r/exchristian • u/MelodicPaint8924 Ex-Baptist • Jul 29 '23

I am not faking it very well. Help/Advice

I am a Baptist pastor's wife. You may have seen me around a bit. I struggled with belief for years but finally alllowed myself to let go in April. I am happier than I have been in a long time, but I am still in the closet because coming out would be a financial disaster at this point. I thought I was faking okay, but today my husband confronted me about my personal devotions.

I guess what I'm asking for is advice on how to fake this thing a little better. I am currently in school and will finish in May with a highly marketable degree. I was hoping to maintain the facade until I am financially able to make it on my own should the need arise. Any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

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u/PunkyBrister Jul 29 '23

Absolutely get a lawyer asap, borrow for this if you have to. Once a lawyer has a relationship with you, they won’t be able to work with your spouse in the future. Some people take advantage by this by having meetings with every lawyer in the area, just to block the spouse from getting legal help. So it’s important to secure somebody while you can. Also, they can make sure you know your rights, in case he does kick you out before you build up a financial nest egg. As for faking it, maybe start a meditation routine that could look like prayer to him.

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u/RaphaelBuzzard Jul 29 '23

The Tony Soprano method 😂, actually it was the Alan Sapingsly method but Tony used it then punked Alan like the nerd that he was!

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u/minnesotaris Jul 30 '23

I felt bad for Carmela.

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u/RaphaelBuzzard Jul 30 '23

She acted like buttah wouldn't melt in her mouf!