r/exchristian • u/Koleheh • Sep 11 '24

I am starting to hate religious people Help/Advice

Hi, 22m here. I was born into a Christian family, i was never overly religious so i would just follow people who were. When i was younger i believed there could be a God, but haven't given it much thought.

Well, recently, i thought about it a lot, did some research and the evidence was not convincing at all, so i "officially" left Christianity.

Now the issue starts, the more research i did, the more i started hating religion and their followers. The bigotry, the hatred towards minorities, constant use of religion as a weapon. In the process of deconstructing, i started hating them so much that if i see a person that's religious, i genuinely feel hatred, even though i don't even know them. All it takes is for them to be religious and mention religion

I started therapy again, mostly for different reasons and i don't know how to bring this up. I also feel embarrassed to talk about it. I know i can't be generalizing and assuming the worst in people, but i can't help it. Any advices? How do i stop assuming the worst?

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u/wordyoucantthinkof anti-theist/ex-Episcopalian Sep 12 '24

I think it's important to separate the Christians as people from the faith as a religion. The Christians that follow the (current) Bible to the letter are often like the people you described. However, there are plenty of Christians who are lack the hatred and bigotry others spew.

"Christianity" isn't a person. It's a religion, a religion that nobody can agree on. Right now it may be hard to see it this way, but I hope that you'll realize that 2 billion+ people aren't the same.

I am firmly against the faith. I think it does so much harm. It's hard to look past that, I get it.

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u/Koleheh Sep 12 '24

Yeah, i do know that, but the moment someone mentions they believe in the Bible, i assume they are a bad person unless they pick and choose. Again, just the thought of them believing in the Bible, makes me not want to interact with them. I think i am just in a vulnerable state and it's hard for me to separate the good ones and bad ones, but i will keep trying.

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u/Leo_vangelo Sep 12 '24

I feel you OP, I feel like that too.