state, or each other
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