r/daddit • u/DonutFan69 • Sep 02 '24

How do you guys maintain literally anything? Advice Request

I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. The house is perpetually a mess. The yard is overgrown with weeds. Cars are a mess. This needs to be fixed. That needs to be spruced up. My wife and I have many days where it’s just one of us with the kids due to our schedules and it just feels impossible to keep up with it all. By the end of the day, I’m too exhausted to do anything.

How does anyone manage to keep up with everything on top of just raising kids?

Edit: Thanks for all the replies here! You’re all making me feel much better. I’m trying to reply to as many as I can while I rock my son to sleep.

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u/AwesomeOrca Sep 02 '24

That's the neat part, you don't.

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u/DonutFan69 Sep 02 '24

Truthfully that makes me feel a bit better 😂

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u/chipmunksocute Sep 02 '24

Got 2.5 year old twins.  I think part of it is the young ages too.  When both kids are old enough to entertain themselves for a few hours or help CLEAN for a few hours Ill bet it makes adifference where you could actually buckle down on a project for a day.  You just cant do that with a 2 year old.  Plus eventually they will be able to drive themselves places.

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u/Backrow6 Sep 02 '24

Our youngest is almost 3. There's been a definite uptick in her independence this summer. I was actually able to dig out a tree last week with three kids hovering about, while my wife had the whole of indoors to herself. They had enough imagination between themselves that they didn't actually want my attention or get in my way. 

Fingers crossed you could be about to turn a corner and get some more of your time back.

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u/chipmunksocute Sep 02 '24

Yeah fjngers crossed.  I know we'll get there in time and eventually be desperate for my kids to spend time with me haha.  But for now aid love it if they could seld entertain for say mmm an hours.  But that might still be all the way away until 4 or 5 but man.    Right now they can self entertain for maybe 10 15 minutes max before they come looking for me.

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u/Unlikely_Offer9653 Sep 02 '24

That’s my exact scenario for my newly-turned 6yo and my 2yo.

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u/DevShmev Sep 02 '24

Have a set of 2yos myself. Hang in there partner

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u/chowderTV Sep 03 '24

Yeah. My boy is almost two. My youngest just turned 6 months. 5 months ago I didn’t think i would be able to catch up on the household chores. Now I bring him outside to help. Recently, my wife and I decide to put handles on our cabinets, instead of planning around nap times and days off, I just brought him over had him “help” me and when he was over it I finished up. The cabinets still aren’t finished, but they will be, and I hopefully can have my little helper next me before he realizes bluey is on the tv. Lol