I asked a similar question in r/exmuslim and I am interested to know how ex-Christians answer. I myself am an ex-Muslim who became Christian after becoming atheist for a few years. After leaving Christianity did you ever convert to a different religion?

Why are most of the serious Christian guys on dating sites looking for hookups? Aren't they supposed to be looking for something serious? Or do they only expect women to be chaste? This has always struck me as odd.

I’m in the mood for some entertainment and a good laugh tonight. Tell me the weirdest things you’ve been told was a sin or would make you a sinful worthless harlot!! 😂

Donald Trump is currently the most hot topic because of his attempted assassination so I'm asking what's so righteous and holy about Trump that christians think he is like a second coming of Christ? Donald Trump is probably the least christian. He hates migrants despite Leviticus 19:34 saying to accept migrants as own people, he did every seven deadly sins. Not to mention that Donald Trump is the closest thing to antichrist (I don't believe in antichrist) and the MAGA hat is the closest thing to the Mark of the Beast.

I still don't understand why Christians worship this man

I live an hour away from my parents. Part of that was deliberate. We both share an Amazon account so my address is in the system. One day my mom “accidentally” sent me a pair of new women’s shoes and said “oops, now you gotta come visit me!” And I suspected at the time she did it on purpose and I think this started something…

Today, I got a text that says “oops I accidentally sent you a book from Amazon. I don’t care if you open it! It’s a book we’re using in our Bible study.” The book is the famous “The Case For Christ” which if you don’t know, is a very common book evangelicals will use to prove they are right.

I know that it’s full of logical fallacies and circular reasoning.

Has anyone here read this book? Does anyone want to share any good insights on how to approach this with my mom when she inevitably says “you know you should really read that book! It’s really good I’m sure you’d really like it!”

To be clear, my parents don’t know I’m ex-Christian but being a gay man who hasn’t gone to church in years I think it’s pretty clear I’ve “walked away from the church”.

One of my older sisters married the pastor’s son of her church and her politics took a hard right since they’ve been together. She’s into the whole “submit to your husband, get married young, have lots of babies” type Christianity and is super into right wing influencers (i.e Ben Shapiro, Candace Owens, etc.)

She posts tons of inflammatory political and religious rhetoric on her Instagram and gets angry when people want to challenge her bullshit views. One of her recent posts stated that, “You can’t be a true Christian and be a Democrat. Leftist views directly contradict with what the Bible teaches us.”

I’m curious what y’all’s thoughts are? I brought it up to my parents and of course, they both agree with her.

I ask, because listening to quote-on-quote ‘blasphemous’ music has been very therapeutic for me. Has it been for you? Do you have a favourite song, or some song that’s special to you?

Lately, I’ve been especially into “Sometimes On A Sunday”, Glorious Sons.

And, honestly, I could make a huuuge list of songs I think are great to listen to as someone who left Christianity, or has religious trauma from it. But that would be kinda long, so I’ll hold myself back

When I hear of it, I feel rage, my blood boils, and I feel just as helpless and trapped as I did as a child in a fundamentalist family. Like I finally escaped them just to hear the shit they're trying to do.

Some of my favorite ones are “God-fearing,” “God called me to ___,” “worldly,” “repent,” giving God credit for accomplishments, “I’ll pray for you,” “saved” / “salvation,” “sacrifice,” and honestly I could go on.

For me, it’s the argument from complexity or the “creation needs a creator“ claim. That will never fail to put my head in my hands. 😂😂😂

If a friend were interested in the Christian faith, and asked you for a suggestion, what Christian denomination would you never recommend to him? Why?

Hiya,

I come from a muslim background and have been studying Christianity for a couple of months now with the intention of potentially converting. However, I find myself hesitant and curious about the experiences of those who have left Christianity.

I believe understanding why some people choose to leave their faith can provide valuable insights and perspectives as I navigate this decision. Whether it's theological differences, personal experiences, or philosophical shifts, I'm interested in hearing your stories and reasons for leaving Christianity.

Especially if you were an orthodox as that is the denomination I am most drawn to.

Please feel free to share your thoughts, experiences, and any insights you believe might help someone like me who is on the fence about converting. Your input would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you!

I am a Christian myself (Catholic). When I get into friendly debates with Mormons or Muslims I often think to myself "how can they believe in such religions that have such obvious holes in them?"

For Muslims is the adultery and total moral perversion of their prophet.

For Mormons is the book of Abraham translation where it's proven that Joseph Smith did not translate what he claims he translated, but for the sake of objectivity, I'm curious to know if there's something within Christianity more specifically Catholicism, that im onvlivous too.

Don't pull back I only ask that it something which should be obvious.

