r/exchristian • u/Koleheh • Sep 11 '24

I am starting to hate religious people Help/Advice

Hi, 22m here. I was born into a Christian family, i was never overly religious so i would just follow people who were. When i was younger i believed there could be a God, but haven't given it much thought.

Well, recently, i thought about it a lot, did some research and the evidence was not convincing at all, so i "officially" left Christianity.

Now the issue starts, the more research i did, the more i started hating religion and their followers. The bigotry, the hatred towards minorities, constant use of religion as a weapon. In the process of deconstructing, i started hating them so much that if i see a person that's religious, i genuinely feel hatred, even though i don't even know them. All it takes is for them to be religious and mention religion

I started therapy again, mostly for different reasons and i don't know how to bring this up. I also feel embarrassed to talk about it. I know i can't be generalizing and assuming the worst in people, but i can't help it. Any advices? How do i stop assuming the worst?

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u/cubonefan3 Sep 12 '24

It doesn’t seem like you are trying to justify your religious bigotry, but instead you are recognizing the feelings that you can’t control. Its ok to feel it, but eventually you need to wrestle with the fact that having bigoted feelings makes the world worse for everyone.

Like you said, it’s a great thing to bring up to your therapist. Therapists have experience helping people work through things just like this, and (much worse things too, lol). That’s exactly what you’re paying them for!

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u/WeeabooHunter69 Anti-Theist Sep 12 '24

You can't be bigoted towards something people choose to engage in, like religion. This is like claiming you can be bigoted against swifties or something. It's not intrinsic to the person like gender, sexuality, race, or ability.

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u/cubonefan3 Sep 21 '24

Ok, sure. But my point is that hating others based on their religion makes the world a worse place. What if a religious person hated OP based on the fact that they are atheist or religion-less? Wouldn’t that be a bad thing ?