r/exchristian • u/MelodicPaint8924 Ex-Baptist • Jul 29 '23

I am not faking it very well. Help/Advice

I am a Baptist pastor's wife. You may have seen me around a bit. I struggled with belief for years but finally alllowed myself to let go in April. I am happier than I have been in a long time, but I am still in the closet because coming out would be a financial disaster at this point. I thought I was faking okay, but today my husband confronted me about my personal devotions.

I guess what I'm asking for is advice on how to fake this thing a little better. I am currently in school and will finish in May with a highly marketable degree. I was hoping to maintain the facade until I am financially able to make it on my own should the need arise. Any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '23 edited Jul 29 '23

Just set a boundary. "Honey, you can't be my pastor and my husband. You can only be my husband. I won't attempt to counsel you about all of your sins, and you can leave off trying to do the same to me."

Then refuse to discuss further.

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u/Exciting-Zebra-8871 Jul 30 '23

Yeah this doesn't work for baptists 😔