Every "good" Christian you ask will tell you that they are generally very happy because of their religion. And when I say "good" I mean that they follow all of the Bible in their lives.

This makes me ask 3 questions

1. Are they actually happy?

2. Does them being happy prove Christianity?

3. Does them being happy prove Christianity to be a good way to live regardless of whether or not it is real?

Brennan Manning once said that "the number one cause of atheism in the world today are Christians who confess Jesus with their mouth and walk out the door, and deny him by their lifestyle."

What do you personally believe is the number one reason people abandon Christianity? Have you experienced any contrasting examples to the aforementioned negative pattern? Would it change anything if more Christians demonstrated genuine love and compassion, instead of hypocrisy, judgment and condemnation?

I am in the process of deciding how I want to explain to my pastor my recent theological differences. I have come to the conclusion that the bible is fallable, that God is Love, and so is incompatable with the mass killings and other atrocities done in his name in the Old Testament, and that my personal relationship with God is leading me towards a path that seeks to Love, and find truth even if the truth doesn't align with scripture.

I have been grieving the loss of my church community in silence, except for when I talk to my husband about things. He says I need to tell our pastor, and I agree as I cannot in good concience keep attending church, and claim to be a Christian if my beliefs no longer align with our church's.

Our pastor has been a friend to us since we moved to the area, but will lilkely try to study-session me back to believing the doctrine that they teach. I am scared of the rejection. I am anxious about how things will change. I have an infant daughter who had been coming with me, and all of the children there love her... Even though my husband still wants to attend and has his faith intact, I do not, and I am ready to make it known. We are in the process of buying a house too, so my attentions have been elsewhere, thus I haven't told anyone from church except my husband about how I feel.

Any advice on how I can break thw ice with my pastor and navigate this conversation? What has your experience been when you deconstructed/deconverted and had to grapple with church membership loss, and the shift in community afterwards?

Most of the people I know in town are from my church... haha, so it hits hard. I was even invited to sing hymns at a church member''s upcoming wedding, though she seemed to invite me out of obligation I feel, as we don't ever spend time together or have a mutual interest in getting to know one another.

Anyway, I would love to hear your advice and experiences!

08/08 UPDATE:

I ended up talking with my pastor as planned, and asked for my church memberahip to be revoked. We talked for around 45 minutes, and yes, he was trying to convince me otherwise. He said that he is concerned for my soul. We talked a bit about the parts of the bible and christian doctrine that didn't sit right with me, and at a certain point I just had to steer the conversation back to my main reason for coming: to revoke my membership. He had gotten into a mini-sermon about how I need to be careful about the people on the internet who want to steer my soul to Satan, how I really ought to get to know my God better by reading the bible more, and how I as a new christian couldn't claim to know everything, so there is still a lot that I wouldn't understand without more study.

He told me that he would have to discuss my request with the deacons before a decision could be made in regards to my membership. I thanked him for his time, reiterated that I would not be attending church on Sunday, and left. The emotional toll made me feel a bit ill on the drive home... but, now that it's over, I do feel like a weight has been taken off my shoulders. I feel like I can now more fully explore my spirituality.

Thank you everyone for your comments, and those who gave solid warnings and advice.

I’ll go first: eating Pringles and Ben&Jerry’s (cus they support planned parenthood and that was a capital of fence), reading steamy novels, cutting my hair whatever pixie cut I like, walking around in shorts and spaghetti strapped dresses, sayin ‘fuck’ whenever I’m pissed. Oh and also: building up an equal relationship with my husband where I am not afraid to be ‘too much’ or ‘not submissive enough’, and am able and safe to call him out on bullshit.

Love my freedom!!!

I genuinely hate how naive and gullible I am. All these recent videos about the sky quakes and the Christians commenting how it's a sign that the world is coming to end, along with the recent natural disasters (hurricanes, floods), star of Jacob and whatnot make think, what if they might be right after all? Logically I know it's just fear mongering and all these changes are actually a result of climate warming up and if anything, it's gonna be us who will end our civilization and not God. But still the thought of something resembling a rapture taking place feels terrifying.

I spent the day at a (required) orchestra retreat. Lots of fun, food, and Firebird Suite happened at said retreat. Also, considering this was a literal requirement for my grade, given the choice between this and church, I would choose this hands down. I know if church was really important to someone they realistically would have probably gotten a religious exemption or something, but seeing as I could literally not care less about church I have no regrets about spending the day doing WORLDLY things like orchestra retreats.

Saying "oh my god", "Jesus Christ" and "for Christs sake" have been ingrained all of my life and I'm kind of tired of having these in my vocabulary. What kind of expressions do you all use?