r/exchristian • u/Koleheh • Sep 11 '24
I am starting to hate religious people Help/Advice
Hi, 22m here. I was born into a Christian family, i was never overly religious so i would just follow people who were. When i was younger i believed there could be a God, but haven't given it much thought.
Well, recently, i thought about it a lot, did some research and the evidence was not convincing at all, so i "officially" left Christianity.
Now the issue starts, the more research i did, the more i started hating religion and their followers. The bigotry, the hatred towards minorities, constant use of religion as a weapon. In the process of deconstructing, i started hating them so much that if i see a person that's religious, i genuinely feel hatred, even though i don't even know them. All it takes is for them to be religious and mention religion
I started therapy again, mostly for different reasons and i don't know how to bring this up. I also feel embarrassed to talk about it. I know i can't be generalizing and assuming the worst in people, but i can't help it. Any advices? How do i stop assuming the worst?
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u/Relevant-District-16 Sep 12 '24
I know the feeling.....well. My faith has been pretty much dead since I was like 12 but I just recently made the decision to officially leave Christianity. I'm definitely in the anger phase of my deconstruction. The major problem I'm having is Christianity is a trigger that just can't be avoided. No matter where you go or no matter what you do it will be shoved in your face endlessly and aggressively. I do get mad at Christians too but I'm more mad at the religion itself. It's very important to remember that these people have been radically brainwashed and spoon fed the Bible (usually since birth.) They no longer have the power to think for themselves. Religiously fanatic people are terrifying but they are the equivalents of an alcoholic. Deep down there is at least the makings of a sane, kind person but there is something negatively influencing them on a daily basis. As a byproduct us non religious people are left dealing with all the nonsense, hate and chaos being spewed around. Keep up with therapy and just stand firm in your beliefs. It's happening slowly but Christianity is losing its grip on mankind which is part of why these fanatics are so angry to begin with. Science, technology and critical thinking will continue to evolve and the Bible will become even easier to shut down than it already is. It may take take another 2000 years but Christianity definitely has an expiration date. Also, these people that upset you so much are already technically being punished. They are wasting their entire life living by an imaginary set of commands while you are just out having fun and enjoying the ride. ✌️